@ifeluvely

Just checking, do you put up topics to get people to comment or you put them up to get advice.

aren't you the same chic that put up a topic asking if you could ask your father for brideprice?saying your fiance lost his job so no money, you going for masters and bla bla bla,
so where have you been saving up for your summer wedding?

kai, you are a character!!!

naija-dove:

@ifeluvely

Just checking, do you put up topics to get people to comment or you put them up to get advice.

aren't you the same chic that put up a topic asking if you could ask your father for brideprice?saying your fiance lost his job so no money, you going for masters and bla bla bla,
so where have you been saving up for your summer wedding?

kai, you are a character!!!

Yawa don happen!

The first mistake u made was to get pregnant out of wedlock, thinking u could tie the guy down with that u went contrary to God's command now the did has been done now u r in the middle of nowhere searching for solution losing ur dignity before ur guy and ur parents.I hope the guy in question marries u but u and ur parent shuld not mount pressure on him, do not forget to put evry thing to GOD in prayer to give u the wisdom to handle the situation.God bless.

Anyway,all and long,may God lead u 2ru,Amen! Wishing u good destination in ur life.

OP- you have succeded in trapping the guy , nw you are trying to make it seem as if it was an accident. Do you think everyone is as dumb and clueless as the unfortunate guy, see your mouth like 2yrs planning for kids, 2 yrs planning for marriage , saving for this, saving for that.
bet you realized it was never going to happen and you did the smartest thing- got him to get you pregnant- quickly do your nuptials before the poor dude realizes he has been hoodwinked.

I will ALWAYS suggest that a woman not begin child-bearing until AFTER she

is married. When an unmarried woman has set up housekeeping with a man, supplies his every need and

bears his children it reduces the possibility of that man even making her his wife.

And why would he, she's given him EVERYTHING already!!

^^^Bravo. . . You are very right


Plus if he wants to leave it will be very easy. . .

My goodness, Nairalanders are harsh! sweetie, truth is, you took a big risk here by getting pregnant for the guy before marrying him, especially knowing he was gonna relocate, long-distance relationships are extremely dificult, as you are about to find out. However you say you plan to move back within the year, so my advice is to talk to him and be sure the relationship is a solid one, PLEASE do not marry him merely for the sale of a baby, in my opinion it is better to have a baby out of wedlock than to be trapped in a loveless marriage with a guy who thinks you hoodwinked him into marrying you, and so sleeps with the whole town or otherwise maltreats you!

Whatever you do, please be true to yourself, and do it for the right reasons. You owe it to yourself and the little person inside you.

*merely for the sake of a baby,

tee jay if u have noting to say just don't weest the ink i wonder Na everything den dewy use joke afterall we have joke section Hiss's

WAT IS THIS HINT STORY6 ALL ABT?
THIS MILLS & BONES OR WAEVA?

MAKE I FIRST ASK;
THE TIME U DEY FOLO FOLO RAM,
U CONTACT NAIRA LAND?

THE OCASSIONS U NA DEY CHOP D OKRO,
DEY MASH D BANGA,
U CONTACT US?

WHICH KAN GIST BE DIZ, WEN BOMB BLAST DEY TOWN.
AND JOOE GUDLUCK DEY PROVOKE MOST OF US.

A B E G, STOP AMMM OO

I think you are already a sensible young lady therefore i trust you are going to make the sensible decision.

From your story, you both want this baby, you will be going back with him to Nigeria. My question: did you not trust each other enough to wait a little bit longer before having a baby?

To answer ur question, look at the situation this way: either you get married before the wedding or after the wedding. Let's take your parents out of the picture.

The way it has just happened now, your unborn child is now in between you and your dream wedding, and this is the way it would continue to be. Having children changes everything in your life! How do you know things will still be the same after having the child, by things I mean everything! Since u and your boyfriend did not even trust each other to wait before having the child, how much more when you have the additional responsibility of a new born baby? I am not trying to be insultive but ur story just says "we are all humans and anything can happen". It always pays to do things the proper way, the right way. That is why you can get some consolation when things go wrong, after all, you did the right thing.
That's all I can say, good luck!