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Re: Do You Find Intelligence Sexier Than Looks? by placeofallure(f): 5:51am On Aug 28, 2021 |
pansophist: You are correct 100% I fancy great looks in people. I love to look good. I want anybody around me to look good. I keep prodding my husband day in day out on Yes and No things to wear. I can overlook that shortcoming at times. Do you know what I can't forgive? When you are dull upstairs! Oh my! Even as a lady, it's unforgivable. I pride myself, I can hold my own in any conversation. Why would somebody choose mediocrity over substance? Men are mostly culpable. Mi o r'ara gba nonsense, God knows. |
Re: Do You Find Intelligence Sexier Than Looks? by Magnoliaa(f): 6:13am On Aug 28, 2021 |
pansophist: What is "existentially we're equal but in reality, we're not?" Ki ni iyato existence ati reality? It's just a question. |
Re: Do You Find Intelligence Sexier Than Looks? by Nobody: 6:30am On Aug 28, 2021 |
pansophist:You are so right but guys keep deceiving themselves.Remember the nasty Nairalander Zzor and her attitude here but you can't even imagine the numbers of nairalanders in her DM because of her looks and natural perfect body but they will condemn her and do the opposite in her DM.Most guys ain't true to themselves. |
Re: Do You Find Intelligence Sexier Than Looks? by Kondomatic(m): 7:02am On Aug 28, 2021 |
phazotron:This is generally an average Nigerian problem. Guys prefer hot body to hot brain |
Re: Do You Find Intelligence Sexier Than Looks? by newdawn2017(f): 7:17am On Aug 28, 2021 |
Sonnobax15:U urself as a person do u ve good character ? Yes mand looks fades away with age & there changing circumstances of life, but its his good character that will keep people around u. Re u intelligent also emotionally. |
Re: Do You Find Intelligence Sexier Than Looks? by pansophist(m): 7:19am On Aug 28, 2021 |
Magnoliaa: This small girl wants me to be going all philosophical in a romance section. Why now? it will be long small sha. For a start, we shall all die, struggle with finding meaning that sustains us through life, face disappointment, be betrayed, fail at something, be heartbroken, contend with the forces of nature that will destroy us if not tamed, deal with sick family members, feel hopeless sometimes, broken, etc, the list is endless. To a large extent, humans have no control over these things. To be equal existentially means that regardless of your social status, race, gender, and groupings, our struggles are all the same on this level, we are equal. One thousand years back or into the future, these struggles don't change. Every human that has lived, is living, and yet to live will pass through it. This is why the number one rule in the Buddhist religion is that ''life is suffering''. On a physical level, this is where individual merits apply, such as your height, background, looks, talent, sense, athleticism, drive, and the results of the decisions you make in life. On this level, humans are not equal. If we are all equal, there won't be jealousy, envy, and a thing called social status, luxury products, underdeveloped countries. and so forth. There are generations of families that will never know this thing called suffering, and also the one who suffering is the only thing they knew all their life. 15 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Do You Find Intelligence Sexier Than Looks? by Sonnobax15(m): 7:22am On Aug 28, 2021 |
newdawn2017:Should I take this as a polite insult or just ignore it as a rhetorical question?
