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Re: We Quarrel Because Of Sex by udemzyudex(m): 12:20pm On Sep 10, 2021 |
shawante: Bear with her? Easier said than done, you think he hasn't bear with her enough before posting it here,a pastor for that matter. Of course nobody is perfect but that doesn't mean we shouldn't work towards getting the best part of us. This is one of the reason i go against no sex before marriage, those biblical sh1tting talks about premarital sex is bullshit because at the end you will be the only one to carry your cross, you will be the only one to bear the pains. Knowing your partner sexual prowess should be one of the things to be considered before marrying him/her because lack of sex have destroyed a lot of marriage, some live as siblings now in their house. 1 Like |
Re: We Quarrel Because Of Sex by Nobody: 12:23pm On Sep 10, 2021 |
suffering: Nothing can change the inevitable 1 Like |
Re: We Quarrel Because Of Sex by Kobojunkiee: 12:23pm On Sep 10, 2021 |
eddynaira125:female Circumcision, albeit horrible, does not take away sexual urge, which is mostly chemical by the way. What it does is mutilate her vaginal parts. A woman has several exotic zones on her body that mutilating just the one does not render her sexually handicapped. |
Re: We Quarrel Because Of Sex by Kobojunkiee: 12:24pm On Sep 10, 2021 |
Fiscus105:That na the Koko of my point be that. |
Re: We Quarrel Because Of Sex by Kobojunkiee: 12:26pm On Sep 10, 2021 |
Juicy001:Enjoying each other no be only for Bed, abi! 2 Likes |
Re: We Quarrel Because Of Sex by Kobojunkiee: 12:29pm On Sep 10, 2021 |
GalaticHorde:Yes, study her and go with her pace for as long as it will take to help both of your catch up in your marriage. 1 Like |
Re: We Quarrel Because Of Sex by Mydazz(m): 12:31pm On Sep 10, 2021 |
MrBrownJay1: Pastor and virgin wife no go that area before marriage oh |
Re: We Quarrel Because Of Sex by Nobody: 12:32pm On Sep 10, 2021 |
pimpchi: No fear my guy lollll |
Re: We Quarrel Because Of Sex by neonly: 12:33pm On Sep 10, 2021 |
Gobdddd: Pls don't listen to all dis guys I know they don't have an idea of what u taking abt belief me A friend told dat if it get to a particular time in life when u train yur child to be academically OK a wife wants that husband dead so dat she can benefits from d children silly has it sound but dat what is actually playing out in marriage dis days Sex make a relationship bound stronger even when u getting old so for yur wife to be showing u dis attitude is a red flank Have been married for 18yrs and I can tell u I have my own share of it then until I found a solution(smally) Medically sexless life can cause a lot of problem for a man I can go on but space won't allow me In yur case it difficult because u bi pastor and u can't have extra marital affairs Honestly sometimes I wish I was not married at all Just keep consoling her and manage was she offer u whether Na for her to just open leg and allow y satisfy yurself Best of luck |
Re: We Quarrel Because Of Sex by Richy4(m): 12:37pm On Sep 10, 2021 |
Kobojunkiee: You are very funny and endearing in your ignorance...There's nothing wrong with someone with no sex drive? Anyways, this might interest you..https://www.mentalhelp.net/advice/no-sex-drive-ever/ |
Re: We Quarrel Because Of Sex by Blackdisciple(m): 12:37pm On Sep 10, 2021 |
Hmmmm.... |
Re: We Quarrel Because Of Sex by Mydazz(m): 12:37pm On Sep 10, 2021 |
I wish Oga Pastor's wife can come and say her part of the story in all these,..... things are not adding up. I am sure your wife is not frigid, you probably didn't allow her discover herself sexually, since you are here one and only experience. Age is also a factor you refused to mention which is important. Apart from sex do you have other ways of having fun,..... abi na work, work work, konji, and Knack? 2 Likes |
Re: We Quarrel Because Of Sex by benqo01(m): 12:41pm On Sep 10, 2021 |
Some women shouldnt let their husband start thinking otherwise,since you have sit her down to talk is enough reason for her to let you know what the issue is. And why she is suddenly avoiding sex that way both of you can find solution to the issue. That's my take on this |
Re: We Quarrel Because Of Sex by benqo01(m): 12:44pm On Sep 10, 2021 |
Evaloyal2J: Don't talk that way,if you re in the same situation u wouldn't be talking like this yes let's get that straight. Atleast she can state what the issue is to the husband and both of them can work towards it. Try to always create a balance |
Re: We Quarrel Because Of Sex by Kobojunkiee: 12:44pm On Sep 10, 2021 |
pooozeee:That's a myth! |
Re: We Quarrel Because Of Sex by Kobojunkiee: 12:48pm On Sep 10, 2021 |
anyilalaz:He is a married man and wants to, I hope stay faithful to his marriage contract as well. According to his story, he wanted and welcomed this marriage and the 4 kids as well, so the stress that is the kids ought to to shared by him as well. 1 Like |
Re: We Quarrel Because Of Sex by Kobojunkiee: 12:51pm On Sep 10, 2021 |
Lollittaa:So you are asking him to resort essentially drug her in order to get his rocks off and be sexually satisfied? And what if it turns out she really is simply a person who is not enthused by sex, and the drug has a negative effect on her then, will you take responsibility for that? |
Re: We Quarrel Because Of Sex by Kobojunkiee: 12:57pm On Sep 10, 2021 |
Fantazy:Again, I keep hammering this. Not everyone out there loves sex no matter how much experience you give them of it. 1 Like |
Re: We Quarrel Because Of Sex by Kobojunkiee: 1:00pm On Sep 10, 2021 |
xamuel17:The word "enhance" suggests something should already be there first to be enhanced. The man tell you say the woman no dey enthused at all about sex so wetin you want make him "enhance"? You want him to drug the woman for his pleasure and if she experiences a heart attack in the process, are you going to take responsibility for that? |
