pansophist:
Bigbashiru you sure say you need advice so? You're one smart nairalander, and should know the answer to your question. Having said that, the answer is simple. Don't go for women who haven't choosed you. If a girl likes you, observe her behaviour, and if it's obvious she is in for her selfish aim, plug off. No more negotiation whatsoever. Its over. Permanently.

Also, always doubt the love of a woman who is not on your level. As a rule, men should enter equal relationships. She must be able to afford whatever you can give to her. It's sweet when both of you go out and you pay today, while she pays the next day. Honestly this is the kind of relationship I was used to all my life, until I enter naija and saw that relationships was heavily monitized.

Havesomesense:


Pussy ain't free.

pansophist:
Bigbashiru you sure say you need advice so? You're one smart nairalander, and should know the answer to your question. Having said that, the answer is simple. Don't go for women who haven't choosed you. If a girl likes you, observe her behaviour, and if it's obvious she is in for her selfish aim, plug off. No more negotiation whatsoever. Its over. Permanently.

Also, always doubt the love of a woman who is not on your level. As a rule, men should enter equal relationships. She must be able to afford whatever you can give to her. It's sweet when both of you go out and you pay today, while she pays the next day. Honestly this is the kind of relationship I was used to all my life, until I enter naija and saw that relationships was heavily monitized.

bibianna:
When you flaunt wealth, you may attract the wrong set of women. Even if you date someone of your level, there's the possibility she might be an Oliver twist.

Why not try something different. There're still many responsible ladies out there. You'll be fine!

BigBashiru:
A part of me just feels used, knowing the "love" ends the day the money finishes.... how do I overcome this feeling?

BigBashiru:
A part of me just feels used, knowing the "love" ends the day the money finishes.... how do I overcome this feeling?

pansophist:
Bigbashiru you sure say you need advice so? You're one smart nairalander, and should know the answer to your question. Having said that, the answer is simple. Don't go for women who haven't choosed you. If a girl likes you, observe her behaviour, and if it's obvious she is in for her selfish aim, plug off. No more negotiation whatsoever. Its over. Permanently.

Also, always doubt the love of a woman who is not on your level. As a rule, men should enter equal relationships. She must be able to afford whatever you can give to her. It's sweet when both of you go out and you pay today, while she pays the next day. Honestly this is the kind of relationship I was used to all my life, until I enter naija and saw that relationships was heavily monitized.

pansophist:
Bigbashiru you sure say you need advice so? You're one smart nairalander, and should know the answer to your question. Having said that, the answer is simple. Don't go for women who haven't choosed you. If a girl likes you, observe her behaviour, and if it's obvious she is in for her selfish aim, plug off. No more negotiation whatsoever. Its over. Permanently.

Also, always doubt the love of a woman who is not on your level. As a rule, men should enter equal relationships. She must be able to afford whatever you can give to her. It's sweet when both of you go out and you pay today, while she pays the next day. Honestly this is the kind of relationship I was used to all my life, until I enter naija and saw that relationships was heavily monitized.

BigBashiru:


women dont want equal relationships na... they want one where the man has higher status...

Polynek:
You NAILED BRO
The level of entitlement mentality of Nigeria girls is scary

pansophist:


Honestly I don't even understand how men tolerate that rubbish. I went out with a customer and his girlfriend one time like that, and was so shock to see that literally anything she wants, he pays. After eating, i paid for myself and he paid for both.

She wants to drink water, and she will shamelessly ask him for 100 naira, and her transport home with uber, he pays again, and I'm like, really? I ask if its nornal for them and he said yes. He was even shocked at my naivety, meaning he has accepted that to be in a relationship, he has to pay heavily. And it was normal for them. For all the suffering wey full this world, na to be the financial slave of a woman lots of men choose. Na wa.

pansophist:


Honestly I don't even understand how men tolerate that rubbish. I went out with a customer and his girlfriend one time like that, and was so shock to see that literally anything she wants, he pays. After eating, i paid for myself and he paid for both.

She wants to drink water, and she will shamelessly ask him for 100 naira, and her transport home with uber, he pays again, and I'm like, really? I ask if its nornal for them and he said yes. He was even shocked at my naivety, meaning he has accepted that to be in a relationship, he has to pay heavily. And it was normal for them. For all the suffering wey full this world, na to be the financial slave of a woman lots of men choose. Na wa.

pansophist:


Honestly I don't even understand how men tolerate that rubbish. I went out with a customer and his girlfriend one time like that, and was so shock to see that literally anything she wants, he pays. After eating, i paid for myself and he paid for both.

