Ok  guys, I’ve got something on my mind that has been bothering me for quite sometime now – Marriage – The Legal relationship between two spouses.

. . . . .My neighbor down the street got married last year . . .This was a guy I used to hang out with amidst a couple of friends, Jokes aside, This gee was good looking and full of life about a year ago, comfortable and NOT surviving at all.  You need to see him now guys . . . looking so haggard and unkempt and worst of all, with a Bank account In the red. . .and you know where it all went to don’t you?
The Reds had a match yesterday so I Grabbed a couple of friends and went to see him an hour earlier, The sitting room was so emtpy, I guess he sold his Home theatre and some coupla other stuffs . . . felt like shedding tears for the poor dude. 

Really, I’ve been wondering, Finances aside, shouldn’t marriage make you “whole”? I mean give you peace of mind and contention??

Is Marriage a Blessing in disguise or a Bane?   . . . Na wa O! 

OP.
I agree with you that marriage is meant for settlement and a medium of building another new life.
According to you friend . .I've also witnessed so many case peculiar to this of yours but it seems the mistake comes from this :
When you are married to the wrong person.   . .Not some1 you are destined to be with!!!

When you don't have plans for your new life instead, you choose to continue on you old  dirty style.

If you you are married to a SUNDANCE

If you are accursed!!

Marriahe to the right one: A BLESSING!
Marriage to the wrong one: A CURSE!!!

Mariage is mearnt to bring blessings to the marrieds
but due to circumstances may be caused by us or by others,
some mariages now hapens to be a turning point for either good or bad.

People should not rush into marriage is not that easy as people think never marry b4 but i hav seen marriages that didnt last up to a month

190
why AK47 you know what ak47 can do

190
As long as you got magic stick marriage or no marriage you are in control

@AK47
is this really what you believe? You must be either very inexperienced with the women folks or very immature.
A good dikc will have absolutely no pulling power after a few months of banging.
Although women love to be sha.gged all the way to the promise land, they much prefer to be called WIVES (bigger org.asm) and they will leave you in a heart beat for a COMFORTABLE dude(not even half as good looking as you, no homo!) willing to marry them . . . . . . . . . Then,these women would have you and your "good dikc" as a side dish. Is being a side dish what you aspire to be in life , son?

mrbrownjayyyy
no offense but you sound like those married men that i see in the club chasing women even when  approaching a girl at the same time trying to pull his wedding ring out from his fat finger no offense why doing all that when you have a beauty queen at home waiting for you to come home,Thats, why they look for a good service "satisfaction"  guaranteed

ak47mann:

mrbrownjayyyy
no offense but you sound like those married men that i see in the club chasing women even when  approaching a girl at the same time trying to pull his wedding ring out from his fat finger no offense why doing all that when you have a beauty queen at home waiting for you to come home,Thats, why they look for a good service "satisfaction"  guaranteed

Bro AK47, so what you are saying is that you rather be the snack?!
Here is a simple clue "wannabe playa": if your dick was THAT good(and you can "control" women, you wouldn't be on NL opening childish threads, advertising and desperately seeking for coochie from faceless zombies SO pls, Get a grip over your young self, this is the internet, MR I have 20 inches cokc but can't get a damn woman. Lol!

Its a curse to those that are not really prepared for that life contract, its quite different from dating, otherwise marriage is a blessing

Really, I’ve been wondering, Finances aside, shouldn’t marriage make you “whole”? I mean give you peace of mind and contention??

Poor financial mangement may make or break a marriage. Even people like Tiger Woods or Michael Jordan with all the money in the world ended up with failed marriages.

Is Marriage a Blessing in disguise or a Bane?

Depends on the circumstance/s.

Bottom line?
Marriage is only one factor to be considered. Emotional stability and good health are the keys to peace of mind and contention. Not marriage. If you were miserable before getting married. . . or you were mentally unstable before getting married. . .marriage would only compound the pre-existing issues.

