I have been in a serious relationship with a guy for 7 years, last year I formally introduced him to my parents. We want to start the marriage arrangements this year but my mum has bluntly refused my fiancée, her excuse is that the guy is not presentable due to his slender physique and she feels that I will be maltreated by the guy once we get married.

I know this guy too well and he cares for me a lot and has never raised his hands on me. My mum has insisted that if I go on with the my wedding plans she will disown me and place a curse on me.

What baffles me is that she has never seen this guy in person, they have only talked on the phone, she just made her judgement via phone calls and photographs.

I really want to fight for what I love but both my parents have refused to respect my decision.

Tell her to lay her cure that you don't care.

Girl! Fight for the man you lo*v as far he isnt into fetish things or you would regret sooner or later. Imagine! Some parents enh...

If only your mom can just spare a day out of her busy schedule and pay a visit to most churches (miracle centres) during their mid-week programs..Make she go use her own eyes take see wetin women dey pray and fast for . Make she go witness how young girls dey pray fervently to encounter a man who'll take them to the altar.....Na then she go realize say all those her excuses no join one bit...

Op's mom wanna play a role in plunging the op into by-force meno-stop

Just short of letters.but,ask ur mum her opinion and find out if she's got any man for u.if yes,try and see the man.and if no.go ahead with the wedding.if she no attend na her own business be dat.
GOD say him go bless who him go bless and curse who him go curse.
And sey who GOD done bless no man can curse.

Kate999:
I have been in a serious relationship with a guy for 7 years, last year I formally introduced him to my parents. We want to start the marriage arrangements this year but my mum has bluntly refused my fiancée, her excuse is that the guy is not presentable due to his slender physique and she feels that I will be maltreated by the guy once we get married.

I know this guy too well and he cares for me a lot and has never raised his hands on me. My mum has insisted that if I go on with the my wedding plans she will disown me and place a curse on me.

What baffles me is that she has never seen this guy in person, they have only talked on the phone, she just made her judgement via phone calls and photographs.

I really want to fight for what I love but both my parents have refused to respect my decision.

Maybe your mom has consulted a spiritualist on your behalf without your knowledge, hence her adamancy on not allowing you to marry him.
By the way, most of those spiritualists are demonic manipulators.

Another thing is: has your boyfriend been sending money or gifts to your mom? You said you've been dating him for 7 years, if he has never given your mom a dime, she might think he is either useless or poor. That's another way to see it.

This is a normal thing/challenge couples face whenever marriage is brought up.

The husband to be must show some serious approach/respect by visiting your mom.

Phone conversations and pictures could be seen as disrespectful/un seriousness from him.

I'd possible your mom knows some encumbrances that you don't know. She may know the area the man live/come from which is not possible to release you in marriage.

Please invite him home to see her.

Haakeem:
Tell her to lay her cure that you don't care.

Girl! Fight for what you luv or you would regret sooner or later. Imagine! Some parents enh...

Kate999:
I have been in a serious relationship with a guy for 7 years, last year I formally introduced him to my parents. We want to start the marriage arrangements this year but my mum has bluntly refused my fiancée, her excuse is that the guy is not presentable due to his slender physique and she feels that I will be maltreated by the guy once we get married.

I know this guy too well and he cares for me a lot and has never raised his hands on me. My mum has insisted that if I go on with the my wedding plans she will disown me and place a curse on me.

What baffles me is that she has never seen this guy in person, they have only talked on the phone, she just made her judgement via phone calls and photographs.

I really want to fight for what I love but both my parents have refused to respect my decision.

You are yet to be in control of your life before marriage, and you think you would be able to make your own decision in the marriage without external forces like this.

Take control of your decision making

Loewe:


Maybe your mom has consulted a spiritualist on your behalf without your knowledge, hence her adamancy on not allowing you to marry him.
By the way, most of those spiritualists are demonic manipulators.

Another thing is: has your boyfriend been sending money or gifts to your mom? You said you've been dating him for 7 years, if he has never given your mom a dime, she might think he is either useless or poor. That's another way to see it.

True that.
Ask her why she insist. Some parents pray or consult spiritualist when their children are of marriageable age, so ask her what she saw or heard concerning your spouse.

