Good girl, Bad girl... They're all labels.

This life learn to live your life to the fullest, just minimise hurting people intentional. Good, bad, ugly we all die one day. What's the need of limiting yourself to the society standards

Stargurl20:

I'm not oppressed by anyone. Even if there are in gold. I'm just wondering what being the good gurl has gotten me so far. Nothing. Whereas the so called wild gurls are doing perfectly. In fact, I've come to realize thatost guys just come to the public to rant they desire good gurls where as deep down it's the bad ones they want...
Being a good gurl in this Nigeria is of no single value

I was never attracted to a bad girl. I didn't settle for a bad girl. We're doing fine.

Alusiizizi:


If you are a good girl, you will eventually get the man of your dreams. A real man. But if you are a bad girl, then what you'll have to settle with depends, I'll enumerate:

1: Not a virgin? Well a lot(most) successful men will prefer virgins over non-virgins any day of the week. Reason? It literally demonstrates
chastity, virtue and strength. A virgin will have good up-bringing, self-control and clarity of purpose. You will be attractive
to any man. So as a non-virgin, your levels(husband-wise) downgrades to "maybe(not) comfortable but definitely not top-
class".
2. You're a "baby-mama"? Well I don't need to write too much here, but know this: Single average males are out of the question. Fathers of
children will be a hard-sell, then you'll have to settle with play-boys that will come in and out of your life like a
public toilet while you pray/tithe/(perform deliverance) in hopes that one of them just might put a ring on fiinger.

3. You're a "slay-queen"? Even less words needed here than the case of "baby-mama". You get knocked around different "big" men as if
they were playing table-tennis. At first you'll enjoy the life, but as you age and lose value, you'll be replaced by
younger, fresher slay-queens then you'll either have to become a full-time brothel-girl or settle for some fvck-boy
just like that one called MC Fish.

4. You're a brothel girl? One sentence. You're only options are either street urchins(Agbero) or worse, other girls.

When your father forces you to stay on the path of virtue while bringing you up in his house, he knows exactly the reason why he's doing so, but to answer your initial question, good(virtuous) women are not only valuable, they are prized.

On point

Stargurl20:
I'm not saying been bad to people in general but u know the good gurl of a thing, right? Is there really any gain in that? Coz to the best of my knowledge, the so called bad gurls are excelling far better in all ramifications than good gurls. Even guys will choose the over the gurls any time.

I will choose a good decent woman over a girl who is badly behaved, every girl have the type of guy that looks out for them. Just stick to a style. Also, if those bad/wayward guy that you envy open their inner secrets and pain to you, you will thank God for living a good life. I have come to know that people who live the good life don't have the regrets others have.

Whether good girl or bad girl...

Una case dey on top my dick...

Who get time?



I hail y'all.

Stargurl20:
I'm not saying been bad to people in general but u know the good gurl of a thing, right? Is there really any gain in that? Coz to the best of my knowledge, the so called bad gurls are excelling far better in all ramifications than good gurls. Even guys will choose the over the gurls any time.

THATS THE MOST GAINFULL ATITTUDE

Stargurl20:
I'm not saying been bad to people in general but u know the good gurl of a thing, right? Is there really any gain in that? Coz to the best of my knowledge, the so called bad gurls are excelling far better in all ramifications than good gurls. Even guys will choose the over the gurls any time.

Yes more of bad girl they get MOvez not slow lazy love-vendor good girl

it's a stupid comparative analysis to be saying bad girl are making it than good girl



even some Christians argue it sometimes that unbelievers are making it and believers are struggling



alaye success is practical, if you don't have any service to offer the society you've noting to gain, God breath on existing things




for the good girl things because you're a good girl by intention doesn't mean you shouldn't have social vices, have skills and do something that attract or get attention in a moderate way

Yes, for one, ur down bellow go rest. It not easy

Stargurl20:
I'm not saying been bad to people in general but u know the good gurl of a thing, right? Is there really any gain in that? Coz to the best of my knowledge, the so called bad gurls are excelling far better in all ramifications than good gurls. Even guys will choose the over the gurls any time.

when u travel overseas you will beg for a bad girl. Say no more. Babies

Stargurl20:

Even u men are confused. You don't want a good gurl

Men are not confused, just that everyone would rally round the good girls and wouldn't want them to have nasty experiences, hence the reason why men rarely approach them except serious minded men. But for the bad gurls, hahaha, and i don't like using vulger language o, they are public utilities that every man would want to use to their advantage, but the girls are also wise having spent alot of time on the street, the knew how to tie men down.

Stargurl20:
I'm not saying been bad to people in general but u know the good gurl of a thing, right? Is there really any gain in that? Coz to the best of my knowledge, the so called bad gurls are excelling far better in all ramifications than good gurls. Even guys will choose the over the gurls any time.