She wants to drink water, and she will shamelessly ask him for 100 naira, and her transport home with uber, he pays again, and I'm like, really? I ask if its nornal for them and he said yes. He was even shocked at my naivety, meaning he has accepted that to be in a relationship, he has to pay heavily. And it was normal for them. For all the suffering wey full this world, na to be the financial slave of a woman lots of men choose. Na wa.

pansophist:


Honestly I don't even understand how men tolerate that rubbish. I went out with a customer and his girlfriend one time like that, and was so shock to see that literally anything she wants, he pays. After eating, i paid for myself and he paid for both.

She wants to drink water, and she will shamelessly ask him for 100 naira, and her transport home with uber, he pays again, and I'm like, really? I ask if its nornal for them and he said yes. He was even shocked at my naivety, meaning he has accepted that to be in a relationship, he has to pay heavily. And it was normal for them. For all the suffering wey full this world, na to be the financial slave of a woman lots of men choose. Na wa.

Iyaebe:
This your abroad mentality has to change ooo,you can't be
closefisted and still expect your woman to respect you and all that and it's only natural for a man to spend on his woman.You better start learning how to wisely spend on your woman and stop all this akagum habits,I doubt if you are like this in reality, let me just assume it's social media cruise.

Atimjessy:
Spending on your woman should give you joy and fulfilment as a man. And you will get the love you truly deserve.
Don't allow another man do the work for you.

pansophist:


I know know you're trolling and you deliberately want to misconstrue my point, but for the sake of not being misunderstood, I'll clarify.

I'm not against spending money on a woman. I spent millions yearly giving gifts to people generally who are not even my family including men, and here on nairaland also, I've giving strangers I don't even know money, so spending is not my problem, neither I'm i against it. Infact I'm a very traditional man in that sense, I spend alot.

But I detest when my money is the only glue keeping the relationship going, where a woman can not also spend on me as well sometimes. Where she will leave when I stop or can't spend. Is this what you're proposing? Will you respect yourself if you're completely dependent on your boyfriend financially? How can he respect you also?

One natural law you should know about life is this. Those that don't need anything from anyone by nature, will be given everything. But you see those that need always, none will give to them and the little one they have will be taken away. It's known as Mathew principle (Mathew 25:29). An example is Davido, he asked for birthday gift and over a hundred million flooded his account, and he is already rich. Meanwhile lots of people need just 1k to eat dinner and no one cares.

If you make yourself a liability, you are shooting yourself in the foot, because you have no bargaining power, a burden and replaceable. To always be at the position of receiving it a weak energy, and you'll always be at the mercy of your giver. If you like, misinterprete it again that I'm against giving women money, na you sabi.

pansophist:


Honestly I don't even understand how men tolerate that rubbish. I went out with a customer and his girlfriend one time like that, and was so shock to see that literally anything she wants, he pays. After eating, i paid for myself and he paid for both.

She wants to drink water, and she will shamelessly ask him for 100 naira, and her transport home with uber, he pays again, and I'm like, really? I ask if its nornal for them and he said yes. He was even shocked at my naivety, meaning he has accepted that to be in a relationship, he has to pay heavily. And it was normal for them. For all the suffering wey full this world, na to be the financial slave of a woman lots of men choose. Na wa.

UyaiIncomparabl:


Stop this, Panso baby. I hate stingy men. Spend on your woman, abeg. That's why God made you guys providers. Stop complaining and giving vibes of Aka chi chi. Nawa o.

UyaiIncomparabl:


Stop this, Panso baby. I hate stingy men. Spend on your woman, abeg. That's why God made you guys providers. Stop complaining and giving vibes of Aka chi chi. Nawa o.

pansophist:
Bigbashiru you sure say you need advice so? You're one smart nairalander, and should know the answer to your question. Having said that, the answer is simple. Don't go for women who haven't choosed you. If a girl likes you, observe her behaviour, and if it's obvious she is in for her selfish aim, plug off. No more negotiation whatsoever. Its over. Permanently.

Also, always doubt the love of a woman who is not on your level. As a rule, men should enter equal relationships. She must be able to afford whatever you can give to her. It's sweet when both of you go out and you pay today, while she pays the next day. Honestly this is the kind of relationship I was used to all my life, until I enter naija and saw that relationships was heavily monitized.

Shegzdave:

Then, you women should should Men as the Head and stop fighting Equality that you can’t manage the responsibilities that come with it.

Karleb:


That attitude really disgust me.

Even when they have they still ask, when they don't get it from their partner, they become street beggars. They literally beg from anyone with a dick as if they have nothing.

It's the same attitude they take into marriage.

I remember a thread here where a woman was feigning brokenness which led to the death of her daughter because the husband couldn't raise money on time whereas the woman has upto 3 millions in her account.

I blame men who indulge them sha.

pansophist:


I know you're whining me

You sef know say I de spend. Infact I be simp for that department, but only to my wife and of course, a wife wey even if I no give her anything, she go still fit afford am herself because she no be burden