MrBrownJay1:


HI, it seems you have created a profile pretending to be the old chi59... why is that?

Why will I want to do that? I deactivated my 7 year old account due to certain reasons some months ago. Created this one few days ago. Do reply my DM

Chii59:

Why will I want to do that? I deactivated my 7 year old account due to certain reasons some months ago. Created this one few days ago. Do reply my DM

very hard to believe but then again, i dont reply DMs, never have, never will... if you have something to tell/ask me, NL is a great place to do so.

MrBrownJay1:



very hard to believe but then again, i dont reply DMs, never have, never will... if you have something to tell/ask me, NL is a great place to do so.

Alright, believe whatever you will. Ciao.

Chii59:
Alright, believe whatever you will. Ciao.

i guess what you had to tell me wasnt that important...

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MrBrownJay1:


i guess what you had to tell me wasnt that important...

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Yawns.

I think a lot of people should read His needs, Her needs.

A very great book for marriage.

The reason a lot of spouses do not change is because the other party is directly/indirectly encouraging their bad behavior.

A man is cheating, you tell the wife to look good, up her prayer game, be better in bed (with protection), be cheerful bla bla and wonder why the average cheating husband would not change.

A wife denies the husband sex and you advise take her out more, date her, do more chores bla bla and wonder why she doesn't change.

An average cheating spouse wants 100% (the 80% you are offering) + (the 20% the lover 'seems' to offer).

When you continue to up that 80%, the cheat is getting the best of both worlds: a wife trying to win him back and a lover trying to displace you/ tickle his fancy.

This is where knowing your leverage comes in.

You withdraw the extras that make up the 80% till that person changes (if you are not inclined to walk out of the marriage).

You don't give a child throwing tantrums more candy nor do you reward the laziest student with accolades else you teach them that to get more candy or accolades, misbehave.

Even God we serve loves everyone (sun and rain shines on everyone) however He has special packages for special people. You will work to retain that special package and when you do wrong, acknowledge and go back to Him.

What should you do for adultery?

First introspection: did you contribute to his adultery? What was the circumstance?

What do you want to do? Second chance? 100th chance? Walk? Cheat back?

Whatever you decide to do, please leave your kids out of it. Don't pour the affection meant for your husband to your kids.... They are designed to be independent and fly out of the nest in due time. Don't pour your life into your kids especially sons and become the third wheel when they get married.

You are to face your husband and you both bring up your kids.

If you cannot face your husband, Biko face yourself.

mariahAngel:


Iya mi, se eyi o wa poju bayi henh? Se emi re le gbe ?

Since they are advising her to pray for a cheating mate?

Elder0001:


My reply depends on the personality of the person I'm replying.
That reply was because of the way that Ybaby behaves on here and the kinda stuff she's always supporting.

So I am the one that makes you not to have sense? I am powerful!!

jornwhite:




D hubby is not here nor the one complaining, askin her to pray is not wrong whether gud or bad its left to God to answer buh your advice is quiet misleading n solely in d hands of sum1 fallible.

can your billionaire hubby see your comment n be proud ..stop reasoning like olosho o tii marry

If i say your mum is reasoning like olosho now you will feel bad.
The husband is the olosho in that story... do you know my hubby how do you know what he will proud of or not?

You want to cheat but you don't want to be cheated on.

Respect yourself this evening or else

Ybaby:


If i say your mum is reasoning like olosho now you will feel bad.
The husband is the olosho in that story... do you know my hubby how do you know what he will proud of or not?

You want to cheat but you don't want to be cheated on.

Respect yourself this evening or else

orelse you will cheat with my dad that is the worst you can do after insulting my mom. i don't mind i want rest 4 my mum sef.

Buh wait o !! how did cheating come into the story because it not anywhere in what op narrated

jornwhite:






orelse you will cheat with my dad that is the worst you can do after insulting my mom. i don't mind i want rest 4 my mum sef.

Buh wait o !! how did cheating come into the story because it not anywhere in what op narrated

Clean your eyes and get off my mention.

Ybaby:


Clean your eyes and get off my mention.

i won't clean my eye n will keep my eye close ... incase you are trying to show me wat ur hubby is tired of.

Janella29:
I really just want to know.

How do you react to a cheating man that will make him even feel bad. Do you shout at him, threaten to divorce or just keep quiet and keep on like nothing is happening.

Men how would your wife respond to your cheating ways that would make you so terribly afraid?

By telling him you know about him cheating, even going as far as showing him the evidence if you have it. Then smiling and continue living your life and behaving as if nothing happened. Continue gisting with him, cooking his meals and being homely.

I swear the guy will run mad with fear and guilt when you behave this way. He will beg you and buy you gifts to beg for your forgiveness and promise never to do it again. Trust me it works. Don't go violent.

