I see a bunch of threads here created by guys who see nothing good in the women folk, but if I start writing about the evils that men commit, the mods may move the thread to the literature section.

My Experience

I am pretty, well kept and groomed and at an age where although I may not be a spring chick, I am still young enough to attract attention from guys in their early 20s who have no qualms about toasting their elder sister's age mates. I have had my fair share lovers but I am currently sworn off men till such a time I recover from the trauma of my latest experience in the hands of the 'ejaculating gender.'

My now ex, let's call him Kingsley was supposed to be a godsent. He is fair, heavily bearded, handsome and a single father. He is also terrible in bed. TERRIBLE. He doesn't last more than 4 minutes, and once he reaches the four minutes mark, he spurts his disgusting seed into the condom and goes limp for the rest of the time with him. Even if I squeeze and massage his small member like bitter leave, he will remain limp like golden penny noodles.

That did not stop me from giving two years of my life to him because I genuinely loved him and felt I could cope with the terrible sex; man shall not live by nacks alone. I had met his family, he had met mine, we were literally 5 and 6. We fixed the wedding for January 8 next year. I'm looking at the stupid IV as I'm typing this.

So we closed for the year at my work place on December 24th and I decided to spend the evening with him. We had agreed that no more nights over till the wedding since it was barely a month away, so we might as well start living right before God. None the less, I had closed by 2pm, I didn't look forward to spending the whole evening in my hot apartment alone so I, against better judgement went to his place and let myself in. His line of work doesn't give him the luxury of closing early like me, so the apartment was also empty but he has a generator and AC.

I settled in, began watching movies on his laptop. I don't know the devil that pushed me to leave the film I was watching to start snooping through his files. In my two years of dating I have never gone through his phone or PC because if you cherish your peace of mind, never snoop through your partner's devices otherwise you will see things. What you are looking for, you will find it.

He has this folder in his laptop called 'Don Quixote.exe' which I see all the time. I asked him what it was some time back and he casually said they are program files and if I mess with them, I will disorganize his laptop. The same devil I had earlier mentioned pushed me to open Don Quixote, and behold, what did I see?

Gay porn. Man nacking man. Woman nacking woman. My fiance is gay, I think. Or bi-sexual. I don't know. My hands are shaking again.

I'm so hurt. Photos upon photos of homosexual and lesbian contents. But this is not where the story ends.

After the initial shock of these disgusting photos, I was confused, shocked, disappointed. I quickly shut down the laptop, prepared dinner (Indomie) and cried myself to sleep on the bed because I'm a very emotional person. I took Lexotan so I could sleep.

Around 10, I think, Kingley came back. He didn't know I was in the house because I left the lights off. He, however didn't come back alone. He came back with a guest. A male guest. I know this dude is his lover because I know him from the office and I have always been suspicious of his sexuality. What kind of masculine man wears purple skinny jeans and wiggles his bum when he thinks no one is watching? I also saw a TikTok video of this guy dancing, wiggling his bum and twirling his dreadlocks?

That is the colleague Kingley brought home by 10 in the night.

Anyway, Kingley walked into the bedroom, saw me and the guilt written all over his face made me ask him who was in the parlour with him after hearing another male voice. When he couldn't give a coherent answer, I went to the parlour and saw Uncle Purple Skinny jeans. Now added to the gay porn I discovered in his laptop, you will not blame me for having a meltdown. I yelled, screamed, cussed, threw his ring into the toilet and flushed it. I ordered Uber to my parents house that night and spent 25th chopping breakfast with tears.

Two years, with a bi-sexual man. Or maybe he is gay himself. I don't know. He has been begging me not to expose him to his family, but it's too late. I have told my family and they intend to formally let his family know that their daughter cannot marry a 'confused' man, as my father says.

What do men want?! Two years of my life, plus all the wedding expenses, gone down the drain. I am so heart broken and humiliated.

I don't want to say men are scum because I have a wonderful father and loving brothers, so I will leave it. I'm done with men.

Seems like there should be another section for boyfriends and girlfriends issues on Nairaland.

Married people who have legal commitments and backups don’t have as much issues as these gf and bf people.

Imagine having to struggle with another man (not woman like one) for one’s partner’s dick

They will say they want their wives to always keep shape and when you are dating them, they will manage to maintain their 2 and 4 packs. After one year of marriage, they will upgrade to 10 gallon geepee tank. Yet it is still them that will come on Nairaland to say women are hoes

It's good you didn't say that Men are Scum.


The Lord is your Strength.

If you are gay, why do you want to ruin an innocent woman's life?

