Mr, Cork:

bro can you repeat the question? 

BABE!:

What's all this now?-- you wanted to give a heart attack on top my name. I thought another groupie created a topic about me. --pls next time----

ogugua88:

Chinedu, you and your inquiries lol. I will give you my answers and my reasons for not wanting to be called such.

1.) Sometimes I meet guys, and they're giving me nicknames that day. Highly annoying. I think babe, sweetheart, sweetie, etc., are terms of endearment and should be used for that special someone rather than a stranger one has just met.
2.) Sometimes guys use those nicknames for me thinking I'm that special someone when I'm not, or they use the nickname thinking it will woo me. It will not. If anything I find it disrespectful. A guy can't be too interested in me if he isn't willing to learn about me and my flaws before calling me "baby".
3.) In some ways, not wanting someone to call me a nickname is a way of me specifying the relationship between us. If we're friends, I prefer it if he calls me by my name. I even prefer it when a boyfriend calls me by my name, but I won't enforce that with a boyfriend. Not at all.
4.) If I'm cutting off a relationship, I will say that's what I'm doing. I won't tell him to stop calling me such names as a means of ending it.

Now that all that's been said, I hardly ever tell someone not to call me those names lol. I do get highly annoyed by it and would prefer it if people used the names my parents gave me. However, I don't tell them to stop unless that person has made me angry. I think guys who call girls "babe" and those other names think it's part of their "swag" lol, so I let them be. I don't throw sand into anyone's garri. The people that call me those names hardly get my time of day though, except for one person, and that's because we have history between us.

chinedumo:
to be positive is good

do u think that someone who finds u attractive
of all the women in this world
wants u as his one and only
is doing wrong if he occasionally refers to u as a babe?

2buff:

^^ Who dash you groupie?

chinedumo:

u obviously love the name babe

will u on any occasion prefer not to be called that name?

I've been attempting to change my username to LONDON or GUCCI. I don't  love the name BABE. It's just aight. I call anyone babe too (male or female). I don't mind it sha.

chinedumo:

Am in need of an explanation to this phenomenon 

This is not a case where a girl dislikes a certain name being used on her or for her
she still accepts the same name from others!

but from a particular guy she says(in the middle or better, end of a conversation)

, and Don't call be Babe!
or
, don't call me sweetheart
or
, don't 'sweetheart' me!!

this is not a firm instruction or permanent one
it is a little serious and a little playful


what do you think it means?
Do you think it is a message(a message different from the literal words)

is it a way of her specifying the type of relationship she has with you
a relationship she is in or the way she wants the relationship to be?


Could she say it because she feels attracted to you (she has given a thought about you, the name you call her and what it means for her)

Could she be saying it because she feels guilty

Could it be a way of knocking you back to reality- that you are not in a romantic relationship and there is no reason to pretend or imagine it so

or Could it be a request for you to do  the necessary thing/make the necessary arrangements towards her if you see her that way and what her in a romantic way and want her as your babe

Could she be saying it because she think you are manipulative
Could it be a way off cutting of a romantic relationship with you
may she feels deceived
Or she if beginning to find you irritating
she no more likes you or is comfortable with you
is she suspicious/confused of you(she needs to clear her head)
is she putting the relationship "on hold"

She is hiding her relationship with you from the public(maybe she is ashamed of you). she doesn't want people to get the impression that she is your babe when you call her babe in public

what is the right/best reaction to this

Do you ignore her and keep calling her
what of a case in which she is your Boss/authority figure

IS this a situation when she say this and actually means the opposite
and so you are to act the opposite too?

iice:

Na wah.
For me, if i say don't call me babe. . .i mean it as it is. Don't call me that.
I'd take babe over sweetheart do. That one sounds crappy to me.

rokiatu:

If not for the fact that you look nothing like my bf in that your profile pic (which is a relief cuz i WOULD HAVE LEAVE NL AND NEVER TO COME BACK) I would have though my bf has landed on nairaland. I said the same thing to him I mean the same thing.


Don't worry about it. I just do not find all this lovey dovey petnames attractive. Just not me. I told him not called me "baby" or sweetheart" But my bf knows the kind of person I am lol he still calls me "baby" I am used to it now anyway. We are cool.


Trust me your babe means no harm. Like I said, I said the same thing to my bf and I love him to death. I can not imagine my life with another other man.

nellaluv:

Do you mean babe or baby?

Zahnda:

Don't call me babe, means just that, DO NOT CALL ME BABE!

Next!

iice:

Na wah.
For me, if i say don't call me babe. . .i mean it as it is. Don't call me that.
I'd take babe over sweetheart do. That one sounds crappy to me.