This is it,
If you promise yourself not to lose your virginity till the night of your wedding, and you meet someone you realy love, who demand for it or you lose him, if you cant allow him to have sex with you, that was what make you explain to him that you are still a virgin, and he said ok, but he still have to do it to make the relationship grow, but your conscience told you not to do it now, that you should wait till the night of your wedding,

NOW YOU DONT WANT TO LOSE THE MAN AND YOU STLL NEED TO KEEP YOUR VIRGINITY TILL THE NIGHT OF YOUR WEDDING, WHAT WILL YOU DO?
WHAT WILL YOU DO? WHAT WILL YOU DO? WHAT WILL YOU DO?

Oh girl, Stand by your conviction if you really mean it

IF he loves you that much, let him wait, else, get another man.
Tell him, he doesn that have to taste the pudding for the relationship to grow

$$Rhino:

IF he loves you that much, let him wait, else, get another man.
Tell him, he doesn that have to taste the pudding for the relationship to grow

i agree with rhino, guys use that as an excuse to get into your pants and then dump you when they are done, if he can't wait then he doesn't love you, if he doesn't love you enough to wait, keep on stepping hon, he's not worth it.

Stand by you vow! He has two options. To stay by you or find somebody else.

Most ladies l6st their virginity in that manner. Eventually, when they had disagreement, they part way.

Be sensible though. You may not be able to date a man for over five years, do minor sexual acts, and still expect him not to demand for sex. If you really want to keep your virginity, DON'T GO INTO USELESS INTIMATE RELATIONSHIP.

my dear, dont do it or u will regret it. imagine this - - -if someone likes u, they will do all it takes to make u happy not make themselves happy. if they see themselves marrying u, they wont be in a hurry to have sex wit u. the only time someone will be in a hurry to have sex with u and not respect ur wishes is when they dont care about u.

its a proven fact. and i can bet u that if u lose it b4 ur wedding night to please someone and not willingly, You will REGRET IT!, but, if u do it bcuz u want to, u might still regret it but it wont hurt as much!!

thats my 2 cents . . .

remember king SUNNY ADE song [if you love me you go wait for me]
THE GUY JUST WAN SHAG YOU O. RUN, RUN, AND RUN.

plus, u are denying ur real husband (the guy who might really care about u) the first taste (thats if u care). . .

Let me add another opinion from a male's perspective.

If this guy loves you, then he should be aware that virginity is something that is important to you.  If it matters to you then it should matter to him.  Otherwise, he's being selfish.  Heck, if he loves you enough to want to marry you, he's going to be having sex with you anyway!  

If he's that self-centered with you now, it's not going to get better, later.  If sex is all he's concerned about, kick him to the curb!

um, G&C

a word is enough for the wise o

had a girl like u, den cldnt accept d offer cos i was sexually ragin den, afta 1yr n 6mths, she came back den i realized dat by den d senrenren was gone, she lost

What will you do? You would slap the guy for not respecting your decision to hold it off

either way u must loose something, it now depends on which u cherish more, my opinion? i would rather prefer u tell me about your ex boyfriend to telling me about u being an "exvirgin"  bc u can replace the former without much to grieve about but the latter baby,
THINK ABOUT THAT.

Omobolaluv, buy the dude a jar of vaseline and tell him to self-service off, it will releif him

nice reply, thanks to all nairalander i still need more advice on it pls

God bless us all

nice ideas, ask a big bro if u av 1

@Poster, follow your heart, Listen carefully it talks to us. Don't do anything you would later regret. All the best!!

@poster
Sex aint love.Like theyve rightly said listen to your heart.Let your actions be your actions.Nobody should force you or rather make you do stuff you dnt want to.

@poster

I wonder where your 'allegiance' on keeping your virginity lies _{(On God, Yourself or The Man? )}

You sound desperate o! _{and that is the evil!}


As for me, "any man that cannot respect your body and your wish _{which will be totally 'His' if and when you marry}" is not 'worth your panic'!


