Citygal:
He marrying her doesn’t mean he would have to shoulder their responsibilities and there has to be an agreement to that.

He probably doesn’t love for real.

pansophist:
For me, it is not about material (financial) brokenness but the mental one. Poor people have a predatory mindset developed over a sustained period of scarcity. Any sign of abundance (e.g, rich boyfriend) is seen as a fleeting resource to exploit, ransack and parasite from. Their personal responsibility will be projected to the other party and made to feel guilty if he refuses to accept such conditions in a relationship. Their family problem becomes yours to carry with pressure coming from different angles like sharp bullet forcing you to comply.

Poor people usually do not understand the concept of a mutual relationship, its all about what they will benefit only. Ultimately, the difference between the rich and the poor is their mindset. A rich person going for a broke woman is like throwing foods to hungry fish, you will be devoured. While the smart one realizes to leave poor people alone and let them date each other, seems they understand themselves better. Different mindset.

RightToReject:
Prosperity doesn't automatically follow the rule of all these too clever by half permutations. His life, and that of the lady's siblings, might equally change for good if he had married her - assuming that she possessed all of the other realistic things he needed in a companion. It's only people who haven't been at the forefront in the pursuit of real advancement or haven't seen people's economic fortunes turn from good to bad, and vice versa, that would always fail to see money and status beyond what they're.

Yves4real:
That may be one of the "don't" in his pre-marriage checklist. His choice and I respect it. But the separation should be on a mutual agreement.
Imagine dude looking for a job in the nearest future and one of the lady's siblings is the CEO of the company. Everyone that applauded the man for his decision now will come out to preach forgiveness.
Future events could come as a surprise no matter how much you prepare for it.
In general, be careful of the way you slam/walk out of the door opened for you by others because you may need to pass through that door tomorrow.

Citygal:
He marrying her doesn’t mean he would have to shoulder their responsibilities and there has to be an agreement to that.

He probably doesn’t love for real.

Vickyvice:
one bottle of beer for your analysis

RightToReject:



Direct your mention to small-minded people like you because my submission isn't for small-minded people. Now, scram.

uthlaw:
na rubish you de talk!

okine4real:
This Morning my wife lamented that if she new, na two children she for stop. My Children go scatter house as you dey arrange am finish. Feeding them na die.. Sometimes i wonder if na suffer i come suffer for this life. Four children na die for Buhari ohh. My wife is even complaining, na me dey work ohh. Na me dey spend the money, so if person when nor be she dey work the money dey complain, then imagine me when come dey work the money. Any man when ready to hear, make him hear, in marriage a time comes when the pussy go tire you, even prick go tire the woman, what matters first is the money.....Money maketh marriage. imagine say, people dey send there children go school of 150k per term, and during Holidays, you send them to UK for chilling, but when you nor get money, na vex you go just dey vex, you go see as your wife FINE, but she go just dey irritate you because she be empty barrel. Alots of men are suffering inside marriage ohh, na you go pay rent, pay school fee, build house.... The truth is guys should stop dating the avail girls, the avail girls are not doing anything, they cant add nothing to your life, dey only have in-between there legs to offer. Date girls and marry girls that are not avail. Date girls that are working, or learning trade, even if she ugly marry her like that, you cant use because of your wife is fine, then you nor go pay children school fees. girls that are working would give you less stress in marriage because they can contribute. Date and marry girls that there parents had train them very well, not the once roaming the street and looking for whom to carry all there problems.

friendl:
That one no be excuse ,he no wan marry her before ,... everything depends on the lady ,

Citygal:
He marrying her doesn’t mean he would have to shoulder their responsibilities and there has to be an agreement to that.

He probably doesn’t love for real.

RealSolution001:
What do you think? Right or wrong?

Uncle Charles 110 @AkwanCharles wrote: "My uncle refused to marry a lady because she has a lot of siblings with no dad and their income level wasn't that great. Sometimes love is not enough. He was just scared of savoring too many responsibilities and I agree with his decision."

