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Advice Needed by ugohdignity111(m): 6:46am On Jun 10, 2021
I currently turned 23 years......

I feel that at this stage of my life, I'm suppose to have a girl who I will call my girlfriend or lover but I don't even feel the urge to make a move or toast a girl. Well, I'm an introvert and a not too shy type of a guy.

All my guys, anytime twice on Fridays always ask me about my girlfriend and I always told them, I don't have, they will be like, that I'm lying to them but that is the plain truth.

Even girls that I have come across do ask me the same thing about my babe and I will just divert the questions to another thing entirely...

At the age 23, sometimes if I see a girl that I like, to walk up to her and talk to her will automatically become a problem to me.

Even to toast girls na wahala for me....

Sometimes I do feel that maybe, I'm not alright or something is wrong with me.....I have missed good girls that I know could have changed my life because of this not speaking up and making my intentions or how I feel about them known to them.

Please, I need suggestions on how to overcome this shyness of a thing ooo....I'm beginning to feel lonely, without a girlfriend especially now that all my friends around me have girlfriends.
Re: Advice Needed by Nobody: 7:31am On Jun 10, 2021
People dey learn how to make money. Na woman you wan learn how to talk to.
Don't worry,it will soon end in tears. tongue

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Re: Advice Needed by Lidocaine: 7:32am On Jun 10, 2021
You are not the only Boss,
Two of my friends are also in the exact same situation
I believe when the right girl comes everything will fall in place.
But try to talk to girls you like
it is only when you practice that you will be perfect.

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Re: Advice Needed by VlamesIffect(f): 7:36am On Jun 10, 2021
At 23years na woman dey worry u....

As you dey bother about that one...just do reality check and make sure you have money or a good source of income.

You're still very young set your priorities right....

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Re: Advice Needed by Nobody: 8:57am On Jun 10, 2021
At 23 you should be more concerned about ur future not puzzy.

You better not make same mistakes I made when I was ur age

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Re: Advice Needed by ugohdignity111(m): 9:34am On Jun 10, 2021
Doja2000:
People dey learn how to make money. Na woman you wan learn how to talk to.
Don't worry,it will soon end in tears. tongue
Lol. Boss, I'm always careful when it comes to woman things Sha......I also learn about how to make money too, just trying to balance the two equations.....
Re: Advice Needed by ugohdignity111(m): 9:35am On Jun 10, 2021
Thanks BOSS

Lidocaine:
You are not the only Boss,

Two of my friends are also in the exact same situation

I believe when the right girl comes everything will fall in place.

But try to talk to girls you like

it is only when you practice that you will be perfect.
Re: Advice Needed by ugohdignity111(m): 9:36am On Jun 10, 2021
Okay sir

VlamesIffect:
At 23years na woman dey worry u....

As you dey bother about that one...just do reality check and make sure you have money or a good source of income.

You're still very young set your priorities right....
Re: Advice Needed by ugohdignity111(m): 9:37am On Jun 10, 2021
Please sir can you kindly share the mistake that you made, so that we young folks can learn from your experience?
SmellySperm:
At 23 you should be more concerned about ur future not puzzy.

You better not make same mistakes I made when I was ur age
Re: Advice Needed by Lilpen3758: 9:46am On Jun 10, 2021
ugohdignity111:
I currently turned 23 years......

I feel that at this stage of my life, I'm suppose to have a girl who I will call my girlfriend or lover but I don't even feel the urge to make a move or toast a girl. Well, I'm an introvert and a not too shy type of a guy.

All my guys, anytime twice on Fridays always ask me about my girlfriend and I always told them, I don't have, they will be like, that I'm lying to them but that is the plain truth.

Even girls that I have come across do ask me the same thing about my babe and I will just divert the questions to another thing entirely...

At the age 23, sometimes if I see a girl that I like, to walk up to her and talk to her will automatically become a problem to me.

Even to toast girls na wahala for me....

Sometimes I do feel that maybe, I'm not alright or something is wrong with me.....I have missed good girls that I know could have changed my life because of this not speaking up and making my intentions or how I feel about them known to them.

Please, I need suggestions on how to overcome this shyness of a thing ooo....I'm beginning to feel lonely, without a girlfriend especially now that all my friends around me have girlfriends.
op go and smoke weed
Bath up
And go shoprite
Makachi if you no come back with 23 girls call me me pastard
Re: Advice Needed by ugohdignity111(m): 10:05am On Jun 10, 2021
Lilpen3758:
op go and smoke weed
Bath up
And go shoprite
Makachi if you no come back with 23 girls call me me pastard
I can't smoke weed bro....do you want me to run mad ni.....

