PLS HELP, I need help. i'm 32 years old, good-looking lady (sorry, i cant post my pix here) but the problem is that only married men have been asking me out, no young guy has come along for awhile now.

what could really be the problem, i'm slim, dress fine and decently.

since i cant date someone's husband, i ve been 'dateless' for a year now
is it peculiar to Abuja, or just me?

Would u date me?, I'm nt married

and since I'm single I think I'm very qualified

that's too bad, there is nothing wrong with ya, the young guys in ur area has serious relationship, why not relocate.

in port Harcourt there are lot of single guys of 35 to 40, maybe is ur environment,

but remember God's time is the best.

lol at one being qualified.

@
babes I commend you for your boldness.

i wish you the best and hopefully u'll find the one here.

^^Pun Intented O!
I think it's just happenstance I wouldn't want to attribute your "problem" to any undying banana tree inhabiting league of old women in your village,

The thing is single guys are easily put off by any ego-threatning lady and I stand to be corrected bt i tend to reason that you come off as such, possibly with all your conspicuous comfortable elements.

A married man has been there,done that,got a T-shirt and so he's not neccessarily intimidated by your status, I have so much to say, let others talk first

Single guys will ask you ask when you seem to need their help.

Let them know they have someone you want and appreciate.

let them give you rides . .and buy your drink . . take you out . . . things like that

Call it ego but it is what it is.

Good luck

Nawa O

LMAO maybe married men are attracted to you.

the same problem am having is this my sister only marrie woman that fall inlove with me, i don tired of this, i gues is my structure that cause this

qualified:

PLS HELP, I need help. i'm 32 years old, good-looking lady (sorry, i cant post my pix here) but the problem is that only married men have been asking me out, no young guy has come along for awhile now.

what could really be the problem, i'm slim, dress fine and decently.

since i cant date someone's husband, i ve been 'dateless' for a year now
is it peculiar to Abuja, or just me?

[size=15pt] Yeah! That's because you're getting past your prime, Better get hooked fasssssssssssssssssssssssst. [/size]

my dear i feel for u.


its not abuja, maybe the age difference put them off, or ur manners, or you dont attend function where u can meet new people.

My gf is going through the same problem and she was complaining just last month, though in her case she has a bf who happens not to be serious

Godmother:

My gf is going through the same problem and she was complaining just last month, though in her case she has a bf who happens not to be serious

What did u advice her pls?

@Poster
Anyway, i think u should pray seriously about it.
Is not a good sign at all.
Good luck

There is nothing wrong with u , its everywhere PH, Lagos, Abuja and even UK. I have heard of a lot of single girls complaining of the same problem. You just have to be patient.

where are all dem single guys on nairaland.just hang on my dear,d singles will soon start comin

iv4real:

There is nothing wrong with u , its everywhere PH, Lagos, Abuja and even UK. I have heard of a lot of single girls complaining of the same problem. You just have to be patient.

Are u talking from experience?

God catch u, when my grandpa wan marry u 5 years ago, u talk say hin too old
now no body wan marry u again,
omo na wa o
u better go change ur plate number to age25 customize stuff
so people go they toast u

Op
Am single,

But d only thing i can do is 2 nyash u.

OP, you are old(and prolly nasty), thats why young folks avoid ya company.

@ Poster maybe the way you dress send them message you might be hooker

If women look good, all they have to do is position themselves properly really.

I sometimes go to functions and see some single women that seriously took time on themselves that evening, but then they go on and do something REAL silly.
Like putting layers of her friends between them and eligible bachelors. That just says "don't bother me, I'm not open". The guys who try anyway are typically those who are out for something else and could care less if you're open or not. Worthwhile guys are respectful of their time and yours and will treat you according to how you advertise yourself.

A single mature woman who's looking and knows what she wants need not use her friends as a crutch. Your friends won't/shouldn't run your relationship for you.
When you go to events, don't neglect your friends, but distance yourself from them from time to time to give the genuine fellas a chance to say hey.

Also another silly thing women do (some guys as well) is to make sure they always go to an event with a member of the opposite sex who is really just a friend (because they don't want to feel like a single loser). No genuine gentleman likes the idea of going after another man's catch. There is no honor in that. So by doing so, you automatically disqualify yourself from any proper consideration.

I guess what I'm saying is, if you're single and looking, advertise yourself as such because there is such a thing as single and not looking and fellas aren't psychic.

@op, start talking to woman
u will see how so may guys will get at u
well for nyashing oly
e.g my padi 190

Hi Nairalander's,

I wish to apply for the job of hubby to the poster,I am 35 years single but still in the market searching,I believe i am the most qualified to that Job,she should give me chance to occupy that vacant position.I can be reached on festacproperties@yahoo.com

see as apllication full for ground, i laugh o

Try toning down ur lifestyle a bit IF you are flashy, single guys get intimidated by flashy ladies and at ur age, I am sure you would have acquired enough to make you comfortable. All the best sis and make all d efforts you can as time ticks.

190:

^a 32year old woman - haba you nor like me @ all 

no be so my brother, u not fit nyash 32 years old woman?  
i think say u be oshomo  

OP: you need prayer and deliverance. Good luck!

You can find men in:
Churches
At wedding reception
Thru friends.

Get hitched quickly before you get older.

Babes but why did you wait till 32yrs before finding a solution. Anyways its better late than never.

I didn't want to say anything before because this is a sensitive topic but since we are all free here, I can advice.

I think you need a self evaluation. You are the one who knows yourself. Are you arrogant? Are you too flashy? Do you live a flamboyant life? Do you frown all the time? ,

Once you can identify your character or habits that send wrong signals then you would be able to tackle them. You can ask young guys around you to evaluate you too.

Secondly, maybe you are not a social person. Single guys will not know you exist if you keep hiding. Try and socialize, keep the right group of friends and who knows anything can happen.

You said you are slim, good looking and u dress well. Sometimes we ladies wear hideous clothes that makes us look older. Probably you need to use your natural hair and dress a little bit youthful. Do a make over. Change your walking steps, when you walk too fast it shows lack of confidence. Get a signature walk. Find what suits your body type, face and height. Good hygiene is impt too cos men have infrared eyes.

Ladies mistake beauty as a criteria for marriage. Asides beauty, you have to be well behaved, have principles & all the wifely characteristics.

Take yourself out once in a while and spoil yourself. Men like independent women so this should be a catch for them.

Travel a lot to other states and visit your friends. Then get active in the church.

You can also join a sport club or something.

It can also be that you are too choosy. There is no way a single guy won't have approached you, maybe the ones that have been coming are just not ur type. Try and be a little bit flexible.

Finally, humility is the best selling point. So if you have all them luxuries aka 220k gold jewelries, 230k lace materials, shoe and bag to match etc, kindly put them away and be modestly sexy. Maturity, simplicity and good charisma are sturvs u need to work on.

Please don't be desperate, men would smell that inches away and capitalize on it.

Make sure you don't cross 35 Oh! Best of luck and pray hard!