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Re: Do You Find Intelligence Sexier Than Looks? by pansophist(m): 7:35am On Aug 28, 2021 |
Kondomatic: It is not a Nigerian, but a human problem. Human beings, even the ones that scream beauty at any size, always go for good-looking partners if they can. If you google ''plus size models', check out the rich, famous ones (e;g Tess Holiday) and search for their husbands, you will see clearly that even those that have built their career preaching how people should be loved ''for who they are inside'' go for partners are not as fat as them. Even the Nigerian extra-large actress, check out their husbands, I don't wanna call names If you see a very ugly person with a very ugly partner, if you look well well, you will see that both are too broke to optimize for a beautiful partner. It is not because they don't want, but because they cant. And to avoid time catching up with them, they just grudgingly accept their level and go for what's available. The romance marketplace is cut-throat brutal. Even broke tall men that are fine have it bad, talk more of the not-so-fine, broke, and short ones. When people say they are sapiosexual, they simply mean that they love it when someone they already find attractive happens to be intelligent. Attraction comes before intelligence, not the other way round. You see, when I look at the romance marketplace and its dynamics, I now understand why after God saw what the humans he created are doing, he regret am instantly, then created a special place called hell, to punish those of us that forked up. Our hypocrisy no be for here. 8 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Do You Find Intelligence Sexier Than Looks? by pansophist(m): 7:49am On Aug 28, 2021 |
placeofallure: If one is not dull upstairs, then it presupposes that one should prioritize being fit. There is no single downside to being fit. You will be fine, not sluggish, improves confidence, even okrika will fit you more than a fat ass with gucci, and people will take you more seriously. I see many fat couples taking pre/post wedding pics, and I said to myself, a good personal trainer for at least three months will make you so fine, that if you look at yourself back, you will be proud of how you look. you will be fine on random pictures you are not prepared for. A school of thought I am still demystifying is the notion that ''you can not feel confident when you know that you are romantically invincible''. The idea that you are able to get into relationships anytime you want, with a relatively complementary partner, is healthy to the human brain and makes life joyful to live. Going through the world being romantically invincible as a result of one appearance is a recipe for depression, bitterness and self-defeat. For humans to be psychologically healthy, they must feel attractive. It is a shame for a man to grow old without seeing the beauty and strength of which his body is capable - Socrates. 9 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Do You Find Intelligence Sexier Than Looks? by pansophist(m): 8:01am On Aug 28, 2021 |
Iyaebe: Hypocrisy is the fundamental building brick that characterizes humans. To be hypocritical is to be human, to be human is to be hypocritical. I do not have a problem with humans being hypocrites, I only have a problem with their lack of self-awareness to recognize their hypocrisy. I remember when a single mid 30's lady asked me what is important for men when looking for a woman to marry, and I told her that it is what a woman has inside, her virtues, that are important to men. That a man wants a good woman, peace, submission (not confused with obedience), and how she can be a good helper. She was soooo happy. But I lied by omission, also known as a white lie, I didn't tell her that men also want a good-looking wife also. I mean, I don't want to shatter someone's heart. I will rather do some white lie than make a woman feel hopeless about meeting her prince charming. I recognize my hypocrisy, but even she doesn't recognize hers because she was showing me guys on her WhatsApp that were interested in her, but she doesn't want them because they are not fine enough, and rich enough. She could not forgive her toasters for the same thing she is guilty of, the same thing her toasters already forgave her for. Do you see the hypocrisy? 9 Likes |
Re: Do You Find Intelligence Sexier Than Looks? by placeofallure(f): 8:01am On Aug 28, 2021 |
pansophist: Oh Yes! For humans to be psychologically healthy, they must feel attractive. I just made a post on this unforgettable experience in the university thread in romance section. I was depressed but I dressed my best to heal. Nice one! 1 Like |
Re: Do You Find Intelligence Sexier Than Looks? by Nobody: 8:03am On Aug 28, 2021 |
pansophist:I can't agree less,spot on. |
Re: Do You Find Intelligence Sexier Than Looks? by sirjamesjnr(m): 8:07am On Aug 28, 2021 |
placeofallure:. Please don't put us in one basket. Any man who takes time to develop himself will always look at the content of what he is getting into. That doesn't mean we can't have some fun and entertainment with some slay queen. The only problem we have with Some great minds and Brain is their boring and unromantic moment. 2 Likes |
Re: Do You Find Intelligence Sexier Than Looks? by sirjamesjnr(m): 8:09am On Aug 28, 2021 |
Iyaebe:Great percentage of those guys are only with her for the fun of it. When the chip is down we all know how it will go. |
Re: Do You Find Intelligence Sexier Than Looks? by placeofallure(f): 8:11am On Aug 28, 2021 |
