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Wife Vs Baby Mama by Viviana444: 5:07pm On Apr 24, 2011
Hi,

I would like to know what men think when it comes to a man's wife with his kids, and a woman who carried a child for him, "baby mama". I came across a forum where  baby mamas are complaining about them not getting the respect they deserve and  posting, a thread about  "them being equally important as a wife", that there is no difference between a wife and a baby mama. wives and baby mama were just posting to prove their points.

Do you guys also think a baby mama is more important than a wife with no kids.?

any comments would be appreciated,
Re: Wife Vs Baby Mama by Nobody: 5:13pm On Apr 24, 2011
a baby's mama is just that 'a baby's mama'. she is NOT wife therefore not as important,
or at least she shouldn't be as some men now a days fail in the 'get priorities straight' dept.
anyway, the only obligation a man has to a 'baby mama' is the baby.

When it comes to wife that is a totally different ball game. His obligation is to be her provider, protector,
and her other half. He is supposed to be there for and with her to raise the baby(ies) and to act the part of
her husband, for better or for worse.

Baby mama's are not ENTITLED to such affection tho they should be respected being mothers of the baby and
all but they are not WIFE status. Even if the wife does not have children, she comes first, after the 'outside' baby.
Re: Wife Vs Baby Mama by obowunmi(m): 5:25pm On Apr 24, 2011
No responsible man will make the mother of his child a "baby mama" ---- only useless men do. Keep your tomtom in your pants if you don't want a MAD woman to carry your child. Baby mamas are known to be crazy women.
Re: Wife Vs Baby Mama by aminalib(f): 5:39pm On Apr 24, 2011
obowunmi:

No responsible man will make the mother of his child a "baby mama" ---- only useless men do. Keep your tomtom in your pants if you don't want a MAD woman to carry your child. Baby mamas are known to be crazy women.

grin grin grin
Re: Wife Vs Baby Mama by andy1(m): 5:56pm On Apr 24, 2011
WIFE-(for beta for worse), BABY MOMA-(sum silly fling or a 1 nyte stand), u choose.
Re: Wife Vs Baby Mama by iice(f): 4:41am On Apr 25, 2011
Mostly the same, just legalities. Put a ring on the baby mama and presto = wife
Re: Wife Vs Baby Mama by Nekai(f): 7:08am On Apr 25, 2011
Obviously nothing, hence why she is a 'baby mama' to him.
Re: Wife Vs Baby Mama by Ranoscky(m): 7:18am On Apr 25, 2011
"Baby mama" is just a mama to a premarital/out of wedlock kid and NOT a wife so, why treat her as a wife?
Re: Wife Vs Baby Mama by InkedNerd(f): 7:29am On Apr 25, 2011
@OP: Well before we all start throwing around social notions on this topic, let's break down the word first. Yes, in the social aspect a 'baby mama' is woman who has had a child with a man out of wedlock but in terms of the actual word, any woman whether married or not can be a "baby mama" if they have a child--they are the mother of that child, hence the name baby mama. On the social aspect, I wouldn't necessarily say that the wife nor the "baby mama" should have more respect than the other. Both are equally important in what ever the situation or dynamics of the overall relationship is will all parties involved. Because a woman is only just the mother of your child and not your wife doesn't mean you need to treat her with less respect and because a woman is your wife but has no children with you doesn't mean you should her with more or less respect than the woman who mothered your children. Mutual respect and understanding should be given to all individuals within such situations. Whether they like it or not, there is something that binds them all together and that something is a child/children. The actions of the man in the situations is what has created and shaped the dynamics of the whole thing. How these individuals go about handling such relationships is what determines how their lives will pan out.
Re: Wife Vs Baby Mama by sauer(m): 7:54am On Apr 25, 2011
baby mama = wife. Guy involved should just become polygamous. That can solve it!

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