Hello Nairalanders,

I experienced a chain of traumatic events and have since been living in a state of fear. It started while I was working in Nigeria before I moved to the Unites Kingdom for further studies. However, my condition became very critical since I came to the UK. When I arrived the UK, it was a relative that came to pick me up and I stay which his family before I started school. One day, he said I should dress up and let's go out. He drove me to the phone store with his girlfriend and asked me to take any phone I wanted. I told him I had a phone and I would just get a Sim card. He insisted and bought me the latest Samsung phone and a Sim card. His girlfriend joked that her son needed a phone too. He also bought me some wears.

When I started looking for an apartment near school, I was planning to share a space with some fellow Nigerian students. However, he advised me to get an apartment alone. While looking for an apartment, we stopped by a "Chinese restaurant" to get food. The following day, he informed me that he saw a place online and had called the agent. I eventually got the apartment.

I had a Nigerian roommate that was always saying we should go out and drink but I always declined. He said he wanted to take me to a gay club they took him to when he came to the UK and I declined. I do not club and I am straight. Eventually, he said I should follow him to assist him to deliver something somewhere because it was difficult to get a parking space there. I followed him a couple of times and he would pay me. Sometimes, he would ask us to get something to eat such as pizza, coke, coffee, etc. There was a day we bought milkshake and I noticed I had diarrhea after taking it. I felt maybe it had spoilt. There was a day we got coffee and I was feeling sleepy. There was an ocassion we got pizza and pepsi. I took some of the Pepsi and i went to deliver the item. When I returned and I took the pepsi, it tasted like metal was inside and I spat it out. Within a twinkle of an eye, I started feeling dizzy. I got home and I just slept off. I was not sure of what happened and I decided not to confront him. Besides, I didn't see any reason why he would want to do such. The next time we went to deliver stuff, he said "hope you know, normally, it's my girlfriend that would sit where you are seated?" and I just laughed. We bought ice-cream and he said "see the way we are licking ice-cream as if we are gay partners". I immediately told him to stop such jokes. It never occurred to me that he might be into men until the following day when he said "hope you know you have to be LGBTQ-sensitive". I was shocked and dumbfounded. I then started connecting the dots. I started avoiding him...

One day, a female colleague randomly texted me on whatsapp and asked me to take her to a "Chinese restaurant". I asked her who else was joining us and she did not respond. A week later, she said I was still owing her an outing and I asked her to arrange with our other colleagues so we could all go together. On the day of the outing, she told me others were busy and we had to go together. I noticed she was bent on taking pictures with me. The next morning, before I woke up, she already posted the pictures on social media while giving people the impression that something was happening between us. I called her to ask her why she did that and she said I was overthinking things. In her words, "is it not just pictures?". The following day, two male colleagues called me to accuse me that it was a girl I decided to go and enjoy with and I forgot them. One invited me over to his apartment since he had been to mine before. I went there and it was only the girl that was at home. The guys said they went to buy stuff at the supermarket. When they came, one of the guys cooked rice and we ate. I noticed that I felt really tired after eating. The guys said they were going out and I should see the lady off to her apartment which was nearby. I gullibly went and the girl put Netflix. She started seducing me and I got aroused. While attempting to make a move, she said she was not emotionally available and I came to my senses. I just stood up and went to my apartment. She texted me that I was wicked and cruel but she refused to substantiate. She asked me what I thought about abortion and I just gave a vague answer. She brought some groceries to my house one day and I asked her what she wanted while discouraging her. She said I was the one overthinking things - "we are just friends". She called me one day and said she has a friend she felt I would like and wanted to introduce me to her. However, I told her I was not interested. She called me one afternoon to inform me that she was not feeling too well and I told her to use medication. She called me back that it was getting worse and her friend, a nurse, helped her to fix a drip. She called later in the evening and asked me to help her to bring drugs. I did not want to go initially but I thought "if anything happens to her, I would feel guilty that she called me". When I got there, I realized there was nothing wrong with her. I gave her the drug and I stood up to go to my apartment. Then she said "are you going? So you're just going? Actually, I love children now". I just left. Mind you, she has a bf. I blocked her. Other colleagues started giving me an attitude and those two guys would call me and add her to the call. Subsequently, one of them came to tell me the girl likes me and I said it's not possible. I said I was not interested. It was more difficult because we were colleagues. I unblocked and called the girl later that evening to ask her what she wanted and she said she should have been the one asking me that question. She said she does not discuss such issues over the phone and we would discuss in person. When I saw her, she did not say anything tangible and I just blocked her again. They would organize group hangouts and tactically try to set me up with the girls. Meanwhile, all these things were affected my mental well being.

