pls, I need ur candid advice on this, actually am new here,
hv been dating this girl for close to 2 yrs now and shes been good, takes kia of ma bills most times, spoils me with money cos her dad is in "box". I love her so much, but my problem is, should I stop collecting all this stuff so that she can see that I love her not because of her money, just of recent she bought me a fone which I refused she got upset and was like why am I rejecting her gift blah blah blah, Not as if though I cant take kia of ma self but shes over spending on me, should I stop taking things from her,
pls, advice me,

Some questions:
(1) Do you love her?
(2) Can you marry her?
(3) Do you see any future in the relationship?
Honestly answer these questions. Then you can decide for yourself whether you should go ahead and collect her gifts or not. its up to you.

personally i feel it depends on d kinda gift she offers to u.if its too expensive reject it except on some special occasion like ur BD.
But mind u she might be offended if u reject hergifts.
So u just keep reciprocating her love and care by showing likewise to her in words&
actions.

Mind you if u break her heart na wahala ooo
Cos she's gonna recount all she spent on u so be wise

There so many questions to ask u. I'l skip that part of it & make it brief!

If both of u compatibile, there is nothing to worry
If she's way too older than u, there's much to worry
If u are not comfortable collecting things, both of u have something to worry
If u love her, and she's not using u, definitely nothing to worry

The answer boils down to you

That might be her way of expressing her emotions and you rejecting them might seem to her like rejecting her entirely

She bought a house worth $1m for you? if no then she ain't doing sh1t for you.

^^huh?

@OP
you dont want to be thought a gold-digger
so you buy something very expensive. . .like a diamond ring, or a necKLace, and give to her.
even if you buy it with her money. . .it still shows you too can spend on her

What if he don't have the money?

he should use the one he gives to her then . . .if she asks you were you got the money to buy it, frown at her and make a face like she just took your ego and wiped her azz with it. . .

He better work hard and quit sounding like a lazy broke asss

yeah, that's true.

OP, you better work hard and stop sounding like a lazy broke azz

Questions u should ask ur self include the following, How often do u reciprocate her gestures? do u buy her gifts too? if u are not buoyant enough to buy her expensive gifts, u can surprise her with good gifts and please if u are unemployed, get ur hands on something. also u can encourage her to start saving for rainy days, cos things change, and please as much as u can always appreciate ur woman, let her know she is special not cos of the gifts but for wat she truly means to u.

The OP reciprocates by NYASHING

thnx every one for ur advice,
Am wise now,

The milky way.

See some naija babes actually give money to their lovers. All those Nlanders who keep ranting that women are all about money, I can't seem to see them lashing the dude.

@op

I am sorry but I don't have respect for you though. I have come across guys who live in 1 room apartments with their folks and they would never collect money from their chick except maybe an emergency & some would even pay back. Its because of what we call PRIDE.

Tomorrow if u r no longer interested, u will feel trapped and obliged to stay with her. If you leave her it would be a case of you are ungrateful, curse will be on your head bla bla bla. Why sell your birth rite like that?

bros, if u stop. . i go break ur head

after girls don dey collect from us, we finally have a guy collecting n he wants to front, shattap there n keep collecting

@Op §~ are u older than her? If u really feel uncomfortable with what she's doing then stop accepting the gifts.To me it seems like she loves u more,and she's trying 2 make u cherish her more!!!

kpolli:

bros, if u stop. . i go break your head

after girls don dey collect from us, we finally have a guy collecting n he wants to front, shattap there n keep collecting

Lol

dis OP dey crase! Giv me her number first, then i will advise u on wat to do. Agreed?

^^^
You dey fing MAGA abi? Sharp guy