Hello everyone. I'm in my early thirties and I have been dating a girl for the past 15 months. I love her so much and really want to marry her but the problem is that she tells lies a lot and even when she's caught she doesn't become remorseful rather she tries to justify her actions. I have caught her in multiple lies in the past but still decided to give her some time to change but it's not happening. I have even met with her parents to tell them my intention of getting married to their daughter. She also finds it difficult to do house chores or even spend on me no matter how little. I take care of her to the best of my ability and would have engaged her if not for my fear of ending up with someone I can't trust. We had a fight last week and we haven't spoken to each other since then. She called me and was telling me her bestie is getting married next month and I still don't want to pay her bride price. It got me upset because of her tone and I hung up on her and didn't call back neither did she. I'm in a dilemma right now. My head is telling me to leave her for good because it seems telling lies and being selfish is part of her and she can't change while my heart is telling me to go back and keep trying. How do you think I should handle this situation? Thanks!

Twistedadult:
Hello everyone. I'm in my early thirties and I have been dating a girl for the past 15 months. I love her so much and really want to marry her but the problem is that she tells lies a lot and even when she's caught she doesn't become remorseful rather she tries to justify her actions. I have caught her in multiple lies in the past but still decided to give her some time to change but it's not happening. I have even met with her parents to tell them my intention of getting married to their daughter. She also finds it difficult to do house chores or even spend on me no matter how little. I take care of her to the best of my ability and would have engaged her if not for my fear of ending up with someone I can't trust. We had a fight last week and we haven't spoken to each other since then. She called me and was telling me her bestie is getting married next month and I still don't want to pay her bride price. It got me upset because of her tone and I hung up on her and didn't call back neither did she. I'm in a dilemma right now. My head is telling me to leave her for good because it seems telling lies and being selfish is part of her and she can't change while my heart is telling me to go back and keep trying. How do you think I should handle this situation? Thanks!

don't complicate ur life leave her and move on ... you have never experienced the pain of having someone toxic around you

Can you cope with a liar and a selfish person? If you can, proceed with the relationship otherwise, enter reverse and take a U-turn.

It's clearly obvious. She must be in her early 20s

Marriage is for a lifetime ooo..
So think we'll, can u stay with someone who u don't trust.. And lies alottttt and never apologizes..
And also rude..
This is all I gathered from what u said sha, so think am, if u can handle all these, then carry on

Twistedadult:
Hello everyone. I'm in my early thirties and I have been dating a girl for the past 15 months. I love her so much and really want to marry her but the problem is that she tells lies a lot and even when she's caught she doesn't become remorseful rather she tries to justify her actions. I have caught her in multiple lies in the past but still decided to give her some time to change but it's not happening. I have even met with her parents to tell them my intention of getting married to their daughter. She also finds it difficult to do house chores or even spend on me no matter how little. I take care of her to the best of my ability and would have engaged her if not for my fear of ending up with someone I can't trust. We had a fight last week and we haven't spoken to each other since then. She called me and was telling me her bestie is getting married next month and I still don't want to pay her bride price. It got me upset because of her tone and I hung up on her and didn't call back neither did she. I'm in a dilemma right now. My head is telling me to leave her for good because it seems telling lies and being selfish is part of her and she can't change while my heart is telling me to go back and keep trying. How do you think I should handle this situation? Thanks!

I once came across someone similar to her ( though just a crush). She was just like your babe - a habitual liar. Boy, no one needs to tell me to find my square Root.

If you can bear the pain of being told lies for the rest of your life, then the choice is yours.
One thing I know is that pathological liars never change. Your babe may not be entire healthy upstairs...

You see in a relationship you will already know the behaviour and character of your spouse but because you claim to have one stupid love that doesn't exist you fall victim the advice you need is already in your last paragraph bye

Oluromantic:
It's clearly obvious. She must be in her early 20s

She will turn 25 in october

ZINIBANKS:
You see in a relationship you will already know the behaviour and character of your spouse but because you claim to have one stupid love that doesn't exist you fall victim the advice you need is already in your last paragraph bye

I guess you are right. It just hurts ending a relationship that you would love to see work. I'll have to try and move on.