I don't know whether you have 'self-worth' girl but if you do _{no man is worth defiling you.}

(You will regret it if you do so!) _{QUOTE ME!}


Unless you are not even a virgin _{The man probably doesn't trust you!} ^{Or he's simply a lousy f***!}

_{THE DECISION IS YOURS GIRL.}

Let me go the way of HOLY THUG, omoluv pls most of the opinion sent here are dia experience but i disagree with dem because if it all went well they will not be talking like this because it did not work with dem, does not mean it will not go well with u.Y cant dey tell us d good part or why things or how things went wrong all they say is sacrifice the man, but b careful. Dont make a mistake that i said u should agree, but let me tell u about my experience while in part 3 in d uni a lady i date told me that she is a "V" and i trusted her but later got to know it was a lie (then i was a baby in d heart) but later i was orientated and very very strong @ heart , i met a girl during my service yr she said d same thing but i disconcur today we are dating because later i had her and knows she is not lieing even she just finished skool this week and by the grace of God she will be my wife. So know the person why he wanted it if 4 selfish interest but all i want to tell u is take a decision dat will make u happy ur happiness supercede evryopinion here.
Vernor

kooldamsel:

@poster
Sex aint love.Like theyve rightly said listen to your heart.Let your actions be your actions.Nobody should force you or rather make you do stuff you dnt want to.

Sport on!

Let me go the way of HOLY THUG, omoluv please most of the opinion sent here are dia experience but i disagree with them because if it all went well they will not be talking like this because it did not work with them, does not mean it will not go well with u.Y can't dey tell us d good part or why things or how things went wrong all they say is sacrifice the man, but b careful. Dont make a mistake that i said u should agree, but let me tell u about my experience while in part 3 in d uni a lady i date told me that she is a "V" and i trusted her but later got to know it was a lie (then i was a baby in d heart) but later i was orientated and very very strong @ heart , i met a girl during my service yr she said d same thing but i disconcur today we are dating because later i had her and knows she is not lieing even she just finished school this week and by the grace of God she will be my wife. So know the person why he wanted it if 4 selfish interest but all i want to tell u is take a decision that will make u happy your happiness supercede evryopinion here.
Vernor

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Let me go the way of HOLY THUG, omoluv please most of the opinion sent here are dia experience but i disagree with them because if it all went well they will not be talking like this because it did not work with them, does not mean it will not go well with u.Y can't dey tell us d good part or why things or how things went wrong all they say is sacrifice the man, but b careful. Dont make a mistake that i said u should agree, but let me tell u about my experience while in part 3 in d uni a lady i date told me that she is a "V" and i trusted her but later got to know it was a lie (then i was a baby in d heart) but later i was orientated and very very strong @ heart , i met a girl during my service yr she said d same thing but i disconcur today we are dating because later i had her and knows she is not lieing even she just finished school this week and by the grace of God she will be my wife. So know the person why he wanted it if 4 selfish interest but all i want to tell u is take a decision that will make u happy your happiness supercede evryopinion here.
Vernor

i totally agree wit only you on this post

Omobolaluv,
i strongly guess you have got enough pieces of wonderful advice on your earlier presented issue. i cannot help but offer mine as well. sorry to say , i was formally of that school of tot that subscribe to the dictum, "if you really mean it, then please really prove it", but i tell you , with age comes maturity. if the young man in question is still being insistent, then he is not mature enuf to be with you.
follow the path of self gratification, as long as it will bring glory to God.
i always offer a practical approach to that issue, for it is seen to plague virtually all relationships in present times, that practical approach goes thus;
"sex, i liken to your right hand, (that which you are inclined to using), or your left as the case may be, and the rest of your body, i liken to other components that make up a RELATIONSHIP, though the hand , it seems so insignificant, but vital we consider it.
now the question is, can you do without 'THAT' one hand for a day? it will definitely seem incoviniencing, but it is possible (i have tried it). i liken the one day to the period the relationship can last, and if you can last that long without regrets, and feeling fulfilled, then my dear you can keep a wonderful relationship, without indulging in unwarranted, unmerited, and reckless immorality, for there are so many other issues that can keep you occupied in a positively channeled relationship.
Make the best out of life, cheers.

follow ur conscience , put ur situation in God's hands, and if he is really the one , he will understand and wait

@theboy0808
Thanx bro.

aik.mamah:

either way u must loose something, it now depends on which u cherish more, my opinion? i would rather prefer u tell me about your ex boyfriend to telling me about u being an "exvirgin" bc u can replace the former without much to grieve about but the latter baby,
THINK ABOUT THAT.

word


though some people should close that gap below their nose if they have no better idea to contribute.

I n z e

Virginity is overrated.

@Op i think am having d same plight.am still a v..i told im and he agreed.for some time i went to his house.we smooched and did all dat.but no sex.now..last friday the smooching got too far and he wanted to put it in but i refused.the ffg saturday he called me but we didnt c..it was actually yesterday we saw at his place after dat friday.wen i asked im y.he sed he couldnt cope without sex wen am around.and he wants to respect my wish.so he avoided me for some time.i rily luv dis guy but dat wouldnt make me lose it to him.if d pressure gets too much..i d just leave.

marry him