help i think i have a problem. my friends tell me i'm leading my self to a ditch. i'm 21 without a boyfriend. most single guys i meet want to sleep with me immediately they meet me and the others are always married . i'm truly against (real) sex before marriage and b'cos of that i've decided to abstain, the truth is that i'm still a virgin. i'm really confused. is there hope for virgins in the marital world? i really want to get married a virgin.

Let me level with you.What you are hoping to acheive will be hard but not impossible.I know a few people who have done. However you have got to have the right reasons for wanting to hold on to it. If it's beacuse of your faith,then you are more likely to succeed but if it's just because you think it's the right thing to do,then what happens one day when you meet a proper sweet talker who sweeps you off your feet? You would find yourself giving in to him.What's best is just not to bring it up wihen you talk to guys and just stay without a boyfriend until you are older and more confident as a woman to say no firmly without fearing you would sound childish

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THERE IS SO MUCH HOPE, SYLVIACOZY, FOR U

NOT JUST HOPE, BUT A LIFE FILLED WITH BLISSFULL THINGS AND A REAL CUTE GUY AND WONDERFUL KIDS AS A REWARD.

U'D NEVER REGRET THAT DECISION U MADE TO STAY CLEAN.

prizeless:

THERE IS SO MUCH HOPE, SYLVIACOZY, FOR You

NOT JUST HOPE, BUT A LIFE FILLED WITH BLISSFULL THINGS AND A REAL CUTE GUY AND WONDERFUL KIDS AS A REWARD.

You'D NEVER REGRET THAT DECISION You MADE TO STAY CLEAN.

word!!

Is good to be a virgin, Men they will always try their luck. If you accept they Win, but if you say no they Loss.
but I hope by the time you're married; you will not go about chasing men.

prizeless:

THERE IS SO MUCH HOPE, SYLVIACOZY, FOR You

NOT JUST HOPE, BUT A LIFE FILLED WITH BLISSFULL THINGS AND A REAL CUTE GUY AND WONDERFUL KIDS AS A REWARD.

You'D NEVER REGRET THAT DECISION You MADE TO STAY CLEAN.

Couldn't have said it better.

prizeless:

THERE IS SO MUCH HOPE, SYLVIACOZY, FOR You

NOT JUST HOPE, BUT A LIFE FILLED WITH BLISSFULL THINGS AND A REAL CUTE GUY AND WONDERFUL KIDS AS A REWARD.

You'D NEVER REGRET THAT DECISION You MADE TO STAY CLEAN.

Well said

There is hope but my Virgin sisters in law (38 & 34) are finding it difficult to get married

tHER IS CERTAINLY HOPE 4 U.
TODAY U WILL SLEEP SOUNDLY AND HAPPILY
U HAVE INDEED MET UR MATCH
I AM A SINGLE , HANDSOME , GOD FEARING,VIRGIN.
PLS CONTACT ME ASAP

SylviaCozy:

help i think i have a problem. my friends tell me i'm leading my self to a ditch. i'm 21 without a boyfriend. most single guys i meet want to sleep with me immediately they meet me and the others are always married . i'm truly against (real) sex before marriage and b'because of that i've decided to abstain, the truth is that i'm still a virgin. i'm really confused. is there hope for virgins in the marital world? i really want to get married a virgin.

It isn't a problem dear.I would call it a blessing.It doesnt stop you from having a boyfriend though.
I never knew virgin girls existed .Keep yourself until marriage.
Hopefully you will marry a virgin(man) too(if thats what you meant in your closing sentence)
Adios

nice thread, with real folks n meaningful contributions,

i wish all threads wud be this reasonable/responsible,
@poster,

glamchic:

Let me level with you.What you are hoping to acheive will be hard but not impossible.I know a few people who have done. However you have got to have the right reasons for wanting to hold on to it. If it's beacuse of your faith,then you are more likely to succeed but if it's just because you think it's the right thing to do,then what happens one day when you meet a proper sweet talker who sweeps you off your feet? You would find yourself giving in to him.What's best is just not to bring it up wihen you talk to guys and just stay without a boyfriend until you are older and more confident as a woman to say no firmly without fearing you would sound childish

this is surely among the best responses, though its always best being a virgin in all its ramifications, deeds/tots/actions, etc,
not having experienced
penile penetration is not the only criteria 4 virginity