NobleDeSage001:
If you can bear the pain of being told lies for the rest of your life, then the choice is yours.
One thing I know is that pathological liars never change. Your babe may not be entire healthy upstairs...

You are right. I know nobody is perfect but I make a conscious effort to be open to her but she finds it difficult to do the same but getting married to her will cut my life short so i just have to try and move on.

Twistedadult:
[b]Hello everyone. I'm in my early thirties and I have been dating a girl for the past 15 months. I love her so much and really want to marry her but the problem is that she tells lies a lot and even when she's caught she doesn't become remorseful rather she tries to justify her actions. I have caught her in multiple lies in the past but still decided to give her some time to change but it's not happening. I have even met with her parents to tell them my intention of getting married to their daughter. She also finds it difficult to do house chores or even spend on me no matter how little. I take care of her to the best of my ability and would have engaged her if not for my fear of ending up with someone I can't trust. We had a fight last week and we haven't spoken to each other since then. She called me and was telling me her bestie is getting married next month and I still don't want to pay her bride price. It got me upset because of her tone and I hung up on her and didn't call back neither did she. I'm in a dilemma right now. My head is telling me to leave her for good because it seems telling lies and being selfish is part of her and she can't change while my heart is telling me to go back and keep trying. How do you think I should handle this situation? Thanks!

Marry her straightaway okay.......

op, I thought you were referring to my babe. Your babe has same attribute with my babe. she is 25 too. I think most girls within this age don't know what they want.

dom80:
op, I thought you were referring to my babe. Your babe has same attribute with my babe. she is 25 too. I think most girls within this age don't know what they want.

Exactly bro but they claim they know what they want. They are not ready to make sacrifices but they want people to make sacrifices for them.

Twistedadult:
She will turn 25 in october

I knew it

Bro she's not ready yet. She's still in the picky market. Go for a working class lady around 30. I myself can't date an early 20 girl at this level again. They don't understand themselves talkless of understanding someone else in doing what is right.

please my brother, leave dat gal, and focus on gal that comes from middle class economic family.

all those pako gals no get joy at all, they are self centered.

na so one chop my money follow one mad guy, as for me o, na every midnight I dey naked swear for them.

anyway Na distance relationship, akure to Lagos.

It will end in customized tears

Obara zachariah

My man run away from that girl asap before ur story turns to had it been i know(n).cause a lie can lead to so many things. Don't let love blind you oooo

Sirjendon:
please my brother, leave dat gal, and focus on gal that comes from middle class economic family.

all those pako gals no get joy at all, they are self centered.

na so one chop my money follow one mad guy, as for me o, na every midnight I dey naked swear for them.

anyway Na distance relationship, akure to Lagos.

I guess I have no other option. Thanks for your advice and sorry about your ordeal with your ex.

Angelacruz:
It will end in customized tears

Thanka for your input. I appreciate

Solzate:
Obara zachariah

My man run away from that girl asap before ur story turns to had it been i know(n).cause a lie can lead to so many things. Don't let love blind you oooo

Thanks bro. You are actually right. Moving on is never easy but I guess it's the only option right now.

Sirjendon:
please my brother, leave dat gal, and focus on gal that comes from middle class economic family.

all those pako gals no get joy at all, they are self centered.

na so one chop my money follow one mad guy, as for me o, na every midnight I dey naked swear for them.

anyway Na distance relationship, akure to Lagos.

So girls from lower class family no deserve love? Lolz

SweetCunt97:
So girls from lower class family no deserve love? Lolz

I guess most of them have a sense of entitlement and take kindness for weakness

nani212:
I guess most of them have a sense of entitlement and take kindness for weakness

Chai

SweetCunt97:
So girls from lower class family no deserve love? Lolz

They deserve help not love.