Kobicove:



The fact that the guy was foolish enough to use you as his next-of-kin despite not been married to you yet means he wants you in his life.

The major issue here is that it appears you're a very greedy person!

He is not your father and does not owe you any obligation yet!

Zabiboy:


This your moniker just dey make me laugh
What inspired you to use this kind name?
Where did you buy the Weed?

AdesewaAde:
is my asking him to give me money to set up a business is a definition of greediness?

AdesewaAde:
I’m not greedy,but don’t you know spending your man’s money is always more sweeter?

AdesewaAde:

My fiancé and I have been dating for over two years now, when it comes to financial aspects he is transparent,he do carry me along,whenever he is expecting any money he do tell me about it and we will both plan on what he wants to use the money for but the truth is he won’t include me in his budget though he do foot my petty bills (hairmaking and pedicure)at first I don’t see big deal in it cause I’m also working and he has never for once asked how I do spend my salary ,recently I was cleaning the house and I saw his documents,I decided to check everything ,to my greatest surprise he used my name as his next of kin.
To cut my long story short,he called me last week that he got some money and we should plan on it as usual,that was when I told him to help me with some money to add with my savings to set up a business,he stylishly turned the request down ,I repeated again after a week and he did the same thing.
What I don’t understand now is that am I not worth investing on or he is using that to test me?
Please help a sister.

skondo09:


u said u re not greedy, but wat u said here says it all. for the little spending he does, do u even reciprocate by buying him gifts once awhile, or do u think men don't deserve such..
the problem I av with average nigerian ladies is that they think men are their cross carrier and the only thing they can give back is their hairy smelly p*ssy, since u re working, spend for him and see if he won't do more than what he is doing for u..if he eventually finds a gal dt knows how to appreciate him, sooner or later u re a gunner..then u will come back NL saying men are wicked

AdesewaAde:
I’m not greedy,but don’t you know spending your man’s money is always more sweeter?

ImaIma1:
But you said he foots your bills and even used you as his NOK. So why are you contradicting yourself?

drnoel:


Best u arrange urself. He is not mandated to invest in u if he hasn't married u. Start ur business on ur own and let him see how well u are doing then allow him decide if he should invest or not.
His using ur name as next of kin is also not right unless he hopes to secure it future if anything happens to him. That for me is a big step to take before saying "I do". Be careful u don't make a wrong step by seeking much more than he is ready to give then loose out all together

AdesewaAde:
im not contradicting myself,if he can trust me to the level of telling me how he wants to spend money,using me as NOK,why can’t he trust me by investing on me too?

AdesewaAde:
I’m not greedy,but don’t you know spending your man’s money is always more sweeter?

mmadu4:
Another gold digger and leech .I wonder when men will wake up . Imagine using her as a next of Kin and they are not even married yet . This must be baba hand work .cos no guy with him clear eyes will do such. may God us men .

AdesewaAde:
Sorry to say bro,you are not wise
If I get one Baba wey dey do juju for me as you said,do you think I will here seeking for what to do?

bigpicture001:
Yes it's true that the guy has a plan to grow himself financially....

But totally turning down a very nice partners financial request for just once is total selfishness.... If it were the other way round.. Guyz here would have jumped at OP shouting non-supportive gf...

Why do we even date..? Sex..?

If he doesn't think your good enough to be genuinely assisted then I fear the marriage he plans for both of you.. Cuz he will still b selfish!

AdesewaAde:
Waoo
You are actually seeing this issue in the same direction With me,what is the essence of telling me that you are having money whereas you can’t help me out?
I’m working in a private company that the management may decided to retrench the staffs at when due,I’m not saying he should give me the whole money for the business but he should help me to add to my savings so I can begin earlier,I only don’t want to be a liability at the end.

AdesewaAde:

My fiancé and I have been dating for over two years now, when it comes to financial aspects he is transparent,he do carry me along,whenever he is expecting any money he do tell me about it and we will both plan on what he wants to use the money for but the truth is he won’t include me in his budget though he do foot my petty bills (hairmaking and pedicure)at first I don’t see big deal in it cause I’m also working and he has never for once asked how I do spend my salary ,recently I was cleaning the house and I saw his documents,I decided to check everything ,to my greatest surprise he used my name as his next of kin.
To cut my long story short,he called me last week that he got some money and we should plan on it as usual,that was when I told him to help me with some money to add with my savings to set up a business,he stylishly turned the request down ,I repeated again after a week and he did the same thing.
What I don’t understand now is that am I not worth investing on or he is using that to test me?
Please help a sister.

bigpicture001:


I am a very very hard working person with lots of creative ideas, but all those ended as nothing without being able to finance it......

I was stu k with life, just moving back na d forth till my gf surfaced and changed the narrative by courageously financing those ideas... And we are now both better for it!

If he doesn't have wat it is ur asking, it's a different story.. But if he does and doesn't want to help, yes it's his right, but that doesn't show love, trust, partnership and 2gedaness.

He has his life to live though, he mustn't see things the way I see them...

Once again I say tank you GF if your reading this. Am so proud of you

AdesewaAde:
I’m inspired
God bless you bro and God bless your woman too

Ningen:
You don't spend on him yourself.
So why should he spend on you??

Don't be an entitled leech.
It's his money. And you should be okay how he decides to spend it. You are not married to him.

Dalil8:



Question for you;

1. What have you ever done for him financially? Bcuz you earn the same way he does too.

2. Have you ever included him in your own budget?

If you've not, then you don't deserve to spent on. You're lucky he even gives you money for pedicure and used you as his next of kin, you should thank him for that.

AdesewaAde:
I’m not greedy,but don’t you know spending your man’s money is always more sweeter?

AdesewaAde:
I do try my best when it comes to showering him with gifts,and I’m not part of ladies who doesn’t have anything to offer in a relationship,for a young guy to have used his girlfriend as a Next of Kin,you should know I’ve tried for him .

flyingpig:
That man is very foolish for using you as next of kin when he hasn't wedded you.

AdesewaAde:
I do try my best when it comes to showering him with gifts,and I’m not part of ladies who doesn’t have anything to offer in a relationship,for a young guy to have used his girlfriend as a Next of Kin,you should know I’ve tried for him .

AdesewaAde:
im not contradicting myself,if he can trust me to the level of telling me how he wants to spend money,using me as NOK,why can’t he trust me by investing on me too?