I will just summarise the rest of the story. The relative that bought me a phone has been monitoring my conversations. He tried to introduce me to internet fraud, prostitution and drug trafficking and I was almost killed because I refused. He monitors every of my move and I am tired of the stalking. His girlfriend also tried to seduce me many times and she drugged and poisoned me many times because I declined. There are cameras everywhere and I feel it is a set-up. The ventilator where I stay was emitting drug substances and I would wake up feeling helpless and hopeless. The foodstuff they gave me was also laced with drugs. I didn't know initially because I don't take drugs and alcohol. I went to look for a job at a store and they know the owner. The store owner also tried to introduce me to drug trafficking. They maltreated me because I was not ready to do anything illegal or immoral and I had to run away when I felt mt life was in danger.

A recruiter contacted me that he wanted to help me get a job. He introduced me to top consultants at big organizations. It was later I realized he is a love-vendor. Many of those consultants are looking for gay partners. This affected my mental health too. These people typically pretend to want to help you to get jobs whereas I feel like they want to take advantage of someone. The manipulation is too much including spiritual manipulation. They give the impression that I am lazy whereas it's because they want to force me into what I'm not ready to do. Someone in church also asked me if I would be willing willing to be a security/escort and I said no problem. However, I realized that she's also a love-vendor. Now, I live in a state of fear. I don't know who to trust again. I am so traumatized. I am fed up honestly. I am holding onto the last strand of hope in me.

It is better you conclude your story on time so that people can start commenting on their views and render their advice.

Hmmm, you have seen the handwriting now?

It's a choice, if you wish to be gay then please do.

Your uncle that wanted you to live alone do not have sense abi? the man got an apartment for you to stay alone. How come a gay ended up as your roommate?

Akuko ndi mgbu

Baba complete your story lemme drops you advice,

The way am seeing things, this guy fit take you after drugging u

Baba Dey prep you to take tear ur assss


Uk and gay,5&6

TheVeteran:
Hello Nairalanders,

I experienced a chain of traumatic events and have since been living in a state of fear. It started while I was working in Nigeria before I moved to the Unites Kingdom for further studies. However, my condition became very critical since I came to the UK. When I arrived the UK, it was a relative that came to pick me up and I stay which his family before I started school. One day, he said I should dress up and let's go out. He drove me to the phone store with his girlfriend and asked me to take any phone I wanted. I told him I had a phone and I would just get a Sim card. He insisted and bought me the latest Samsung phone and a Sim card. His girlfriend joked that her son needed a phone too. He also bought me some wears.

When I started looking for an apartment near school, I was planning to share a space with some fellow Nigerian students. However, he advised me to get an apartment alone. While looking for an apartment, we stopped by a "Mexican restaurant" to get food. The following day, he informed me that he saw a place online and had called the agent. I eventually got the apartment.

I had a Nigerian roommate that was always saying we should go out and drink but I always declined. He said he wanted to take me to a gay club they took him to when he came to the UK and I declined. I do not club and I am straight. Eventually, he said I should follow him to assist him to deliver something somewhere because it was difficult to get a parking space there. I followed him a couple of times and he would pay me. Sometimes, he would ask us to get something to eat such as pizza, coke, coffee, etc. There was a day we bought milkshake and I noticed I had diarrhea after taking it. I felt maybe it had spoilt. There was a day we got coffee and I was feeling sleepy. There was an ocassion we got pizza and pepsi. I took some of the Pepsi and i went to deliver the item. When I returned and I took the pepsi, it tasted like metal was inside and I spat it out. Within a twinkle of an eye, I started feeling dizzy. I got home and I just slept off. I was not sure of what happened and I decided not to confront him. Besides, I didn't see any reason why he would want to do such. The next time we went to deliver stuff, he said "hope you know, normally, it's my girlfriend that would sit where you are seated?" and I just laughed. We bought ice-cream and he said "see the way we are licking ice-cream as if we are gay partners". I immediately told him to stop such jokes. It never occurred to me that he might be into men until the following day when he said "hope you know you have to be LGBTQ-sensitive". I was shocked and dumbfounded. I then started connecting the dots. I started avoiding him...


To be continued...