There's the world to gain in being a good girl.

Authentic Respect not monitise respect,
You will be a roll model to many, your dignity and values stays intact,you will be genuinely rich and not fast lane riches that could fade off easily,you will attract good responsible pple...Just follow the right processes and u won't think of being a runs girl...but country hard, everybody gats survive...In Naija,do what makes u happy,but when kasala burst,be ready for the consequences..

Stargurl20:
I'm not saying been bad to people in general but u know the good gurl of a thing, right? Is there really any gain in that? Coz to the best of my knowledge, the so called bad gurls are excelling far better in all ramifications than good gurls. Even guys will choose the over the gurls any time.

THIS IS DECEITFUL AND BIG LIES.

The bolded statements are outdated

You turning to a 'bad girl' might get you into trouble or might even lead you to your untimely death.

Stargurl20:
I'm not saying been bad to people in general but u know the good gurl of a thing, right? Is there really any gain in that? Coz to the best of my knowledge, the so called bad gurls are excelling far better in all ramifications than good gurls. Even guys will choose the over the gurls any time.

This one don dey loose focus.

Be like them don dey oppress you.

Stargurl20:
I'm not saying been bad to people in general but u know the good gurl of a thing, right? Is there really any gain in that? Coz to the best of my knowledge, the so called bad gurls are excelling far better in all ramifications than good gurls. Even guys will choose the over the gurls any time.

Notin is Eva good!

Every truth is a JUSTIFIED lie! ...just orientation!

OP... The benefits of being a good girl are endless. Trust me I know. I have met and been with both.

Regardless of the ABP's hype... I'd still always choose a good girl.
Mehn... not cos of anything. But cos of my kids.

The reward no be here. I'd break boundaries... push through walls... mount on a firm position to defend a queen.

They are the real queens. So the benefit is simple.
You'll equally be happy when you meet the right dude.

Same reasons serious men within marriageable age... will always be skeptical. ALWAYS!
Modified: ABP simply means the only thing women generally have to offer to men (@ass, @B00tiii, @pUzsy). Apart from the so-called good girls anyway.

However, good girls can equally change... which is a constant thing. Change!

Be a good girl but not overly righteous as you'd become boring. Some women are so religious they cant romance or ask for sex from their husband. Thats the advantage bad girls have to warrant collecting goodies more than wives

Stargurl20:
I'm not saying been bad to people in general but u know the good gurl of a thing, right? Is there really any gain in that? Coz to the best of my knowledge, the so called bad gurls are excelling far better in all ramifications than good gurls. Even guys will choose the over the gurls any time.

Stargurl20:
I'm not saying been bad to people in general but u know the good gurl of a thing, right? Is there really any gain in that? Coz to the best of my knowledge, the so called bad gurls are excelling far better in all ramifications than good gurls. Even guys will choose the over the gurls any time.

it depends on your definition of bad

Not only for girls
I have come to realize that in Nigeria, being good (male or female) has more than ninety percent disadvantages
Everyone will want to capitalize on your good side to cheat you or to benefit themselves.
I grew up believing that only good people can make it in life, but in reality, the reverse is the case
Most of my so called "bad ass friends" are balling great right now with their families (wife and children)

Another example is my two nieces
The one who ignored all my advice of remaining a calm and good girl is living the life of her dream with her husband and little child in one of the country in Europe , but the second girl who choose to follow my advice is still struggling to stand in life (this is a real life event, not fiction)

Been a good person in this evil country will definitely destroy your dream

Stargurl20:

I'm not oppressed by anyone. Even if there are in gold. I'm just wondering what being the good gurl has gotten me so far. Nothing. Whereas the so called wild gurls are doing perfectly. In fact, I've come to realize thatost guys just come to the public to rant they desire good gurls where as deep down it's the bad ones they want...
Being a good gurl in this Nigeria is of no single value

It is very profitable to be good but balance it else you'll be meat for devourers.

Be wise as a serpent but meek like a lamb..

Being bad ass fetches you quick money in the short time. You earn lots of respect and many suitors if you're a good girl... Even strangers will refer you to good minded girls after they've messed around with the bad girls.

Then, most of those entertainment ladies use the bad girl reputation to earn fame/ money... E.g I'm shocked Beyonce married, settled down with kids into wifey role instead of being a razz lady jumping from pillar to post

Stargurl20:
I'm not saying been bad to people in general but u know the good gurl of a thing, right? Is there really any gain in that? Coz to the best of my knowledge, the so called bad gurls are excelling far better in all ramifications than good gurls. Even guys will choose the over the gurls any time.