Vinnie2000:




It's from our Terrible African Tradition/Culture..
A Pastor in my area said' As a Man, you should be sending your Mother-in-law something every Month Ending'..

I just SMH..
Right But also Ridiculous/Unbelievable..
African Men are Trying oo!!

RightToReject:
Prosperity doesn't automatically follow the rule of all these too clever by half permutations. His life, and that of the lady's siblings, might equally change for good if he had married her - assuming that she possessed all of the other realistic things he needed in a companion. It's only people who haven't been at the forefront in the pursuit of real advancement or haven't seen people's economic fortunes turn from good to bad, and vice versa, that would always fail to see money and status beyond what they're.

Citygal:
He marrying her doesn’t mean he would have to shoulder their responsibilities and there has to be an agreement to that.

He probably doesn’t love for real.

Yves4real:
That may be one of the "don't" in his pre-marriage checklist. His choice and I respect it. But the separation should be on a mutual agreement.
Imagine dude looking for a job in the nearest future and one of the lady's siblings is the CEO of the company. Everyone that applauded the man for his decision now will come out to preach forgiveness.
Future events could come as a surprise no matter how much you prepare for it.
In general, be careful of the way you slam/walk out of the door opened for you by others because you may need to pass through that door tomorrow.

MufasaLion:


What would you have him do?

And please, people with your mentality should stop using God to manipulate people into making foolish decision. God is not stupid! Even Jesus wouldn't have gone into a marriage like that.

You expect couples to marry with hope of a miracle? Lol

Is that how it works? Joker!

pocohantas:
Nothing wrong in what the uncle did. It is just like marrying a first son with many younger siblings in the university. His father is diabetic and the mum has arthritis, so they need routine drugs. His two sisters that married ended up with broke men and would sometimes call for school fees.

Except you are ready to be their family enemy, [b]any sane lady should japa [/b]when she sees this setup.

BinamRex:
This is the opposite of what I'd do. I wouldn't ditch a lady because she is from a poor family and she has too many siblings. My business would always need an extra hand. I'll employ them in my businesses but they wont deal with money, just work work work work.

I won't give them free money. They must learn that there is dignity in labour.

Raalsalghul:


I don't know if you're looking for cheap likes but please stop stating the obvious. Ladies have been japaing from broke guys since time immemorial.

If this is supposed to be your own version of sarcasm, then it's not working in this context.

Come up with something else please.

Citygal:
He marrying her doesn’t mean he would have to shoulder their responsibilities and there has to be an agreement to that.

He probably doesn’t love for real.

TWLifestyle:
why do you people delude yourselves like this ? Majority of Nigerian families are two income households - but you people keep perpetuating this ridiculous lie that only men fend for the household
Did your mother not contribute anything in the household when you were growing up? You ppl can tell disgusting lies sha.

pocohantas:


It is only online that poor Nigerian men are not getting women. In reality, the poor are marrying themselves and having more kids than they can cater for. Thereby recycling poverty.

You are the one to come up with something else.

pocohantas:
[s]Nothing wrong in what the uncle did. It is just like marrying a first son with many younger siblings in the university. His father is diabetic and the mum has arthritis, so they need routine drugs. His two sisters that married ended up with broke men and would sometimes call for school fees.

Except you are ready to be their family enemy, any sane lady should japa when she sees this setup[/s].

Yves4real:
That may be one of the "don't" in his pre-marriage checklist. His choice and I respect it. But the separation should be on a mutual agreement.
Imagine dude looking for a job in the nearest future and one of the lady's siblings is the CEO of the company. Everyone that applauded the man for his decision now will come out to preach forgiveness.
Future events could come as a surprise no matter how much you prepare for it.
In general, be careful of the way you slam/walk out of the door opened for you by others because you may need to pass through that door tomorrow.