Everybody just dey chop breakfast this December

This is what these redpillers do. 80% of the redpillers on this forum are homosexuals. Yeessss they are.


I'm sorry dear. Men are scum and useless. Disgrace him and tell all his friends. For two years he deceived you.

Since you're a very emotional woman I suggest you go to therapy because the months to come will not be easy for you at all.

But you'll heal and you'll be fine. Men areee scuuuummmm.

Sorry, can't relate. I have long accepted gay people as humans. If we have to live with Feminists - that want to destroy men, why not the rainbow people.

As for your 2 years; Men have given far more to women and got nothing back.

Like you said you still attract boys. Hopefully, you won't be heading to Shiloh anytime soon.

And just so other people know. Nigerian women are fatter than Nigerian men, in or out of marriage.

Relationship detty december na him brother kingaysley run you so if to say i get money i for toast you immediately me i straight die

Ohh thats so bad....
Gays are mentally bleeped up...
As in how will you neglect breast and go for chest... As in wtf is wrong with gays...


Sister you said you done for love...
Dont say so rather...
Pray you find the right person...

But, pray for forgiveness..
Cos fornication is a different ball game

The guy get mental problem do you think gay people have sense before s man to be knacking man my sister no big deal just move one na in life style .
Don't judge any how but if a man find is gf as a lesbian is easy to forgive abi
Don't judge any how just move on the man is not alright
But you lied how will you date a guy that last only 5 mins and you no fit para .if a girl is not good in bed it is hard for man to tell her and complain .But why will a woman not be able to compalin about your man sex capacity and you dated for 2 years you no fit talk till you one marry am lol see life and see lies .
The pure truth is that you they enjoy the guy money wella you enjoy crib lol and comfort . the enjoyment way you they get no make you do investigation . all ladies na money them no .once they see money comfort done com

the worst thing that can ever happen to you, is going through a man's browsing history, videos, hidden vault on his phone and WhatsApp chat.

Men are hypocrites.

Don't worry don't give up on love, you'll soon find the right one.

Life is not fair.

With the kind of tales being dished here lately, one can unapologetically conclude that staying single is synonymous to a long healthy life.

GurlFriend:
If you are gay, why do you want to ruin an innocent woman's life?

I'm so sorry you had to go through this, it's a complete waste of 2 years. There's no excuse for queer people who continue to do this not even the anti gay laws, it's just cruel. Please seek therapy and move on and if you've decided to out him to his folks, do it

You should be lucky you got to know early. That should give you some kind of relief.

As for the wedding IV, if it's possible to take a vacation break from work and get over that, you should be able to pick yourself together in small time.

Things dey happen sha

GurlFriend:
If you are gay, why do you want to ruin an innocent woman's life?

Is gay something to be proud of in Nigeria society?

And if they don't see you with girls, they start asking question as well.

But in all, only those who don't have heart behave in such manner cos sooner or later, their partner would find out.

Your 'true life story' reads like a fiction

Elporo:
Sorry, can't relate. I have long accepted gay people as humans. If we have to live with Feminists, why not the rainbow people.

As for your 2 years; Men have given far more to women and got nothing back.

Like you said you still attract boys. Hopefully, you won't be heading to Shiloh anytime soon.

And just so other people know. Nigerian women are fatter than Nigerian men, in or out of marriage.

You actually ended up saying nothing

Ladies should start coming out and tell us how guys maltreated them... Let us hear it, we want to learn from it.
Don't leave guys to be doing it alone here on this plat form

helinues:


You actually ended up saying nothing

Search me

I have no idea what they say in Iyanya's song - Nowhere ... still I bump it ... like cray cray

You don't have to understand everything.

Don't have an idea what to advice you OP. Just move on as you have planned to and I hope you find healing to your broken heart soon.

Damn!

Fiction....

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Another male bashing thread.

Amotolongbo:
Seams like there should be another section for boyfriends and girlfriends issues on Nairaland.

Married people who have legal commitments and backups don’t have as much issues as these gf and bf people.

Imagine having to struggle with another man (not woman like one) for one’s partner’s dick

I tire o.

No day wey person no go read rubbish about boyfriend and girlfriend issue on nl. Even the ones wey de go garnish with lies come mint am with correct fiction join

This is one of the reasons I hate relationships. Sorry dear. With time you will heal.

You are very lucky.

U are so pained cuz he is not good in zi oza room ..... Who marriage eep? After all marriage favors pucci gender more than men.


Tell us sey na the guy disvirgined you....make thunder kee u dia.



Guys wey no get girlfriend get peace of mind.