There is no guy that will choose a bad girl over a good one. This only happens when you are a teen and still exploring. By the time you are ready to settle down and you choose a bad girl as a wife....... Goodluck to you as we read your regret epistles on Nairaland

SurvivorM:
I am so bored been a good girl like I want to do so many bad things before I get old.
I want stories of how I pass out in a night club or met a guy that had bad intentions towards me or travel to meet a complete stranger lol.
So many things I could be doing instead of been so freaking boring

No try am o, I'm exactly like this adventurous, good, bad, ugly, nice, I can switch my personality anyhow I want, but in order to survive this, you have to be extremely smart, wise, move with an imaginary dagger at the back of your mind and non- ignorant, so you won't get burned

Stargurl20:
I'm not saying been bad to people in general but u know the good gurl of a thing, right? Is there really any gain in that? Coz to the best of my knowledge, the so called bad gurls are excelling far better in all ramifications than good gurls. Even guys will choose the over the gurls any time.

If you study the Bible very well, you wouldn't have asked such question!

If you have really made up your mind to become bad girl, go ahead. I think experience will tell you more which one is better, being a good girl or bad one.

Cos the way you are countering some people here shows that you have made up your mind to become a bad one.

Are you being a good girl because you want to be one or you are expecting to reap the benefits of being a good girl?

Stargurl20:

I'm not oppressed by anyone. Even if there are in gold. I'm just wondering what being the good gurl has gotten me so far. Nothing. Whereas the so called wild gurls are doing perfectly. In fact, I've come to realize thatost guys just come to the public to rant they desire good gurls where as deep down it's the bad ones they want...
Being a good gurl in this Nigeria is of no single value

First you need to redefine what you mean by being good or bad.
1. There is no philosophy, biblical quotation or any where it is stated that you will excel in anything for being good.
2. The bible said for the grace has appeared unto all men, He maketh his rain to fall on both the righteous and the wicked
3. I know your point of view is about making money or having rich husband later in life. There is no place inmm where this is supported in the bible ( I will justify it), this is a religious and philosophical dogma dat has been preached in africa for long which make us not to be moving forward. Imagine people still believing it is only prayer that can solve Nig problem.
4. Just ask yourself this questions, a) you don't want your mouth to smell, you brush your teeth b) you don't want your clothes rumpled, you iron it c) you don't want your hair to look bushy, you barb it d) you don't want to look dirty, you wash your cloth e) you don't want your room to look scattered, you arrange it

You can see all the action you take everyday to actualize your goal, but we now fail to put in the necessary actions to achieve want we want. Why, you have been made to believe by the pastor that once you are good, you shall make it.

You want the good things of life, there are things you need to do. What so ever a man sow, that shall he reap.

There are bad things you can do to achieve a result, also there are good things. You can see how Jesus narrated a story of how a bad servant was commended for applying wisdom in a business the master assigned him.

In essence, for every you so much desire, there are specific things you must do to achieve it.

NEVERTHELESS the statement that the good girl/boy are having it better is not actually true. Judging by my personal statistics from the people we graduated together. You can't check and say that the bad are actually doing better than the good both in marriage, job, business, politics etc. Infact, from my statistics, the good ones are having it better.

It is just like saying that the less educated eventually makes it better than the educated. This is another false statement. People will point at mark Zuckerberg and bill gate forgetting that out of the first hundred richest people in the world, over 90 of them have degrees.

I don't know what to say again. I am finding it hard expressing my opinion in writing but i just hope you got my point.

Yes. It definitely pays off in the end. Less drama

Very nice writeup. I am sending this to my teenagers

slickycee:
Bad girl , Bad boy, Good girl and good boy are just labels we put on people..

The person you think is a bad girl might just be daring and adventurous, but our olodo society might call such people bad. It's just a tag , don't let name decieve you.

That good girl you're thinking of , might just be a homely , shy and churchy girl.

All these traits don't make any one bad or good they're just different characters.

Good or bad is in the heart.
The more selfish a person is , the more likely vhe or she would do wicked things.

Secondly,
You need to remember life is not the same for all of us,
That girl did this and is enjoying life, doesn't mean you would do it and enjoy life too.

God would bless everyone according to his wisdom and time.

Don't envy people or compare, God sees the heart , me and you don't.

Thirdly.
You are not for everyone and everyone is not for you.
Even if you try to be a bad girl, the same guy that you think Is confused and always pick bad girls, would still ignore you.

You can't be for everyone !!!
It doesn't work like that.
Jesus Christ wasn't even accepted in his home town.
His own people asked for him to be crucified.

It's never personal, but everyone is not for you. And even if you do surgery to look like them , or change your name to theirs, they won't still accept you.

Just love yourself and be confident I yourself.
Don't let social media or Tv fool you.


Let me say this again,
A quiet person doesn't make them good.
A shy person doesn't mean a good person.
An emotional or cry baby is not always a good person.