sirjamesjnr: Yes, they could be boring, I agree. Only few ladies can strike a balance between the two. At every slight opportunity I get, I always remind my husband he struck gold when he found me. We're not many. |
Re: Do You Find Intelligence Sexier Than Looks? by sirjamesjnr(m): 8:12am On Aug 28, 2021 |
Kondomatic:. It is the fundamental problem we have in our family. Only a few men go for the best. It saddens me that a man will spend years to upgrade himself but will settle for a crumb. |
Re: Do You Find Intelligence Sexier Than Looks? by Nobody: 8:14am On Aug 28, 2021 |
sirjamesjnr:You are not so right about this,some wanted her to calm down because they wanted something very serious with her.Men are easily carried away by beauty and endowment and will tolerate a lot of bad habits from a beautiful woman but will not condone such from a not so beautiful woman as pansophist has rightly put it. 1 Like |
Re: Do You Find Intelligence Sexier Than Looks? by sirjamesjnr(m): 8:19am On Aug 28, 2021 |
pansophist:To an extend it depend on the individual. I have witness guys and I am also one of them.. years back when things were not rosy, I turn to mess around with women, and being around guys that love beauty queens we go for the look. I can tell you when a determined dude makes some cash he tends to focus and look for a lady that has what it take to be with him. |
Re: Do You Find Intelligence Sexier Than Looks? by Polynek(m): 8:26am On Aug 28, 2021 |
pansophist:Dix 1 got my attention 3 Likes |
Re: Do You Find Intelligence Sexier Than Looks? by sirjamesjnr(m): 8:27am On Aug 28, 2021 |
Iyaebe:. It depends on the man my dear. let me use myself as a case study.. I have walked out of a lady who has a contract project with MTN simply because she insulted her manager for coming late, looking down on her domestics staff but madly in love with me. I also witness someone I have so much respect for rejecting a political position because the girl that will make that happen, wants marriage though she is beautiful but with a bad character. What am I saying, ending up with a partner you can't reason with is the worst mistake you will spend years correcting. God help you, you didn't end up in marriage. |
Re: Do You Find Intelligence Sexier Than Looks? by Nobody: 8:32am On Aug 28, 2021 |
sirjamesjnr:Well you are right,it strictly depends on what a guy wants because some people actually prefer their peace of mind.Anyways some people actually put up some habits here for attention, their personality may be totally different offline. |
Re: Do You Find Intelligence Sexier Than Looks? by sirjamesjnr(m): 8:43am On Aug 28, 2021 |
Iyaebe:I used to believe three things shape a man or a family...Books you read, people you mingle with, and the environment you live but as a grown-ass man, I discovered that who you fall in love with will go a long way to shape what you become. Do you know one of the reasons men to an extend women achieve excellence in their chosen field do so to impress their significant order? One time I have exams I needed to take, I wasn't prepared but I told myself Drfunmi will be disappointed if i throw all that money away then I come home with nothing. I burn the midnight candle. I wasn't doing it for her but then I didn't want her to nag. Being with a loved one who has some level of IQ can help alot. No wonder the Holy book says iron sharpens iron. |
Re: Do You Find Intelligence Sexier Than Looks? by sirjamesjnr(m): 8:46am On Aug 28, 2021 |
placeofallure:. Yeah, I get it. Trust me, every second he has to keep up with his game. It is not easy to settle down with your kind. |
Re: Do You Find Intelligence Sexier Than Looks? by Nobody: 8:47am On Aug 28, 2021 |
sirjamesjnr:You are right and you will get things rightly done when you are with the right person, they serve as motivation and a push towards been a better version of yourself. 2 Likes |
Re: Do You Find Intelligence Sexier Than Looks? by sirjamesjnr(m): 8:47am On Aug 28, 2021 |
pansophist:I enjoyed your write-up. 1 Like |
Re: Do You Find Intelligence Sexier Than Looks? by sirjamesjnr(m): 8:58am On Aug 28, 2021 |
Iyaebe:Thanks for contributing to the thread, kinda breathe of fresh air from bashing one another and some senseless keyboard fight. |
Re: Do You Find Intelligence Sexier Than Looks? by Nobody: 8:59am On Aug 28, 2021 |
sirjamesjnr:My pleasure dear,keep been a good man that you are. |
Re: Do You Find Intelligence Sexier Than Looks? by fattprince(m): 9:03am On Aug 28, 2021 |
pansophist:Pansophist, Do you believe in hell? Or you believe it's just as abstract where we are rewarded for our undoings before death, or are you just being outright sarcastic since you used us and fork up? 2 Likes |
Re: Do You Find Intelligence Sexier Than Looks? by pansophist(m): 9:06am On Aug 28, 2021 |
fattprince: Sarcasm my friend. But the hell I believe in is the hell of living in agony, as a result of our bad decisions, or life unfortunate circumstances. Imagine impregnating three different women, jobless and have to pay child support, and addicted to drugs, and from a broken home at the same time. Only one person. Thats hell. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Do You Find Intelligence Sexier Than Looks? by Nobody: 9:44am On Aug 28, 2021 |
pansophist:Are you a Jehovah witness or an atheist? |
Re: Do You Find Intelligence Sexier Than Looks? by pansophist(m): 9:47am On Aug 28, 2021 |
Iyaebe: None of the above. Sometimes I believe, sometimes I don't believe. So you can say that I'm confused. 1 Like |
Re: Do You Find Intelligence Sexier Than Looks? by Nobody: 9:51am On Aug 28, 2021 |
pansophist:lol you chose to be confused anyways as there are evidence around you to help your confused state. |
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