The usual perception of attractive people is beauty without brains. Is this assumption fair enough?

No.

Well, from what I've seen, the more attractive a woman is, the dumber she is.

But from my experiences, the more intelligent a woman is the more she won't SHUT THE HELL UP!! She ain't as intelligent as me but she won't shut the hell up trying to convince me in some way that she is.

nurabela:

The usual perception of attractive people is beauty without brains. Is this assumption fair enough?

nurabela:

The usual perception of attractive people is beauty without brains. Is this assumption fair enough?

Most times, yes. Models are good example.

It all depends. Actually the beautiful ones per say tends to be carried away by their looks, and when that happens the brains EMPTY

@poster
- some women are actually attractive THANKS to their brains.
- some women are attractive UNTIL they open their mouth.
- some men become very silly when talking to beautiful women.

BUT THE IMPORTANT POINT IS THAT: unfortunately, its been known that most men prefer dumber women and, if we look at Nigerian men, they prefer their women/wifey to be uneducated AND unemployed (so they can be more obedient lol).

look around ¨most¨ Nigerian men are scared of a beautiful and intelligent woman and they would rather have a donkey partner instead, so its safe to say that these ¨dumb¨ women are exactly what most men want.

read everywhere how a wife who makes more money than her husband is looked DOWN upon. . . . . . . a bunch of low self esteem men!

I do think it's not their fault. It guys that made them that way.try'na impress them and doing most of their work for them.

MRbrownJAY:

@poster
- some women are actually attractive THANKS to their brains.
- some women are attractive UNTIL they open their mouth.
- some men become very silly when talking to beautiful women.

BUT THE IMPORTANT POINT IS THAT: unfortunately, its been known that most men prefer dumber women and, if we look at Nigerian men, they prefer their women/wifey to be uneducated AND unemployed (so they can be more obedient lol).

look around ¨most¨ Nigerian men are scared of a beautiful and intelligent woman and they would rather have a donkey partner instead, so its safe to say that these ¨dumb¨ women are exactly what most men want.

read everywhere how a wife who makes more money than her husband is looked DOWN upon. . . . . . . a bunch of low self esteem men!

MRbrownJAY Please do not join the ranks of the ignorant generalisers so frequent these days. If two or three people come here and denigrate intelligent women that is not "most" ok?

The Nigerian men I know all want their wives to be educated and successful. Granted they may not want their wives to be richer than them but if it happens they don't make any trouble as long as the wife doesn't loose her head.

@Inked
Today's world has thrown up alot of opportunities for women to succeed and be rich. The playing field may not be totally equal but women everywhere are making a success of their chosen careers and getting rich too.

I love seeing successful women maybe because I was brought up by one. I am not put off by a rich successful woman.

If by any chance my wife becomes richer than me I will celebrate her as her husband. It is not exactly a bad reflection on me if she is in fact I see it as a the man giving his wife the guidance and opportunity to be all she can be. As her husband I will be there for her no matter what.

nurabela:

The usual perception of attractive people is beauty without brains. Is this assumption fair enough?

It's not an issue of fairness or unfairness, it's simply a false cliché. Being 'dull' has nothing to do with how you look.

Nope.

@lord reed
The Nigerian men I know, want their wives out of the village and possibly a gal who has not gone too far in school and obedient whether hubby is right or wrong aka dumb.

Most are scared of an intelligent woman due to the fact that A) she may be more successful than them (god forbid) B) that she may have a say in decisions about their household and C) won't take shiit from their partner.

Yes, a few would prefer to have a successful wife but, unfortunately, the majority would rather have a non successful/employed one for their "peace of mind", that they can control.

If you want to call that ignorance then so be it but these are MY VIEWS nonetheless.

An intelligent/successful woman is a Nigerian man's Kriptonite.

^

I believe that Internet is changing this attitude, in the way you meet new people nowadays.
I personally am more attracted by smart women with LOT of sense of humor. This turn me on. . (well, a nice bottom also turn me on )
The way we were meeting people before was by direct look, in a bar or workplace, or wherever. This means we were naturally more attracted by good looking people.
Now we also have the chance to meet people before seeing them which open a new way to evaluate somebody.

@MRbrownJAY
If your views are based on a myopic sampling then its best you change them and face up to the new reality.

Maybe men in some decades past would have these views you expressed here but I can assure you that you'd be hard pressed to find a Nigerian college graduate who wants a "village" girl. They rather have a woman wo if forward looking and eager to succeed than not.

Lord_Reed:

@MRbrownJAY
If your views are based on a myopic sampling then its best you change them and face up to the new reality.