Re: We Quarrel Because Of Sex by Nobody: 1:03pm On Sep 10, 2021 |
cooooooks:I'm aware. Even a ton of Christian articles will not advise couples to fornicate without first getting married. And how about you guys that don't believe in all these "nonsense"? Why do we keep seeing people going back to their exes, even on their wedding days, for a quick roll in the hay? Shouldn't people settle for whom they're compatible with sexually? Moreso for those who make it a law to eat the forbidden fruit before letting their heart go too far? 2 Likes |
Re: We Quarrel Because Of Sex by Kobojunkiee: 1:04pm On Sep 10, 2021 |
aluyapreston:1. Who said anything about God hating sex? He created it didn't He? He also created those who love sex and those who don't care for sex at all. So your point is what exactly? 2. Learn to read comments with your head screwed on well so you can see past your personal delusions. The OP quarreled with his wife over her not being enthused about sex as if to suggest she is the problem. Did you bother carefully reading the OP before reading my response to him? |
Re: We Quarrel Because Of Sex by Kayyus09(m): 1:05pm On Sep 10, 2021 |
Someone who keeps herself till marriage, think about that. She gives you sex for you to be satisfied, be satisfied Sir. And let me add, there's a way you can make her get satisfied as well. If you can make her reach her climax and as well release before you penetrate, there's chances she'll develop some interest. Above all, don't join the set of people that overrate sex. |
Re: We Quarrel Because Of Sex by lynx200(m): 1:06pm On Sep 10, 2021 |
The way the church has treated sexuality has caused lots of problems. Courtship should be a point where you get to know each other properly. That could includes what each of you love in sex and your feelings about it. Unfortunately, many go mute on this area, expecting a miracle to occur after they say 'I do'. That's when you discover that the guy is impotent or the lady can't give birth. There is also a category of people who don't have any feeling whatsoever for sex. They are known as asexuals. It's more prevalent in women than men. Maybe that's what the wife is going through. At least, she doesn't refuse hubby's advances but she doesn't give a damn about the sex either. Go and see a sex therapist, that's the best advice you can follow now. For those intending to get married, get to know your partner's sexual likes and dislikes. Stop the holier than thou attitude on sex. And yes, sex is food! |
Re: We Quarrel Because Of Sex by Polynek(m): 1:10pm On Sep 10, 2021 |
HellVictorinho:You don carry street language enter d thread many pple won't understand ur slang oo |
Re: We Quarrel Because Of Sex by Kobojunkiee: 1:12pm On Sep 10, 2021 |
moneyissweet:And this is why many of you continue to be made fools of by women who are only after what you have. You fall too hard for the meaningless, and then after marriage, when the truth is revealed, you complain. Sex is great to have in marriage but it is not all there is to marriage. |
Re: We Quarrel Because Of Sex by greatlee(m): 1:14pm On Sep 10, 2021 |
I think the pastor watches too much porn. You probably want her to scream and moan as you see in porn, or you want her to be weird and crazy like a street babe. Oga, leave madam alone, she has 4 kids and probably thinking of their well being and how to take care of them. You're even lucky she still opens the gate for you without hesitation. Give her a fixed deposit certificate of 10M each for the 4 kids and watch her perform karate on the bed for you. 1 Like |
Re: We Quarrel Because Of Sex by Ofiadiegwu: 1:16pm On Sep 10, 2021 |
Gobdddd: Here is the solution. Make her happy. Very very happy and regularly too. She will eventually reciprocate by giving you what you desire in a special way. That way, you two will be getting somewhere. She's not a wood, neither are you. It's a process, do what you know she likes. Give her things that soften her heart towards you. Go extra mile in pleasing her, she will reciprocate the gesture, but this is not a days job. Remember, two of you have got your entire life to stay together, so, with time, she will begin desiring you and you will have her the satisfactory way... Few words're enough for the wise. |
Re: We Quarrel Because Of Sex by ramatintin(m): 1:20pm On Sep 10, 2021 |
Oga buy Spanish fly put for chivita for her and see wonders. |
Re: We Quarrel Because Of Sex by Kobojunkiee: 1:23pm On Sep 10, 2021 |
Richy4:Even the link you include does not suggest there is anything wrong with it provided it is not psychological in nature. Here's a better link for you Q: Is it normal to have no interest in sex? Is it different for everyone? I’m just never interested in having sex and I don’t really enjoy it when I do have it. How can I increase my libido or make it more pleasurable?Read up on it. You might learn a thing or two about people out there who are not you. |
Re: We Quarrel Because Of Sex by Kobojunkiee: 1:26pm On Sep 10, 2021 |
Mydazz:I don't believe she is frigid either and yes, he never did mention age or even the age gap between the two. |
Re: We Quarrel Because Of Sex by aluyapreston: 1:28pm On Sep 10, 2021 |
Kobojunkiee: go through your different response to the OP comments and see who has gots comprehension problem. and yes, the wife has a problem. she has no right to marry if she cant have sex. Sex is a very critical part of marriage, in fact so critical according to the bible, that a person could get married for just it alone 1 cor. 7:9 |
Re: We Quarrel Because Of Sex by aluyapreston: 1:30pm On Sep 10, 2021 |
Kobojunkiee: Again big problem. He said she is frigid, you said she is not. are you mad? you talk about age? Didnt she know this before getting married? if the above are the issues, then she still is the one at fault except she married at gunpoint. 9 years of Log lying kind of sex. i would rather not marry 1 Like |
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