Kayceenaz:

You're toying with a ticking time bomb. There are more essential matters in life than romance; you may be living below your capacity as a human.

Read and understand before replying bro.

I said in the past(during school days, NYSC days, my days as an employee and so) that was when I had time for relationship, not now.
When I had enough time to spare for that(relationship matter), I never carried romance on my head(I handled it with wisdom), not to talk of now that I have little or no time for relationship and by extension romance.

I gt your point and advice but I think I am on the right path with respect to your topic(post), I never got carried away with relationship right from time.
Yes, I love sometimes(at some points in life) but I am always at alert and gallant all times, when you have the orientation that most human relationships are laid on "beneficial" foundation except immediate family(blood) relationships, you won't be carried away or hit a hard knock by life w.r.t relationship heartbreak/breakfast. That's the reason before a girl say it or present such to me, I am already ahead, leaving her behind.
May be that is why some of them do feel I never loved them from the beginning, they wonder why I am ahead of their actions.

Modified: I don't know you are the OP. You have a good point/view about life and relationship anyway.

Oh

Kayceenaz:

Well, I didn't miss that angle. That's exactly my point. Purpose drives self-contentment to the extent a person may decide not to be involved in romance at all, becoming a reverend father or sister, hermit, monk and so on. Purpose is always enough.

I'm open to sharing this insight and more on related topics in person across Nigeria in relevant programs/meetings/conferences. Cheers!

You don't get my point. It goes deeper than purpose. Anyway, good luck.

Kayceenaz:
Since I heard Burnaboy declare in his “Breakfast” hit song, “Last last, na everybody go chop breakfast,” I have disagreed. Being an entertainment content doesn’t override the untruth in those words. Only two categories of people are mostly bound to “chop” breakfast, becoming veteran victims of romantic heartbreaks: Those yet to find their life’s purpose and those who found but forgot their life’s purpose.

First, those ignorant about their life’s purpose tend to give romance an overestimated place in their lives. They believe that a chunk of their happiness depends on love and its expressions from the opposite gender; their obsession with marriage is unequalled. This makes them open their arms towards anyone who is loving and meets their shallow physical criteria. Absence of a solid life vision relegates them to going with the flow. Typically, they wail, embrace misandry/misogyny, contemplate or/and commit suicide when this love flow ebbs away.

Second, those who forget their life’s purpose yield either to personal or family/societal pressures. Here, bodily desires overpower their focus on purpose, making them accommodate people who had no business in their lives at all; very few are undisturbed by their departure. Also, they are swayed by the “God-when” shouts from peers online/offline and overflowing counsels from relatives to be marriage ready. Then they resort to shallow criteria, making lifetime mistakes with deep scars. Any breakfast customer in the past, present and future, after thorough enquiry, is in either of these two categories.

The exceptions to romantic heartbreaks or breakfast are those who have found and are living by their life’s purpose. Awareness of the number one position of why they are makes romance either secondary or useless (some become monks, reverend fathers and sisters, or hermits). Eventual involvement in romance in view of marriage is guided by purpose. Most part of their hearts belong to purpose, they can’t be served breakfast. You can end all those heartbreaks, repeated tears, trauma, sanity/life threats by finding and living your life’s purpose. Not everybody will eat breakfast.


©Kelechi O. Naze (KON)

well done for the epistle

Totally agree with OP. I tried love once and I regretted when she left I felt the void. If I had a life purpose then, I wouldn't have felt anything

MrRemedyAlagbo:
well done for the epistle

Thank you. I'm open to share this insight and more in person across Nigeria.

Fash20:
Totally agree with OP. I tried love once and I regretted when she left I felt the void. If I had a life purpose then, I wouldn't have felt anything

Exactly. Your purpose always keeps you emotionally healthy.

Kayceenaz:

©Kelechi O. Naze (KON)

Good write-up, OP.

In summary:
purpose over pussy, for men.

purpose over pënis, for women.

bepositive11:
Your post is very deep but you're missing a very important angle -- becoming whole and content with one's self.

All these people who are crazy romantics are actually looking for things missing in them. They are drawn to their partners because their partners seem to have something that they are missing. Their partners seem to complete them, and eventually, their partners become their life purpose.


A lot of movies romanticise this concept but it's complete rubbish. No one can complete you. Only you can complete yourself. The moment you feel that you are a complete on your own, instead of looking for someone to complete you, you will instead be looking for someone to complement you. And you will have a life purpose that is not tied to another person.

You're simply paraphrasing what the OP typed.

When you align with your purpose, you'll discover more about yourself.

In essence, the pursuit of purpose leads to in-depth self discovery.

Karlifate:


You're simply paraphrasing what the OP typed.

When you align with your purpose, you'll discover more about yourself.

In essence, the pursuit of purpose leads to in-depth self discovery.

Self discovery comes first.

YoungLionken:
When you're poor, then heartbreak happens...

Will Smith ain't poor

bepositive11:


Self discovery comes first.

Keyword: in-depth.

Karlifate:


Keyword: in-depth.

You don't understand what I'm saying, but nevermind.

The level of self discovery I'm talking about is not something that you can achieve through pursuing your purpose, but nevermind. You don't understand.

bepositive11:


Self discovery comes first.

Finding purpose is self-discovery.

Karlifate:


You're simply paraphrasing what the OP typed.

When you align with your purpose, you'll discover more about yourself.

In essence, the pursuit of purpose leads to in-depth self discovery.

Exactly. I said so, too. We are on the same page.

Kayceenaz:

Finding your purpose is self-discovery.

What I'm talking about is not something I can type out and explain to you. It's very complicated. Self discovery goes beyond purpose.

