Admin please move this to front page. My elder sister came to my house this evening, we began to gist and tell stories and so one story led to another. She began to tell us the story about her boss's house help that started staying with them since she was eight years old, and now she's nineteen yrs old. My sister's boss is a working class lady . Her boss's husband and her children became so close to the house help that the man can not stay in a day without him mentioning her name first thing in the morning by calling her to come and prepare his tea. The children are so close and fond of her , to the extent that she takes most decisions in the house even when her decisions goes contrary to her Madam's own, the madam has tried serveraly to send her back to her house but her husband refused. To cut the story short, something happened BTW her and her boss's husband that the man slapped her , and she angrily left the house and went back to her father's house. When her boss's husband was informed that she angrily left the house , the man had shoke , the children doesn't sleep any longer at night , they always cry because the want her back to the house. Everyone is calling her on phone to come back including her madam because of her children and husband But she refused. Now I told my sister that her boss failed in her marriage.
For her children to become so close to the house help even her husband is because she didn't show them love and affection they way she should, Boom that was it , my sister became offended and said why should I say such a thing. Infact it has resulted into something very serious, for she now see herself In it because she is also a working class. But I never had her in mind when I said that. Please I want to know if I said something WRONG . Some bitter decisions have been made by her towards me and I have received a call from a family member because of this .THANK YOU.

They are coming

Quite unfortunate, this one is strong for me.... let the gurus take over from here

Your sister is worse than her boss. Apart from being like her boss, she's easily influenced by people's opinions and has issues admitting the truth. These can scatter marriage faster than househelp.

The Man's wife has failed in her roles as the mother of the house.... I advice the Woman to create much time for her family.... And they should learn to move on as a family without the house help to avoid stories that touches....

SirIconR:
The Man's wife has failed in her roles as the mother of the house.... I advice the Woman to create much time for her family.... And they should learn to move on as a family without the house help to avoid stories that touches....

I said the same thing but my sister picked offence.

Oluromantic:
Your sister is worse than her boss. Apart from being like her boss, she's easily influenced by people's opinions and has issues admitting the truth. These can scatter marriage faster than househelp.

dear, I really don't know what to say

You said nothing wrong dear... I would have said the same as well... The woman is def at fault here... she left the care of her family to an house help which I think is very bad.

Mercykayy:
You said nothing wrong dear... I would have said the same as well... The woman is def at fault here... she left the care of her family to an house help which I think is very bad.

Thank you so much, I wanted to know if I am the only one that See's things the way I saw it here. thanks

you call the husband , sit him down and ask him to choose between wifey/family and that househelp.... EOD!!!

MrBrownJay1:
you call the husband , sit him down and ask him to choose between wifey/family and that househelp.... EOD!!!

nobody is choosing anyone, it's just to know the truth

pri4life:
nobody is choosing anyone, it's just to know the truth

what truth...?! that they care more about the househelp than you?! you already know that na! so you can live with that fact OR get rid of the househelp ....choice is yours!

MrBrownJay1:


what truth...?! that they care more about the househelp than you?! you already know that na! so you can live with that fact OR get rid of the househelp ....choice is yours!

thanks, but I am not in the picture here. Please scroll up and read again.

pri4life:
thanks, but I am not in the picture here. Please scroll up and read again.

you, your boss husband, father xmas, "your friend", the "neighbor".... same thing.

Will this make FP ?

You rubbished her way of life... she is angry with you cos she knows you are saying the truth

If a child lived with me for 11 years, mehn she definitely is unofficially adopted. The woman failed to take her for more than a help even after 11 years, while to the kids and the husband she is family.

Wicked househelp, removing people's heart anyhow.

Don't mind me, you did well. Truth is bitter to swallow at times. She ll appreciate your blunt advice in the nearest future

padi94:
You rubbished her way of life... she is angry with you cos she knows you are saying the truth

thank u dear

The house help fit don give the man and his kids some thing chop for them to love her exceptionally. Op you did nothing wrong by the way.

femi4:
Wicked househelp, removing people's heart anyhow.