So you are gonna avoid a good friend because he's queer? You do realize that gay straight friendships are a thing right but Ok, since the conditions to be your friend is "don't be gay".....got it,the person's heart or mind doesn't matter neither does him being a good or bad person matters in the friendship. Just don't be gay,he could be a theif or murderer,just don't be gay

Flamemignon1:

So you are gonna avoid a good friend because he's queer? You do realize that gay straight friendships are a thing right but Ok, since the conditions to be your friend is "don't be gay".....got it,the person's heart or mind doesn't matter neither does him being a good or bad person matters in the friendship. Just don't be gay,he could be a theif or murderer,just don't be gay

that is not the case. I felt like he manipulated and abused me. Why was he spiking my drinks? Besides, I already told him I'm straight. Why was he trying to force me to do what I don't do? He just wanted to take advantage of me.

NewSoul:
Your uncle that wanted you to live alone do not have sense abi? the man got an apartment for you to stay alone. How come a gay ended up as your roommate?

He wanted me to live away from colleagues we came together from Nigeria. Then, I found myself in the midst of perceived criminals.

seankafor:
Akuko ndi mgbu

can you please interpret?

kernniejay:
Hmmm, you have seen the handwriting now?

I ran for my life

Flamemignon1:

So you are gonna avoid a good friend because he's queer? You do realize that gay straight friendships are a thing right but Ok, since the conditions to be your friend is "don't be gay".....got it,the person's heart or mind doesn't matter neither does him being a good or bad person matters in the friendship. Just don't be gay,he could be a theif or murderer,just don't be gay

AYO, what are you on about? Nah man. He did the right thing. Sort of weird donnie is that. O.p stay far away from that guy. Gay mofos.

His intentions weren't good from the beginning. If the donnie wanted to be friends he should have been straightforward from the beginning not trying to spike drinks and that.

TheVeteran:
that is not the case. I felt like he manipulated and abused me. Why was he spiking my drinks? Besides, I already told him I'm straight. Why was he trying to force me to do what I don't do? He just wanted to take advantage of me.

Wow,I have to take full responsibility,I'm so sorry.....I didn't read that part. Well,if that's the case,I'm glad you threw him off, that's no friend but a sex offender and he should be in jail. As someone who've been raped and drugged, it's so not ok.

TheVeteran:
Hello Nairalanders,


To be continued...

I hope your privates were safe after drinking and sleeping.

VlamesIffect:


AYO, what are you on about? Nah man. He did the right thing. Sort of weird donnie is that. O.p stay far away from that guy. Gay mofos.

His intentions weren't good from the beginning. If the donnie wanted to be friends he should have been straightforward from the beginning not trying to spike drinks and that.

I've apologized,I missed the "statutory rape part"

TheboyGhost:
It's a choice, if you wish to be gay then please do.

no, I do not wish to. It is the trying to force me and manipulate me I had issues against.

saintneo:


I hope your privates were safe after drinking and sleeping.

nothing happened.

TheVeteran:
no, I do not wish to. It is the trying to force me and manipulate me I had issues against.

This is what you do when someone tries to manipulate you into doing something you don't wish to.

Stand your ground and speak your mind, they (manipulators) usually get angry and pissed off at this, but first make a plan B for yourself and for your wellbeing cause you might have a sour relationship with him soon if you stand your ground and say NO.

TheboyGhost:


This is what you do when someone tries to manipulate you into doing something you don't wish to.

Stand your ground and speak your mind, they (manipulators) usually get angry and pissed off at this, but first make a plan B for yourself and for your wellbeing cause you might have a sour relationship with him soon if you stand your ground and say NO.

Thank you. Yes, I stood my ground. He poisoned my food a couple of times. It took me a while to know what was happening

TheVeteran:
Thank you. Yes, I stood my ground. He poisoned my food a couple of times. It took me a while to know what was happening

Make plan B Asap and disappear from his sight or you are going to get your hole digged soon

TheboyGhost:


Make plan B Asap and disappear from his sight or you are going to get your hole digged soon

Thank you

kernniejay:
It is better you conclude your story on time so that people can start commenting on their views and render their advice.

He has concluded na... He is frustrated.

Save up money, get a place for your self, stand your ground, tell them you don't indulge in such stuff, when you've gotten your place, make sure it is a bit far from them, somewhere they would feel reluctant to visit frequently. Also, if possible, get a beautiful babe to complement you, the moment they see you with a serious babe, they'll leave you alone. DON'T ALLOW THEM DICTATE YOUR LIFE FOR YOU.