Maybe men in some decades past would have these views you expressed here but I can assure you that you'd be hard pressed to find a Nigerian college graduate who wants a "village" girl. They rather have a woman wo if forward looking and eager to succeed than not.

read my post again bro, when i finally find a MAJORITY of Nigerians hoping to marry intelligent women then i will holla at you. . . . . . . . . . until then, my views stand that most aint looking for an intelligent women.

shiit, look around and see all these FINE, EDUCATED (and damn sexy) 9ja women abroad. why dont these educated 9ja men go for these rather than going ALL THE WAY HOME to find an ¨innocent¨one?! what is it about these women that scares the hell out of 9ja brothas?!
is it their diploma?! is it their western views? is it the fact that they can stand on their own feet without being dependant of some brotha?

so far, most i know that aint intimidated by the educated 9ja sista are the ones who were born (or grew up) abroad.

what is so SPECIAL about these girl in the village?! do they make better children? better wives? better sex?! pls educate me on the issue professor Reed. lol

@MRbrownJAY
You are wrong because they are not afraid of those women's intelligence or independence rather they afraid of so called "Western Corruption", they'll tell you that those women "don open eye", that the girls back home are relatively less "Westernized" and more "traditional". They are not referring to "village" girls.

^^ yet they want to bring these gals over to jand and not expect these gals to "intelligently" adapt to their surroundings?!

We've all seen how these "village gals" newly arrived are automatically looked down upon when they decide that they want to further their education or when they call thje cops at the first sign of trouble.

So what is it really? If they really want a village gal( and she stays tjhat way) they should keep them there (in village) because any "smart" woman will adapt to their surroundings and become like the zillions of 9ja women already out there.

well that assumption is not fair, in all ramifications

personally i don't fancy women who are empty skulls,
in short i don't fancy a "yes sir" woman, she makes me dull.
i want a woman who can challenge my intellect (even if i know i am gonna beat her to it)

truth be said i am human and as such i can make mistakes, i need a woman who is not afraid to bring my faults to my face
in an intelligent way not by nagging the living day light out of me, because by so doing she would not be any different from my parents.

i see women as companions not as properties to be used the way i like.
so in all fairness to the women of our age and time, they should step up and rise to the challenge,
any man who is afraid of a successful woman is definetly not a man at all,

that is why i said women should stop seeing themselves as dependent, wether on their boyfriends, or husbands, thats why they are being looked down on

i have said my own,

there are different types of attraction. attraction can be spiritual, physical, mental etc. the assumption is fair for physical attraction but not for the others. for example, alot of pornstars are attractive, but they got no brains because all they do is smoke weed and get forked.

@MRbrownJAY
Well what can we say but a classic case of the grass is greener on the other side. Of course a smart woman will adapt but that would be against the original idea of getting someone from back home.

This however is not to say that the women they got from back home are less intelligent or even independent. It just shows that these men want a woman with a different mindset not a less intelligent one.

Lord_Reed:

@MRbrownJAY
Well what can we say but a classic case of the grass is greener on the other side. Of course a smart woman will adapt but that would be against the original idea of getting someone from back home.

This however is not to say that the women they got from back home are less intelligent or even independent. It just shows that these men want a woman with a different mindset not a less intelligent one.

adapting to ones surroundings is the natural process that a SMART person will go through and use the tools at her disposal to better her self/life. Expecting a woman to act/think/live a ¨village¨life in NY (for example) would mean that she is seriously lacking in the brain dept (aka dumb) thus coming back to the point that these guys want a dumb person.

nurabela:

The usual perception of attractive people is beauty without brains. Is this assumption fair enough?

Nah, it's just a saying that was created to make ugly people feel better about themselves, kinda like the 'it's what's inside the that counts', I mean that one is true but people generally don't bother getting to know fugly people in order to see what's inside. Which makes their inside count for zilch really.

MRbrownJAY:

adapting to ones surroundings is the natural process that a SMART person will go through and use the tools at her disposal to better her self/life. Expecting a woman to act/think/live a ¨village¨life in NY (for example) would mean that she is seriously lacking in the brain dept (aka dumb) thus coming back to the point that these guys want a dumb person.

You are missing the point this is not about intelligence, this is about so called "Western Corruption" which they perceive has to do with upbring ie people born and brought up at home have more traditional values than those abroad and will most likely retain those values even if abroad.

Are you claiming that the zillions of 9ja gals who were brought up in 9ja and came to jand for higher education ALL mysteriously lost their family values?!

If that is so then what makes these village gals so special that THEY would retain theirs when faced with life in the west?

Are you claiming that the zillions of girls that travel out of Nigeria or the zillions that remain behind are village girls?

Obviously not all of them will abandon their upbringing in favour of "Western Corruption" but majority of them do. Now For the man who is bringing a girl he married from back home his expectation is that now that they are married his influence as man and head of the home will keep her from becoming "corrupted ".

Bro Reed
My question was very simple: IS THERE NO 9JA WOMEN WITH "FAMILY VALUES" IN THE WEST? Or does all smart women automatically lose their family values?

@190
I am only being honest with you man, lol!