Guys will insult me for exposing this secret

jornwhite:






orelse you will cheat with my dad that is the worst you can do after insulting my mom. i don't mind i want rest 4 my mum sef.

Buh wait o !! how did cheating come into the story because it not anywhere in what op narrated

Say what now!?

UDUJ:


By telling him you know about him cheating, even going as far as showing him the evidence if you have it. Then smiling and continue living your life and behaving as if nothing happened. Continue gisting with him, cooking his meals and being homely.

I swear the guy will run mad with fear and guilt when you behave this way. He will beg you and buy you gifts to beg for your forgiveness and promise never to do it again. Trust me it works. Don't go violent.

Guys will insult me for exposing this secret

It'll be like heaping a burning coal on him.

@op, follow this advice

UDUJ:


By telling him you know about him cheating, even going as far as showing him the evidence if you have it. Then smiling and continue living your life and behaving as if nothing happened. Continue gisting with him, cooking his meals and being homely.

I swear the guy will run mad with fear and guilt when you behave this way. He will beg you and buy you gifts to beg for your forgiveness and promise never to do it again. Trust me it works. Don't go violent.

Guys will insult me for exposing this secret

The cheater is always the cheater. Do you wish to live very unhappy and sick life as a woman and your kids having a very sad mother, maybe even sick with STD? Keep living with the the cheater and damaging your own health while the cheater enjoys his life partying.

If you wish a good, decent life, divorce. He will NOT change. He is damaging your life and health and giving a bad example to your kids.

SmartKitty:

The cheater is always the cheater. Do you wish to live very unhappy and sick life as a woman and your kids having a very sad mother, maybe even sick with STD? Keep living with the the cheater and damaging your own health while the cheater enjoys his life partying.

If you wish a good, decent life, divorce. He will NOT change. He is damaging your life and health and giving a bad example to your kids.

Living with him doesn't mean sleeping with him of course.
Of course, he has no right to demand sex from her since he's cheating.
People who cheat are dirty contaminated people.

Anything suggested on this thread will only have an impact if the husband still loves his wife.
If he only manages her, she can stand on her head but no amount of acrobatics will move him.

Ybaby:


So I am the one that makes you not to have sense? I am powerful!!

If you had any iota of sense or shame you wouldn't be spewing the rubbish you've been spewing on this section.

Lazy bumpkin.

Hathor5:
Anything suggested on this thread will only have an impact if the husband still loves his wife.
If he only manages her, she can stand on her head but no amount of acrobatics will move him.

Even if he doesn't love her, there's always that sense of ownership married men feel towards their wives that'll make them care.

Elder0001:


If you had any iota of sense or shame you wouldn't be spewing the rubbish you've been spewing on this section.

Lazy bumpkin.

Let thisw be the last time you call me a bumpkin ..... I am a pumpkin!!!

Ybaby:


Let thisw be the last time you call me a bumpkin ..... I am a pumpkin!!!

Lazy bumpkin.

mariahAngel:


Living with him doesn't mean sleeping with him of course.
Of course, he has no right to demand sex from her since he's cheating.
People who cheat are dirty contaminated people.

I prefer to say, girl, leave him and get a life. Living with the cheater it's depressing, traumatizing and being locked up in a sick marriage. The cheated woman deserves to be loved and respected, not wasting her life watching her husband going with other women. Respect yourself and there will be a real man who will really love and respect you.

baby124:
Use condoms till you have made up your mind to do what you want. Remember you don’t owe a selfish prick your life. He can damage his since his life means nothing, but protect your own life and health fiercely.

If he won’t use condom, run for your life. Too many women have died loving a man that does not love himself not to talk of loving his wife. Too many orphaned and suffering children because of the decisions of a cheat.

A great advice.

Ybaby:


I personally believe in following my man's leadership...

That is I do as he do.

And your hubby has opened up your marriage

So look after your body, dress to kill and get a younger richer version of him and cheat right back....

He should not know you are cheating... your kids need their daddy.

But make sure you get entangled and enjoy your lover.

That way resentment does not build up in you and your kids still have mum and dad intact.

If he has 10 lovers, you have 5. Donot over do it - he is still the leader.

Let him be seeing the smoke but never see the fire that is donot get caught! But he must feel the pain of you dressing up, looking good and going out...knowing your new effort is to impress other men NOT him.

No partner has the monopoly of madness..... this is a good time to check within your friend zone, toasters for who qualifies to rumble in your tumble.

I.e Go and see the pain in Will Smith's face in that entanglement video.... that is how to stop a man from cheating.

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Righteousness89:
My Beloved Sister, Two Wrongs don't make a Right!

If you wanna Make Him feel so Bad , Show Him Extra Ordinary care and Love.

Let Him know that you are aware of what He is doing but Don't React! Show him Love.

His Conscience will Prick him . He will come to Respect you

And what if it is a woman, just checking the double standard