Anyway, nevermind. Have a good day.

Since Francisca leave me dat year when we dey yr 1 no relationship dey break my heart again. Na me cause am weh she leave me because I too serious for school matter dat year

Josephkabila12:
Since Francisca leave me dat year when we dey yr 1 no relationship dey break my heart again. Na me cause am weh she leave me because I too serious for school matter dat year

You made your choice and chose excellently.

Relationships are cute and romantic.

But, make sure you don't lose focus on your purpose in life..Keep developing yourself, humans can disappoint you at any point in time.

But a developed self will keep achieving till the end.

Again, be you male or female, add value to yourself and to whom you are in love with.
It is cute when we all have something doing. NO MATTER HOW SMALL.

You expose yourself to heartbreak when you don't have anything doing...You make it easier for the other partner to play with your emotions.

To my guys, chase the money..Every woman want to be comfortable even your mother your

Kobojunkiee:
Na people wey dey claim hardened hearts dey react worst to being served breakfast...abeg find better make you talk.

Fax

Allisgud:
When u see a man crying of breakfast fast,it's not about him loosing the girl,why he is heartbroken is because of the amount of money and time he has invested in her,so my advice for any man is used ur head even if u are swimming in love with her,why spending on her make sure u are always ready for breakfast

It's usually about the 'investment' and not really about the girl in question.

Money, time and attention are all forms of investment. The more you give these in a romantic relationship, the more your heart yearns for the romantic relationship.

concho:
You never Jam . I would question the quality of the people that has crossed your life

When you meet ; someone with Charisma , great personality , and super reserved . You will agree with me that no one is above heartbreak

“She touched my heart and vanished “ smiles

I say Dem no too Dey Chop Breakfast ... No Pour Venom on Me Bro

Allisgud:
When u see a man crying of breakfast fast,it's not about him loosing the girl,why he is heartbroken is because of the amount of money and time he has invested in her,so my advice for any man is used ur head even if u are swimming in love with her,why spending on her make sure u are always ready for breakfast

A purposeful man invests in himself first, always and much, not on a lady that isn't his wife. Even in marriage, the romantic union must not displace purpose. Purpose always comes first.

What does it mean to eat breakfast in this context?

Kayceenaz:

A purposeful man invests in himself first, always and much, not on a lady that isn't his wife. Even in marriage, the romantic union must not displace purpose. Purpose always comes first.

true, though from girlfriend lead to wife u don't just meet a girl today and she become a wife the next day, tru those process u are dating something go dey commot for ur hand na,abi u never hear news say wife serve husband heartbreak

Daslenan:
What does it mean to eat breakfast in this context?

Experience romantic heartbreak or disappointment.

Kobojunkiee:
Na people wey dey claim hardened hearts dey react worst to being served breakfast...abeg find better make you talk.

Leave am. Hardened men don't to about announcing for all I know

Traplord09:


I can't drink because my life is important one door closed other open like da say not everthin u called love are loved...


I lean from my past experiences
Before any say I love u
I go check my account because I no believe that word love


Just like Adam and eve
Without eve world would have been a better place

eve is the mother of yahoo boys na scammer eve be

Kobojunkie:
Two completely separate issues entirely.

Well, I don't do relationship and romance. I am into serious real world relation with be that a sister, a brother, mother or father, a friend or even a pet. I demand strong loyalty, mutual understanding, believing in me and having my back, seeing it through 2ru thick and thin. This is my own understanding of love and unfortunately even the so called mother's love can't see to these. Once e bad reach one side every body go desert you. The only one that remains in these trying times is what I consider true love which in most cases is only myself. So you see what I mean. It's a joke you can do it for fun but nothing too serious to the extent of being heartbroken.



Modified:
Women don't like hearing men finding not much use for their wares.

TheMaharajah:
Well, I don't do relationship and romance. I am into serious real world relation with be that a sister, a brother, mother or father, a friend or even a pet. I demand strong loyalty, mutual understanding, believing in me and having my back, seeing it through 2ru thick and thin. This is my own understanding of love and unfortunately even the so called mother's love can't see to these. Once e bad reach one side every body go desert you. The only one that remains in these trying times is what I consider true love which in most cases is only myself. So you see what I mean. It's a joke you can do it for fun but nothing too serious to the extent of being heartbroken.
Modified:
Women don't like hearing men finding not much use for their wares.

So, I see that you make this demands of others but do you however give to others exactly the same kind of love you demand from them or are you all about "me" and not about others ?

Do you like hearing that women don't have much use for your wares then?

Kobojunkie:
So, I see that you make this demands of others but do you however give to others exactly the same kind of love you demand from them or are you all about "me" and not about others ?

Do you like hearing that women don't have much use for your wares then?

I've never known a man more kind, loyal and compassionate as myself. I can't prove that to you but people who knows me know how simple a soul I am but in a world of wolves you have to act like a wolf. Once I consider someone a worthy friend I do my best to do by that person.



I stand only for what is what. It hurts to know that (expecially from the mouth of lesbians) but I don't get bitter about it.

TheMaharajah:



Well, I don't do relationship and romance. I am into serious real world relation with be that a sister, a brother, mother or father, a friend or even a pet. I demand strong loyalty, mutual understanding, believing in me and having my back, seeing it through 2ru thick and thin. This is my own understanding of love and unfortunately even the so called mother's love can't see to these. Once e bad reach one side every body go desert you. The only one that remains in these trying times is what I consider true love which in most cases is only myself. So you see what I mean. It's a joke you can do it for fun but nothing too serious to the extent of being heartbroken.



Modified:
Women don't like hearing men finding not much use for their wares.

True. Always put yourself, directly proportional to your purpose, first in romance.