Don't mind me, you did well. Truth is bitter to swallow at times. She ll appreciate your blunt advice in the nearest future

I pray she does, thank you

Jack005:
The house help fit don give the man and his kids some thing chop for them to love her exceptionally. Op you did nothing wrong by the way.

Thank u dear.

Ur sister sef

illicit:
Ur sister sef

my dear, just received a call from my mum that I should call my sister and apologize to her. Hmmmm

pri4life:
my dear, just received a call from my mum that I should call my sister and apologize to her. Hmmmm

hmmm well that's d usual thing that mum's say.

Adults always need to be apologised to even when the are clearly wrong.

Well, do it.

Next time just keep ur observation to urself

When people talk to me sometimes about their problem or friends problem, I just sigh hmmmm!

MrBrownJay1:


what truth...?! that they care more about the househelp than you?! you already know that na! so you can live with that fact OR get rid of the househelp ....choice is yours!

Hmmm this is the effect of weed. Can't you be sane and reasonable ones in your life. Stop displaying your madness and stupidity publicly.

illicit:


hmmm well that's d usual thing that mum's say.

Adults always need to be apologised to even when the are clearly wrong.

Well, do it.

Next time just keep ur observation to urself

When people talk to me sometimes about their problem or friends problem, I just sigh hmmmm!

she drops her children in my house since covid started, and this morning my mum said she and her husband have made arrangements on where they will be keeping them for now. I am just disappointed in my elder sister's actions

majilore:


Hmmm this is the effect of weed. Can't you be sane and reasonable ones in your life. Stop displaying your madness and stupidity publicly.

I wonder

illicit:


hmmm well that's d usual thing that mum's say.

Adults always need to be apologised to even when the are clearly wrong.

Well, do it.

Next time just keep ur observation to urself

When people talk to me sometimes about their problem or friends problem, I just sigh hmmmm!

The bolded is what I hate to hear, say what? Nobody is immune from wrong doing, stupidly or bad behaviour in respective of age, and you claim the younger one should apologize for wrong of elder.
This is nonsense

pri4life:
Admin please move this to front page. My elder sister came to my house this evening, we began to gist and tell stories and so one story led to another. She began to tell us the story about her boss's house help that started staying with them since she was eight years old, and now she's nineteen yrs old. My sister's boss is a working class lady . Her boss's husband and her children became so close to the house help that the man can not stay in a day without him mentioning her name first thing in the morning by calling her to come and prepare his tea. The children are so close and fond of her , to the extent that she takes most decisions in the house even when her decisions goes contrary to her Madam's own, the madam has tried serveraly to send her back to her house but her husband refused. To cut the story short, something happened BTW her and her boss's husband that the man slapped her , and she angrily left the house and went back to her father's house. When her boss's husband was informed that she angrily left the house , the man had shoke , the children doesn't sleep any longer at night , they always cry because the want her back to the house. Everyone is calling her on phone to come back including her madam because of her children and husband But she refused. Now I told my sister that her boss failed in her marriage.
For her children to become so close to the house help even her husband is because she didn't show them love and affection they way she should, Boom that was it , my sister became offended and said why should I say such a thing. Infact it has resulted into something very serious, for she now see herself In it because she is also a working class. But I never had her in mind when I said that. Please I want to know if I said something WRONG . Some bitter decisions have been made by her towards me and I have received a call from a family member because of this .THANK YOU.

The truth is bitter.. and trust me, u subconsciously hit her real hard with that comment...u spoke well bro.

pri4life:
she drops her children in my house since covid started, and this morning my mum said she and her husband have made arrangements on where they will be keeping them for now. I am just disappointed in my elder sister's actions

Your sister is worst than her boss you narrated above.

If I were you and I don't depend on the sister for anything, I will bone her and forget about her even for many years, until she comes back to her sense. I will never apologize to her even if family beg me. If truly your conscience told you you haven't done anything wrong.

That your sister is evil, veageance. I hate people like that, just because of small things

astonished:


The bolded is what I hate to hear, say what? Nobody is immune from wrong doing, stupidly or bad behaviour in respective of age, and you claim the younger one should apologize for wrong of elder.
This is nonsense

I told my mum over my dead body will I do that. Never apologize for saying the truth