Honest responses only please.  I started dating this guy about a few months now, I do like everything about him, except that we do not talk everyday as I am used to in previous courtings or relationships. He has not changed anything because this is how he was when we met and I didnt care then because I was not into him as I am now. I am wondering if I am making a big deal about this? He lives two hours from me but works in the same district as me, so sometimes during the week we meet for lunch and we spend every weekend together, next week we are going to vegas, anways I think maybe i am making a big deal out of nothing. I thought to bring it up but I feel if i bring it up i will just be another chic who is trying to tie someone down, what do you suggest? P.s I also do not call him often because I do not want to give him the satisfaction

op
have u given him Womanliness?
If yes he can't call u everday,
but
if no he should call u everday till u give him Womanliness.

He doesnt v call
bt i think u shld spk everyday

he should call at least once a day if he is really into you.

if he was to call everyday would you not accuse him of suffocating you ? i tire

maybe his phone is pay as you go

Thought it was concluded that long distance thingy wasn't for you.
hmmmmmmmm

M M M:

op
have u given him Womanliness?
If yes he can't call u everday,

Seriously      

jay bee:

Thought it was concluded that long distance thingy wasn't for you.
hmmmmmmmm

slap urself, he lives in my state, 2 hours is not long distance, maybe to u

He don't really have to call everyday. Must he call EVERYDAY?


I hate that lovey dovey love "oh am so into you" shi*t. Calling everyday, saying "I love you" everyday. Thats just bullshi*t. Like that you get sick and bore of the relationship pretty quickly.

aminalib:

slap urself, he lives in my state, 2 hours is not long distance, maybe to u

Like seriously?
It's like living in phoenix and dating someone in vegas or there about.
Anyhoo, if phone communication is important to you then let him understand that. Don't think their is any other alternative workaround.
I personally ain't really into phone convo so i make that known before venturing into any relationship

jay bee:

Like seriously?
It's like living in phoenix and dating someone in vegas or there about.
Anyhoo, if phone communication is important to you then let him understand that. Don't think their is any other alternative workaround.
I personally ain't really into phone convo so i make that known before venturing into any relationship

like seriously , hmm i see ur point

@poster
funny how at the beginning it was all ok for him to cal once in a while but when now that YOU felt for him, you expect him to change simply because you did.
accept that this is how he is and that he probably wont change.

as for the people who says that people should call at least once a day, does email/sms counts?! lol
people should call when they feel like calling. let insecure people on the other side deal with THEIR insecurities.
to each their own.

Personally, i'll advocate you take it easy on the phone thing.

I love my gurl but i told over a million lies why i didnt have to call daily. The truth is, "sometimes i don't just feel like".

In my case, spending 5 bucks everyday on long distance is a "hole in my pocket"

sometimes, Txt msgs, BB ping, FB msg, can be enough for the day.

just my thinking.

^^

If the guy should start doing this you will be the one to start complaining and then oneday say l need my space l dont like you l dont love you

[size=15pt]I usually don't call often.[/size]

In a serious relatinship where both parties dont stay close nor see each other everyother day, there's need for daily communication. In the case of the poster, ur point seems to be that you make efforts to call him, while he fails to reciprocate. If thats the case, then its not a good one. But then, you admitted that is how he's been before u got absolved into him; guess u need to give him time to grow into that.

I don't get these girls and I always get in trouble for this! WHY MUST I CALL EVERY 5 SECONDS? Or see each other EVERY SINGLE DAY. Can I pls have some free time?? Please give me a day or 2 once a week is that so hard to ask

^^some people out there have low self esteem and they need to be reassured with (more than often) meaningless calls. these calls are also to check up on you to make sure that you aint up to no good. . . . . . . . . . . pointless really!

^^You can say that again. I'm involved with a girl who wants me to call her 2-3 times a day and texts me a 1000 times. And if I don't text she says "you don't like me anymore". Biggest headache ever!

Hmm but I noticed a point you made checking up on me. Maybe thats why I do it bro.

iice:

The call issues again.
It's important to have few meaningful conversations than thousand useless conversations.
It will prolly degenerate to facebook status i.e 'i ate beans this morning'.

Buahahahahahahahahahaha.

Somaliland:

^^You can say that again. I'm involved with a girl who wants me to call her 2-3 times a day and texts me a 1000 times. And if I don't text she says "you don't like me anymore". Biggest headache ever!

Hmm but I noticed a point you made checking up on me. Maybe thats why I do it bro.

^^^yeah unfortunately many out there are insecure and therefore becomes like the FBI on your asss.
the best way to deal with this problem is to be clear about NOT doing it, from the get go AND explaining to her that making meaningless call everyday has absolutely nothing to do with love.

its also offensive to me when people send me meaningless sms, making me feel like they were so bored out of their mind that they decided to send ME some bs text.

MRbrownJAY:

^^^yeah unfortunately many out there are insecure and therefore becomes like the FBI on your asss.
the best way to deal with this problem is to be clear about NOT doing it, from the get go AND explaining to her that making meaningless call everyday has absolutely nothing to do with love.

its also offensive to me when people send me meaningless sms, making me feel like they were so bored out of their mind that they decided to send me some BS text.

Oh bro I hate that too, those pointless SMS: "Watcha doing", what the hell do you think I'm doing? What are you 5-0 or something lol. My trick is too always pretend I'm busy and gradually get busier and busier so I only call or text when I'm bored and on my terms cuzz.

PS. Yo bro is that some white chicks azz in your pic? Playa on Playa

Ftsheeeew

Somaliland:

Oh bro I hate that too, those pointless SMS: "Watcha doing", what the hell do you think I'm doing? What are you 5-0 or something lol. My trick is too always pretend I'm busy and gradually get busier and busier so I only call or text when I'm bored and on my terms cuzz.

PS. Yo bro is that some white chicks azz in your pic? Playa on Playa

nat138:

Different strokes for different folks I suppose, He may just not be the type of person that finds calling very easy, not that there is anything wrong with calling everyday but people are different. Does he text you a lot? Do you guys BBM (that is if you have both got blackberries).
I am sure he is making up for not calling in other ways.
But if it bothers you a lot, you can lead the way by calling and he will get your drift or simply talk to him about it.
You can't expect things to always be the same in every relationship you get into, that will just make life boring, don't you think??
Cheers

yes we do text

Somaliland:

PS. Yo bro is that some white chicks azz in your pic? Playa on Playa

nah man, thats some black gal´s bootay. . . . . . . pure Brazilian sistah with a huge afro, lol!!!!

MRbrownJAY:

nah man, thats some black gal´s bootay. . . . . . . pure Brazilian sistah with a huge afro, lol!!!!

Brazilian thats the best azz going today bro 

^^oh yeah!!!!! Brazilian (South American) women are definitely up there at the top of my list, well ahead of my sistas when it comes to beauty with banging bodies!