If you have a recovery story, please share.
Seven years ago, I met a responsible guy that wanted to marry me, I convinced myself that I was too young. While responsible guys kept showing up I thought I was not ready.
When I started meeting difficult ones, I became so troubled and I started praying so hard for a responsible guy to show up, he finally shows up but now I am beginning to feel so anxious.
My parent opened up their concern about my relationship when I was marking my 26th birthday this month, I couldn't tell them that I am in a relationship, I just told them that I am still searching because I feel they might speed things up.

I feel this way sometimes, but I believe mine is because of lack of money

Once you acknowledge the fear and realize that it’s within your power to change, you’ve taken the first step.

If you’re in a relationship, be totally honest with that person to avoid leading them on. Let them know that this is about you and your history, and you’re learning how to deal with it.

Explore the reasons behind your fear. Are past events sabotaging your present happiness?

Think about what you want and need in a relationship. You might come to realize that long-term commitment isn’t your cup of tea after all. Or you might discover that despite the fear, that’s exactly what you want.

That realization may be all you need to start overcoming your fear.

@Pweetiedude has said it all

@ahnie come and advice your sister.

When coming carry ogaga follow body come

The odds of having a happy relationship and marriage is low.

The odds of having a happy relationship and marriage is low. I may not roll the dice.

Juliusmomoh:
@ahnie come and advice your sister.

When coming carry ogaga follow body come

Onne good afternoon.
Where's the sister?

[quote author=Lollittaa post=106927994]my case is different. I just lost interest in relationships[/quote.








Same with me sis... I am very sure relationship is not meant for me..

[quote author=Blessiing post=106934659][/quote]
Can we give it a try once?

ahnie:
Onne good afternoon. Where's the sister?

I love reading your dairy.. Go and update it na..
Abi u want make i nak you plank . Mama zino

Juliusmomoh:


I love reading your dairy.. Go and update it na..

Abi u want make i nak you plank . Mama zino

Thanks but I don't plan doing that anytime soon.

ahnie:

Thanks but I don't plan doing that anytime soon.

And i enjoy reading it fa ...

Expecially that part wey you de give your husband green light. ... I also love the way you send those lazy ass ladies away... I wist to eat you akara one day but am far away in kogi...

I no get money I don't think about relationship

Blessiing:
Same with me sis... I am very sure relationship is not meant for me.

We will all heal with time. I had one & now feel like I've had enough of r/ship.

I'm just scared because anybody can change. My friend is enduring her marriage, she married my grand aunt son, she was a virgin before her marriage and she has a very good character. My mother was the one that recommended her when my cousin said he needed a wife, he is based in US, they have been married for more than five years now but she is still in Nigeria. The embassy denied her visa two times, I feel something is fishy, it seems he is the one doing things wrongly. If it is just courtship, I would have personally broken it but it is marriage, there is nothing I can do about it, she has to keep enduring.

Pweetiedude:
Once you acknowledge the fear and realize that it’s within your power to change, you’ve taken the first step.

If you’re in a relationship, be totally honest with that person to avoid leading them on. Let them know that this is about you and your history, and you’re learning how to deal with it.

Explore the reasons behind your fear. Are past events sabotaging your present happiness?

Think about what you want and need in a relationship. You might come to realize that long-term commitment isn’t your cup of tea after all. Or you might discover that despite the fear, that’s exactly what you want.

That realization may be all you need to start overcoming your fear.

Rosement:
I'm just scared because anybody can change. My friend is enduring her marriage, she married my grand aunt son, she was a virgin before her marriage and she has a very good character. My mother was the one that recommended her when my cousin said he needed a wife, he is based in US, they have been married for more than five years now but she is still in Nigeria. The embassy denied her visa two times, I feel something is fishing, it seems he is the one doing things wrongly. If it is just courtship, I would have personally broken it but it is marriage, there is nothing I can do about it, she has to keep enduring.

Does she have any child with him yet?

No, she doesn't have a child. She got pregnant but she had a miscarriage.

mariahAngel:


Does she have any child with him yet?

It's been long since he has visited Nigeria

mariahAngel:


Does she have any child with him yet?

Rosement:
No, she doesn't have a child. She got pregnant but she had a miscarriage

Hey! Hit and run!

And you say they've been married for five years? Five wasted years if you ask me!

I think she should ask that the marriage be annulled because she's wasting away her youth waiting for a runaway husband!
She's been and is being cheated.

You see, this is one of the reasons why ladies should runaway from abroad absentee husbands if you want to enjoy marriage, especially early part of it.

Rosement:
It's been long since he has visited Nigeria

This is not fair on her at all.

Do suitors come for her?

She is a Christian sister, she has taking the marriage vows there is no turning back. According to him, he is still interested in her, he speaks to her over the phone and sends money to her monthly.

mariahAngel:


Hey! Hit and run!

And you say they've been married for five years? Five wasted years if you ask me!

I think she should ask that the marriage be annulled because she's wasting away her youth waiting for a runaway husband!
She's been and is being cheated.

You see, this is one of the reasons why ladies should runaway from abroad absentee husbands if you want to enjoy marriage, especially early part of it.

Rosement:
She is a Christian sister, she has taking the marriage vows there is no turning back. According to him, he is still interested in her, he speaks to her over the phone and sends her money monthly.

Until he comes to live with her or to take her to wherever he stays, he's defrauding her.
To make matters worse, he sends money to tie her down. Will the useless money keep her company?

It is the marriage vows that bound them together not the money, I wish he could divorce her himself so that the sin can be on him.

mariahAngel:


Until he comes to live with her or to take her to wherever he stays, he's defrauding her.
To make matters worse, he sends money to tie her down. Will the useless money keep her company?

SimplyFacts:


We will all heal with time. I had one & now feel like I've had enough of r/ship.

Amen i pray..

Rosement:
It is the marriage vows that bound them together not the money, I wish he could divorce her himself so that the sin can be on him.

No wonder you're afraid of marriage.
Well, just know that you're not your friend.
Also, learn from her mistakes so that you don't find yourself in a similar situation.
Abroad husbands are mostly illusions.

I can not experience the same thing even if I marry a guy abroad, everybody's situation is different, what I am saying is people cannot be trusted, someone can be nice today and become wicked tomorrow. May God help us.

mariahAngel:


No wonder you're afraid of marriage.
Well, just know that you're not your friend.
Also, learn from her mistakes so that you don't find yourself in a similar situation.
Abroad husbands are mostly illusions.

The earlier you come to agree that you yourself is not perfect,the better.Who told you that the negative changes you are afraid of won't be coming from you.In marriage, you work on your selves to fit in.Women changes faster than men.

Not my department.

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You are kind of confused, you are probably commenting on the wrong post, I am not blaming any gender or saying I am perfect. I only stated my fears.

chii8:
The earlier you come to agree that you yourself is not perfect,the better.Who told you that the negative changes you are afraid of won't be coming from you.In marriage, you work on your selves to fit in.Women changes faster than men
[quote author=chii8 post=106944546]The earlier you come to agree that you yourself is not perfect,the better.Who told you that the negative changes you are afraid of won't be coming from you.In marriage, you work on your selves to fit in.Women changes faster than men.