Stay off their illegal business and don't succumb to them, the moment you take your mind off their illegal deals and business you'll notice legal deals starts coming your way, but if you still harbor any slight thought of joining or considering their illegal activities, they'll keep coming your way. Upright people like you are scarce these days, it may take time, but, you'll be alright las las. Learn to stand your ground when it has to do with your personal space and be affirmative.

rapcy:
Save up money, get a place for your self, stand your ground, tell them you don't indulge in such stuff, when you've gotten your place, make sure it is a bit far from them, somewhere they would feel reluctant to visit frequently. Also, if possible, get a beautiful babe to complement you, the moment they see you with a serious babe, they'll leave you alone. DON'T ALLOW THEM DICTATE YOUR LIFE FOR YOU.

Stay off their illegal business and don't succumb to them, the moment you take your mind off their illegal deals and business you'll notice legal deals starts coming your way, but if you still harbor any slight thought of joining or considering their illegal activities, they'll keep coming your way. Upright people like you are scarce these days, it may take time, but, you'll be alright las las. Learn to stand your ground when it has to do with your personal space and be affirmative.

This is so helpful. Thank you so much. I will work on it.

OP this manipulation and attacks from all corners how are u holding up? If u can't blend in with what they do why not leave there and relo if u can. because they would not stop until ur in the system or out of the picture. Mind u it's more dangerous wasting time as u then begin to know too much which is bad for thier businesses. I hope u dey well?

OP this manipulation and attacks from all corners how are u holding up? If u can't blend in with what they do why not leave there and relo if u can. because they would not stop until ur in the system or out of the picture. Mind u it's more dangerous wasting time as u then begin to know too much which is bad for thier businesses. I hope u dey well?

Honestly, it has not been easy. The manipulation is driving me crazy. Do you know what it means to be constantly let down by people when your intentions towards them are pure? Imagine someone that spiked your drink saying you are lazy when the substance paralyzes you. Then these people reaching out prospective employers falsely claiming you have a family and you are not taking care of them because you have a drinking problem. Whereas, you don't normally take drugs and alcohol and they are the ones spiking your drinks. 24/7 one feels tired from mantally calculating the next move to avoid being trapped. Yet, there is no guarantee there would be no mistakes. How can people be plotting evil against you because you refused to sleep with women. Social skills keep declining because of many networking gone wrong. Your flatmate asked you to help her to lift a heavy package downstairs but her narrative is that you are going out with her. Your colleague asked you to help her to bring drugs because she's ill whereas she's calling third parties that you came to her apartment uninvited. About relocating? To where? I have relocated like 5 times but all to no avail. They are everywhere. They keep calling others in your vicinity to continue the film. I tire no be small. Can't we compartmentalize relationships without all these manipulations? I tried to distance myself but they will always find a way to reach out. A 'harmless' hangout turns out to be something else. It is draining.

E be like you no wan make money

For the gay matter,I dislike it 100% but other illegal means

Be smart.
But I wan ask, you hate gays but why are you running away from having sex with women Too?

22o62021:
E be like you no wan make money

For the gay matter,I dislike it 100% but other illegal means

Be smart.
But I wan ask, you hate gays but why are you running away from having sex with women Too?

We all want to make money. However, ain't there other means of making money? Asides from that, their manipulative approach has bred distrust and it is difficult for me to believe they are up to any good. They keep sabotaging other jobs I get. People like that would be the ones to call the thief to come and steal and call the owner of the farm to come and arrest the thief.

I do not hate gay people. Rather, I dislike the manipulation and coercion. Concerning women, I do not want to sleep with women for money but the whole manipulation and spiking of food and drinks to get me to do what I do not want to do is exhausting and annoying.

TheVeteran:
We all want to make money. However, ain't there other means of making money? Asides from that, their manipulative approach has bred distrust and it is difficult for me to believe they are up to any good. They keep sabotaging other jobs I get. People like that would be the ones to call the thief to come and steal and call the owner of the farm to come and arrest the thief.

I do not hate gay people. Rather, I dislike the manipulation and coercion. Concerning women, I do not want to sleep with women for money but the whole manipulation and spiking of food and drinks to get me to do what I do not want to do is exhausting and annoying.

Stop hanging out with them no matter the conviction or reasons they might have to wanna be around you.

I think you will fare better if you stop being with them.

Ginaz:


Stop hanging out with them no matter the conviction or reasons they might have to wanna be around you.

I think you will fare better if you stop being with them.

I am trying to do that. However, I meet people I never thought would be involved. Also, they set up meetings that look serious like alumni meetings only for me to realize they are up to something. But thank you.