Lol....I don't need ShopRite girls bro, those ones can finish your one yr savings within some seconds.....

I'm still a hustling guy, currently doing one yr compulsory nysc....

I'm a business guy, anything that will bring more money, I will do it apart from ritual though
Re: Advice Needed by Nobody: 10:18am On Jun 10, 2021
Lilpen3758:
op go and smoke weed Bath up And go shoprite Makachi if you no come back with 23 girls call me me pastard
lolzzz...

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Re: Advice Needed by SavageBoy: 10:38am On Jun 10, 2021
What do to need a girl friend for

The only thing worth worrying about here is the kind of friends you're keeping.

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Re: Advice Needed by Lilpen3758: 10:58am On Jun 10, 2021
ugohdignity111:

I can't smoke weed bro....do you want me to run mad ni.....

Lol....I don't need ShopRite girls bro, those ones can finish your one yr savings within some seconds.....

I'm still a hustling guy, currently doing one yr compulsory nysc....

I'm a business guy, anything that will bring more money, I will do it apart from ritual though
so smoking weed dey make person run mad??
You never deh ready to dey Bleep sha

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Re: Advice Needed by ugohdignity111(m): 10:59am On Jun 10, 2021
I don't keep friends like that though maybe because I'm an introvert.....I have friends but we only talk on WhatsApp and phone calls....not a visiting type of dude.....just focus on my own hustle and how I will better my life, but when it comes to girlfriend stuff, bro, I no dey even get the urge to make a move....

SavageBoy:
What do to need a girl friend for

The only thing worth worrying about here is the kind of friends you're keeping.
Re: Advice Needed by ugohdignity111(m): 11:00am On Jun 10, 2021
grin
Lilpen3758:
so smoking weed dey make person run mad??
You never deh ready to dey Bleep sha
Re: Advice Needed by Lilpen3758: 11:02am On Jun 10, 2021
ugohdignity111:
grin
I no go hide anything for you
You were born shy I understand now you have to do what you have never done to get what you have never gotten before
Na life
If you change, everything around you will follow suit
Re: Advice Needed by ugohdignity111(m): 11:07am On Jun 10, 2021
Lilpen3758:
I no go hide anything for you
You were born shy I understand now you have to do what you have never done to get what you have never gotten before
Na life
If you change everything around you will follow suit

I understand bro but smoking weed is a no no for me.

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Re: Advice Needed by OSDD(m): 11:14am On Jun 10, 2021
Oga rest.... Having a girlfriend isn't the most important thing right now, everything Will fall in place......
Re: Advice Needed by OSDD(m): 11:15am On Jun 10, 2021
Lilpen3758:
I no go hide anything for you
You were born shy I understand now you have to do what you have never done to get what you have never gotten before
Na life
If you change everything around you will follow suit

Ajeh you dey motivate me.... Me and the op get similar situation. unlike him, I don't even make any effort

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Re: Advice Needed by Nobody: 11:43am On Jun 10, 2021
Lilpen3758:
I no go hide anything for you
You were born shy I understand now you have to do what you have never done to get what you have never gotten before
Na life
If you change everything around you will follow suit
chai...! You are staightforward. You too much abeg
Re: Advice Needed by Lilpen3758: 12:12pm On Jun 10, 2021
ugohdignity111:


I understand bro but smoking weed is a no no for me.
i no go force you
Since no be konji go kill grin grin
Weed or no weed I dey tell girls my mind straight up
sometimes I dey tell them self say na sex I want straight up
and am even a short guy
na money remain Sha .....

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Re: Advice Needed by Lilpen3758: 12:13pm On Jun 10, 2021
OSDD:


Ajeh you dey motivate me.... Me and the op get similar situation. unlike him, I don't even make any effort
your own na money be your problem I understand
No be say to talk to woman go hard you
Re: Advice Needed by Lilpen3758: 12:15pm On Jun 10, 2021
Doja2000:
chai...! You are staightforward. You too much abeg
na money remain brother Dem no dey too much for toto matter cry cry

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Re: Advice Needed by ugohdignity111(m): 12:37pm On Jun 10, 2021
Lilpen3758:
i no go force you
Since no be konji go kill grin grin
Weed or no weed I dey tell girls my mind straight up
sometimes I dey tell them self say na sex I want straight up
and am even a short guy
na money remain Sha .....

