i have a work met who took me out one day, we had a fabulous time i even spent the night at his place till noon the following day. he calls me yes and teases me alot, smiles at anything i say and he promised to keep the r/ship a secret not known at work but the funny thing is we have never had any kind of serious discussion about love i mean he told me he will always be there for me when ever i want to talk to him or need his help. he has told me alot about himself but asked me nothing about my passed. i dont know if he really loves me or we get it wrong. one thing is i know he enjoys talking to me. he looks so much critically at me and makes me even uncomfortable. pls wat do i do here i dont understand this guy

Give him sometime,he may mean his words! Try play along as well! It depends on how you go well with him. Goodluck

your right about that but remember he doesnt ask about my passed and we have never discussed anything about the r/ship is he serious or playing games

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Abbey times have changed, gone are the days when a Lady sits back and watches a guy take his time. Its clear you want to know where this 'thing' is heading to. So if you are not cool with given him time you ask Him a direct question,'where is all this going'. You say he has not asked you about your past, Did you have to ask Him before He told you 'all' about Himself. If No, then why wait for Him to ask you. If Yes then it is clear he doesnt want to know. Trust me some circle of Men feel what you dont know wont kill you, But when You find it oh would it Bite

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May I ask why he wants the r/ship to be a secret? Is it forbidden at your work place?
- not all r/ship are the same and you should figure out if you are a long term prospect or simply a workplace bootay.
- take your time, don't be in a rush, relax. You want to take this "thingy" faster than he really wants to. You may have different plans than he does about it.
- what so special about your past that you want him to know?! Can't you just start talking about it rather than for him to ask? Have YOU asked about his past?