You should also pray about it too

What was your spouse response to this? 7 years you've been in a relationship with him right, does he visit out of that 7 years? Does your parents know him closely? Abi he's only in a relationship with you but not in a relationship with your parent (does he see them as his in laws).

Because my dear love isn't enough when it comes to marriage ooo. Na the planning before you enter easy, to keep 'forever' takes everything you've got be it mentally, spiritually, emotionally etc.

You should both pray about it, God ll see you through

Wonders shall never end. How can she judge a book cover she hasn't even seen?

It's unbelievable!

everythinggirly:
Wonders shall never end. How can she judge a book cover she hasn't even seen?

It's unbelievable!

Indeed! We both live in different states that is why it has been difficult to come over/visit. Now I want to formally introduce him to the family by inviting him over as we want to take things to the next level but they have bluntly refused to see him, giving me flimsy excuses.

Kate999:


Indeed! We both live in different states that is why it has been difficult to come over/visit. Now I want to formally introduce him to the family by inviting him over as we want to take things to the next level but they have bluntly refused to see him, giving me flimsy excuses.

Remember, na your marriage o, not her marriage.

Kate999:
I have been in a serious relationship with a guy for 7 years, last year I formally introduced him to my parents. We want to start the marriage arrangements this year but my mum has bluntly refused my fiancée, her excuse is that the guy is not presentable due to his slender physique and she feels that I will be maltreated by the guy once we get married.

I know this guy too well and he cares for me a lot and has never raised his hands on me. My mum has insisted that if I go on with the my wedding plans she will disown me and place a curse on me.

What baffles me is that she has never seen this guy in person, they have only talked on the phone, she just made her judgement via phone calls and photographs.

I really want to fight for what I love but both my parents have refused to respect my decision.

Marry him, none of her curse will work on u. U haven't committed any crime.

Curse? Lol, nothing will happen to you. Our parent will just be threatening us with curses and disown like say e dey easy

The reason is simple.

Your mum used to fûck the guy behind your back..

our female parent too get problem sometimes,my mum nearly cursed me abi she cursed me ne sef, I no know, simply cause I broke up my ex, I still love her but I no get her time now, infact I refused to go home after our first semester ended, cause I know she will definitely bring the issue again

Kate999 I think it'll be a good idea to inform your pastor and some elderly men who could convince them.

If your mother is against your relationship, put a stop to it now. I don't want to read that your boyfriend killed you like that Australian girl. Ona no dey listen to wise counsel until it happens to you people.

Loewe:


Maybe your mom has consulted a spiritualist on your behalf without your knowledge, hence her adamancy on not allowing you to marry him.
By the way, most of those spiritualists are demonic manipulators.

Another thing is: has your boyfriend been sending money or gifts to your mom? You said you've been dating him for 7 years, if he has never given your mom a dime, she might think he is either useless or poor. That's another way to see it.

make the guy send the girl mama money because they are dating or they have been dating for seven years

Which kind mumu talk be this?

Has the girl gone to the guy's mom house to cook and clean and fetch water for her, if that's how a relationship should be

Kate999:
I have been in a serious relationship with a guy for 7 years, last year I formally introduced him to my parents. We want to start the marriage arrangements this year but my mum has bluntly refused my fiancée, her excuse is that the guy is not presentable due to his slender physique and she feels that I will be maltreated by the guy once we get married.

I know this guy too well and he cares for me a lot and has never raised his hands on me. My mum has insisted that if I go on with the my wedding plans she will disown me and place a curse on me.

What baffles me is that she has never seen this guy in person, they have only talked on the phone, she just made her judgement via phone calls and photographs.

I really want to fight for what I love but both my parents have refused to respect my decision.

your mum is this way because you allowed her.
Parents will always try to control the choices of their grown ups.
Just ignore your mum and start the marriage preparations, get married to your boo and move on.
Overtime, she will just change

Send his picture, let's be in a better position to see if your mom is right, before you marry Stockfish

Ok oh

Maybe she don fall for the guy, sha no gree make she no snatch your husband

Damn!

7 years... & the guy never meet your peeps for once even if na to introduce as a friend.
Both of you are not serious.

@Kate999 your solution is here:

Milo + 4eggs daily (mix and stir)

let him have it for 2weeks.

please don't thank me

Pray about it