Double dating or double-crossing?


Joyce is a pretty girl from the Niger Delta area of Nigeria living and working in Lagos. She has a penchant for flirting. She believes it is a girl’s prerogative to have as many boyfriends as she can possibly handle. For her it’s all about being a ‘sharp babe’ and playing your cards well. Each of these guys has a specific need they meet in her life. Emeka who is a business man at Alaba International Market is the one you could call her money bag.

He meets her every whim and takes care of her financial needs. Kidochukwu, also from the Niger Delta, is the one she loves dearly and has been dating for a long time in the hope that he may propose to her. One day a friend introduced her to his cousin Obinna, who just came back from London. They hit it off immediately and soon she started dating him as well. Kidochukwu and Obinna did not have any inkling that Joyce was double dating them and it was easy for her to pull it off because they both lived in different parts of the city. In fact, she played smart for a while and seemed to have the best of both worlds until one day her walls came crashing down. Obinna called her one evening to come over to his place to meet a close friend from his secondary school days. She was very glad.

She reasoned that Obinna has started taking their relationship serious. Very soon, she’s sure he will introduce her to his parents. “I will break up with Kidochukwu once Obinna proposes to me. I cannot keep waiting for him forever to pop the big question. It’s a good thing I did not put all my eggs in one basket,” she said to herself. She got dressed in a sexy top and jeans and went off to see Obinna. On getting to Obinna’s house, she was rooted to the spot in shock when he introduced her to his so-called secondary school friend, Kidochukwu! How on earth could life play this kind of trick on her? She has been so careful to make sure that her boyfriends’ paths never crossed but how could she have known she was dating two friends at the same time? Dating two friends Obinna and Kidochukwu went berserk when they realised she has been two timing them all along. Obinna threw her out of his house without a backward glance. Kidochukwu felt so betrayed because he has been thinking seriously of making Joyce his wife.

He couldn’t believe that a sweet looking girl like Joyce could cheat on him with other men. Appearance can indeed be deceitful! Joyce was devastated. All her ‘runs’ and smart playing back fired on her. She has lost on both sides. Joyce is a typical picture of a smart Lagos girl who wants to eat her cake as well as have it. The parlance for having another man in the background aside from the main boyfriend is to have a fall back guy or an insurance cover in case the real guy you are dating decides to ditch you. At least they will have someone to quickly fall back on if the other relationship hits the rock. They argue that it is the men who push women into having multiple affairs. Fear of disappointment Well it all sounds very logical wouldn’t you say? Yet something is very wrong with it. Double dating is very much like double-crossing. You are betraying the trust invested in you by a partner that believed in your sincerity and commitment to the relationship.

The fear of disappointment should not be a reason for promiscuity. Neither should financial rewards be the main reason to be in a relationship with someone. A woman needs to hold her self esteem in top-notch. Why should you be branded a slut or worse still, a LovePeddler? Yes, that is what a girl who keeps multiple partners is invariably called. It is coded prostitution more or less. Ladies, having multiple relationships is not an ideal thing. Those who do it, if they will tell you the truth, don’t have peace of mind. You’ll never be focused, constantly under pressure and you will be ridden with a guilty conscience because no one needs to tell you that what you’re doing is not proper. You will need to manufacture fool proof lies regularly to cover up your slips and fibs. So regardless of what money those men collectively give you, you still cannot enjoy it because the scam would burst someday and you’ll become a laughing stock. It is called the law of Karma.

What about the health risk? In any way you want to look at it, the woman is the ultimate loser. Learn to be content in whatever relationship you find yourself in one at a time. The best relationship is the one you are in right now and if it is not working for you, make a clean break before venturing into another. That way you safeguard your integrity as woman whose word is her bond.

I agree. Good point

Nice, me love this!!!!

Kudos

Tale of the hoes.

op
relax

every1 need 2 cheat

dont lay ur eggs in 1 basket

ok
why do u think cars alwayz have spare tyre

I agree, it is too stressful and not worth it

One girl is wahala enough