Lol....you na boss oooo

But how will they feel if you tell em straight up that it is sex that you want when they girl is not even olosho
Re: Advice Needed by fati2001(m): 12:41pm On Jun 10, 2021
ugohdignity111:
I currently turned 23 years......

I feel that at this stage of my life, I'm suppose to have a girl who I will call my girlfriend or lover but I don't even feel the urge to make a move or toast a girl. Well, I'm an introvert and a not too shy type of a guy.

All my guys, anytime twice on Fridays always ask me about my girlfriend and I always told them, I don't have, they will be like, that I'm lying to them but that is the plain truth.

Even girls that I have come across do ask me the same thing about my babe and I will just divert the questions to another thing entirely...

At the age 23, sometimes if I see a girl that I like, to walk up to her and talk to her will automatically become a problem to me.

Even to toast girls na wahala for me....

Sometimes I do feel that maybe, I'm not alright or something is wrong with me.....I have missed good girls that I know could have changed my life because of this not speaking up and making my intentions or how I feel about them known to them.

Please, I need suggestions on how to overcome this shyness of a thing ooo....I'm beginning to feel lonely, without a girlfriend especially now that all my friends around me have girlfriends.

everyone wanna be introvert..

WAHALA NO TOO MUCH!!

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Re: Advice Needed by Lilpen3758: 12:56pm On Jun 10, 2021
ugohdignity111:


Lol....you na boss oooo

But how will they feel if you tell em straight up that it is sex that you want when they girl is not even olosho
hahahahaha dey feel wanted by someone
After all we all want someone to want us
Sometimes I no dey even tell them say I want sex
I make moves we fit dey discuss I go slap her ass or press am
But you go don read dey kind girl she be ooh make your face no go swell up in 2 secs
See brother to follow girls na sense
Them teach me too I use to be like you
Sometimes you Don't have to talk to a girl with your mouth
Nothing dey talk pass eyes
Eyes loud pass mouth

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Re: Advice Needed by pansophist(m): 1:15pm On Jun 10, 2021
Refuse to be a victim of "confirmation bias". There are far more people of your age that are not in a relationship, than those that are in one. Because you're seeing people your age in relationships doesn't mean it's the norm, they are exceptions. Even at that, many of them are probably unhappy, patching up and not being themselves trying to keep the girl who most likely see them as a bridge to someone better and a source of livelihood.

Yea this may sound doomy, but I just got to say it the way it is. And being in a relationship should not be your priority this time, but your future. Yea I know, its a boring advice, your hormones are probably raging and you're wondering when you'll handle someone's daughter and practice all the styles you've accumulated from indecent movies, but the way to hell is paved with gold, fun and well cemented.

So what should you do now? Face your future. Men start from the bottom and rise to the top, while for women, it is the opposite. I've been your age, and oh boy, it was hard to deal with girls, even though I am a handsome guy. Because they get so much attention for just being women and doing nothing, competition is so high that decent, good looking guys are left in the dark romantically. I was competing with richer men that can buy her anything than a broke youth like me, so I ranked low at the bottom. You're probably at this stage now, but the good times are ahead of you and you'll only reach there if you improve on yourself, resist temptation and delay gratification.

You see the women you're hoping to be with now, you'll run when they start coming, sex will bore you and you'll just want freedom. Go to marriage counselling events or just search for it on YouTube, you'll see the audience are mostly females, not men. If men are desperate for women at that age, they should be there too. But go to money making events, there you'll see men. You're vulnerable now, I know, but your ability to go through this tough time will determine if you can handle the good time. Last last, you'll be fine.

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Re: Advice Needed by Nobody: 1:57pm On Jun 10, 2021
Lilpen3758:
na money remain brother Dem no dey too much for toto matter cry cry
na true sha. It will be alright bro.

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Re: Advice Needed by Nobody: 2:32pm On Jun 10, 2021
Lilpen3758:
hahahahaha dey feel wanted by someone
After all we all want someone to want us
Sometimes I no dey even tell them say I want sex
I make moves we fit dey discuss I go slap her ass or press am
But you go don read dey kind girl she be ooh make your face no go swell up in 2 secs
See brother to follow girls na sense
Them teach me too I use to be like you
Sometimes you Don't have to talk to a girl with your mouth
Nothing dey talk pass eyes
Eyes loud pass mouth
Jeez..... Bad guy wink
I'll take note of this.
Re: Advice Needed by Lilpen3758: 2:39pm On Jun 10, 2021
Doja2000:
Jeez..... Bad guy wink
I'll take note of this.
you don't have to shey you are waiting for your future virgin wife?

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