Those are just traits, so don't mistake them for good and bad.
We know the personality types, sanguine, melancholy, phlegmatic and choleric.
None is good not is bad.
It's what people decides to do.


Lastly,
The grass always seem greener on the other side.
Humans are naturally ungrateful, and never know the value of what they have until they Lose it.

They're many people who think bad people are having life easy, but they feel cheated , being ungrateful for the peace and blessings they enjoy.
Like my role model , J Cole said.

There's no such thing as a life thats better than yours.

They would always be someone richer than you, finer than you, more talented than you.
Like your latest would always be someone outdated, your choice would be someone Godforbid.
But you would never be happy untill you learn to love yours.



So love yourself and the things you have and believe better days are surely ahead.
If you believe what you're doing Is right , and you feel it's something that doesn't compromise your peace , please keep at it

Don't let labels decieve you or make you question your beliefs.

Stay true to yourself.

Stargurl20:

Being good gurl in this country Nigeria only has Disadvantage

hence you have decided to be an ashawo, why disturbing us then?

Stargurl20:

Even u men are confused. You don't want a good gurl

I hope you listen to me because I used to think like you when I was your age.

Now I'm much older and wiser too. My darling, it pays to be a good girl but the benefits of being good won't come now, Lai Lai, it will come years later at least in 4yrs time.
I will give you a few examples:
1. You can boldly tell your daughter how you made every dime, nothing to be ashamed of.
2. An amazing relationship with God, no guilt when you're praying and you'll even notice your prayers begin to work like magic
3. Men will chase you, the good, the bad, the rich, the poor etc. See the guys around you now aren't ready for commitment so they're avoiding you cus they know you can't be their hoe so they're taking their gifts to the girls that will open legs for them. (If you were a guy and looking for a lady to be banging steadily, will u go to the good girl who doesn't joke with her body or will u go for the bad girl u heard knows how to whine very well?)
4. A woman's body is like a flower petal, manhandle it and see it wrinkled. If you see how these f*ck boys squeeze the br**sts of the girls they're banging ehn, 1week the br**st don turn to slippers, everything don gel . These guys will go and buy Viagra and use it to bang these girls in different positions and for hours expanding their v*gina and they will come here and call the lady "community borehole". After her body has expanded, how can she have a good sexual life with her husband who doesn't take p*nis enlarg*ment pills? In a few years time, if you stand in a public bathroom with those girls, they'll want to use their eyes to pluck you out cus the "hustle" has taken it's toll, while you will be having matured curves with the almost same perkiness of a teenager.
5. STDs there are crazy sicknesses out there and c*ndoms don't give 100% protection. Many carriers of aids going on a sharing spree for revenge
6. Spiritual implications too. U heard yahoo boys use ladies for rituals right? Do you know that one of the popular things these guys do is to turn the lady into a funnel where the destiny of anyone she's sleeping with will be drained to them. Now imaging you're sleeping with a guy who is also sleeping with one of such funnel girls?
7. When you have nothing to hide, you can be honest with your future hubby and he will trust you cus he knows what u didn't do before he met you, you won't do in his house.
8. Unwanted pregnancy, u want to bear the risk of getting pregnant and having to do abortions? Or you want to damage your womb by popping abortion pills (the fancy name is morning after pill) every week into your mouth? You want to run the risk of barrenness when you're ready to settle down?
9.Bad name: Bad news doesn't stay hidden, sooner or later, everybody go hear say you be ashewo. Imagine the humiliation on your mom or family when they begin to use you to yab them.
10. Nothing you gain as a runs girl or bad girl is permanent. Few years time, iphone 13 pro max go don caste, the guys that bought you the phone have moved on to girls with perkier boobs who can whine more than you. Your bone straight done bone, your laps aren't smooth again, you don't look hot in them anymore, all the guys u we're dating are now married with kids, what did you really gain? The rent they paid today go expire in 1yr, how sure say Dem go pay another one?

So my dear stargurl20, being a good girl will pay you like it's paying me now but it won't be today, it won't be tomorrow, but it won't be forever either. Few more years and you'll be looking for me to thank me (if you take this advice today)

Stargurl20:
I'm not saying been bad to people in general but u know the good gurl of a thing, right? Is there really any gain in that? Coz to the best of my knowledge, the so called bad gurls are excelling far better in all ramifications than good gurls. Even guys will choose the over the gurls any time.

Nope.

Honestly, there's no gain. It will have you overlooked, taken advantage of, heartbroken, and overused.

Don't be bad though. Just be selfish and less empathetic.

The present world system favours bad people becasue we all rate sucess based on how rich someone is.

BTW, a good name is better than riches.

Just be yourself, there are a lot of bad girls that never made it as well as there a lot of good girls that couldn't get a man to marry.

sometimes too we mistake adventurous people to be bad people, that's wrong.

Just be yourself and never harm anyone.