This was a guy I used to hang out with amidst a couple of friends, Jokes aside, This gee was good looking and full of life about a year ago, comfortable and[b] NOT[/b] surviving at all.  You need to see him now guys . . . looking so haggard and unkempt and worst of all, with a Bank account In the red. . .and you know where it all went to don’t you? 

No. I don't know where it all went, but I can think of a few possibilities.

1. Carrying ashewos all around town.
2. Smoking and drinking.
3. Gambling(playing kalo-kalo or cha-cha)


If he was NOT surviving prior to marriage, then why blame marriage for his woes?
This guy may be 'un-well'.

Sounds like a gambling problem to me. Or alcohol/drug abuse.

i suggest YOU MOVE to a neighbourhood where there are few or NO Nigerians.
The fewer you two have to deal with, the better for you.
Una people, TOO MUCH WAHALA.

depends. Your friend should have remained single because obviously, he doesn't seem matured enough for marriage.
maturity doesn't necessarily correlate with age by the way.

MRbrownJAY:

Marriahe to the right one: A BLESSING!
Marriage to the wrong one: A CURSE!!!

According to you friend . .I've also witnessed so many case peculiar to this of yours but it seems the mistake comes from this :
When you are married to the wrong person.   . .Not some1 you are destined to be with!!!

perfect answers.

ak47mann:

190
As long as you got magic stick marriage or no marriage you are in control

this one as well is obviously not matured enough for marriage.

the Bible says he who finds a wife finds a good ting and obtain favour from the Lord not misfortune. may be the ur friend has made the wrong choice i met my husband without even an okada, he was leaving in one room apartment, but today we are counting our blessings cos we now have cars house of our own in less than five yrs so @ post i don't believe ur theory

You know what they say; When a man in single he is incomplete, when he gets married he is finished.  

IT DEPENDS ON WHOM U A MARRIED TO, IT CAN BE EITHER WAY, U NEED A LOT OF PATIENCE TO HANDLE MARRIAGE INSTITUTION, ITS COMPLEX

Marriage is a blessing in all ramification. if you marry the right person though! your friend's case is a peculiar one i must say. Personally, my husband is more made now than he was when i was not in his life as for the social life, being married should not mean imprisionment. my husband and i go clubbing once in a while but he goes out with his friend very often.

A blessing.

The answer is simple, he might have married to the wrong person. I have experience in this, my marriage is undoubtedly a blessing.

Marriage is an institution that if u are not pschological ready it may backfire, it's a place where u have to learn new things, and what ur mum thought u will be tested, it's a place where patience is a virtue, selflessness, greed, lazyness etc is prohibited, it's a place where Gods presence has to be invited from time to time, becoz of enemies of progress, a marriage that is made in heaven can goes bitter if adequate care is not taken, even a bad marriage can be good if the write thing is done at the right time, the foundation of every marriage is of utmost importance, if a roung peg is put in a square hole, there will be a calamity,in a not shell marriage should be a blessing and not a curse under normal circumstances, in under abnormal circumstances it can be a curse.

If the guy had a hometheatre\appliances and all gone after the marriage-might be to several reasons.

1. due to finacial problem
2. due to high demand of the wife
3. wife unable to operate well got them spoilt one by one


comical:Mariiage supposed to be a blessing doesn't mean your wife has to be named blessing

All the married men I know tells me never to get married, I think I'm gonna follow their advice.

marriage na long tin
For every wedding i attend, i tk a glance @ d bride nd all i see is happiness of @last i don make among d list
for d groom; i dey pity d guy, additional wahala brought home, no more me

If u r nt ready to think abt "us" nt "u" then 4gt marriage 4 now still u'r ready

Ayoobscom:

comical:Mariiage supposed to be a blessing doesn't mean your wife has to be named blessing

Er, is this the part where we burst out laughing amidst rapturous applause?

Blessing

MRbrownJAY:

Marriahe to the right one: A BLESSING!
Marriage to the wrong one: A CURSE!!!

very true