A colleague shared his thoughts with me and I decided with his permission to share it on the forum so that other experienced people can further advise...thank you.

"I had a friend a very close friend she was highly cerebral and beautiful. We were both doing good financially (we both had good paying jobs). I had always thought we would get married and raise a little family. I did ask her out, but she said we were both too young and marriage was a huge commitment.
She changed job (got an oil company offer) and relocated to Warri. We both celebrated it, talked about the distance promised to see each other at least once in two weeks and all of that. We kept through to it though at least for the first six months, I will fly to Warri, and in a fortnight she will fly to Lagos.
One time I had a busy weekend back to back and couldn't make it, I promised the next weekend, my cousin's wedding ahhhhhhh, ok the next weekend, wait..."why don't you just come over, so I asked?" and from that period bit by bit the relationship ( I don't even know if there was a relationship) began to fade.
All the time we were together, we never had sex. Although I do get a lot when I hangout with my friends so I just didn't bother her about it. We were still good friends and calling each other but something was not connecting...but I loved her...

About 18 months later I met another amazing soul. She is brilliant, fantastic job and hard working. So before I could ask her out....I am already a father of three. Yes...so we got married and 1,2,...boom �. It was amazing. I am happy looking at my kids. However, I know deep down, I still love my first friend. Whenever I hear her name I feel something. I know it's over but I just can't stop loving her and she is still single"..........

I can't love someone more than my sponsor

It's called true love, such love is rare nowadays.

God1000:
It's called true love, such love is rare nowadays.

Yeah but what would you do? How would you advise such a person?

Hideki:
Yeah but what would you do? How would you advise such a person?

You need accept the reality of your life now and forget about her.

I know it won't be easy, but it's a gradual process

Op you too like woman
get serious with your life
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IRMC

Hollybratt:
Op you too like woman
get serious with your life
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IRMC

I love woman o, I am surrounded by three. Wifey and two beautiful daughters. Sorry if you find it offensive.

Hideki:
A colleague shared his thoughts with me and I decided with his permission to share it on the forum so that other experienced people can further advise...thank you.

"I had a friend a very close friend she was highly cerebral and beautiful. We were both doing good financially (we both had good paying jobs). I had always thought we would get married and raise a little family. I did ask her out, but she said we were both too young and marriage was a huge commitment.
She changed job (got an oil company offer) and relocated to Warri. We both celebrated it, talked about the distance promised to see each other at least once in two weeks and all of that. We kept through to it though at least for the first six months, I will fly to Warri, and in a fortnight she will fly to Lagos.
One time I had a busy weekend back to back and couldn't make it, I promised the next weekend, my cousin's wedding ahhhhhhh, ok the next weekend, wait..."why don't you just come over, so I asked?" and from that period bit by bit the relationship ( I don't even know if there was a relationship) began to fade.
All the time we were together, we never had sex. Although I do get a lot when I hangout with my friends so I just didn't bother her about it. We were still good friends and calling each other but something was not connecting...but I loved her...

About 18 months later I met another amazing soul. She is brilliant, fantastic job and hard working. So before I could ask her out....I am already a father of three. Yes...so we got married and 1,2,...boom �. It was amazing. I am happy looking at my kids. However, I know deep down, I still love my first friend. Whenever I hear her name I feel something. I know it's over but I just can't stop loving her and she is still single"..........

Where do you guys get this cock and bull from.
You two split up but you still want to spol your marriage cos you're longing for a SHADOW

Hideki:
I love woman o, I am surrounded by three. Wifey and two beautiful daughters. Sorry if you find it offensive.

Let me handle the oldest among your daughters

VKN23:

Where do you guys get this cock and bull from.
You two split up but you still want to spol your marriage cos you're longing for a SHADOW

brother calm down no one is splitting anything. Please what you think is irrelevant or nothing is a huge deal to another. We all don't operate at the same capacity emotionally. If we did, people won't commit suicide. Just state your kind opinion and move on

True love scares sha. But move on, not everything is meant to be

God1000:
It's called true love, such love is rare nowadays.

We will see if it's true love after he fuccks her. Men dream of what they haven't had and the dream dies slowly after they have it all.

Nonexisting1:
We will see if it's true love after he fuccks her. Men dream of what they haven't had and the dream dies slowly after they have it all.

another point though. Perhaps if they had sex, things might be different

So, what will he do about it now??

Maybe we need to remind him that he is married or that he has 3 kids.
Will he want to jeopardise the good thing he has going just for what?
Lose what is for what might have been?

Tell your friend, OP, to wake up from his daydream and focus on reality.
As someone once said, die that thought immediately otherwise a whole lot of things will die instead.

Guy try n 4get her b4 it cost u ur marriage

@OP
why dont you throw your marriage away and you divorce your wife, then marry the other woman... ?! et voila!

MrBrownJay1:
@OP
why dont you throw your marriage away and you divorce your wife, then marry the other woman... ?! et voila!

Temiel:
So, what will he do about it now??

Maybe we need to remind him that he is married or that he has 3 kids.
Will he want to jeopardise the good thing he has going just for what?
Lose what is for what might have been?

Tell your friend, OP, to wake up from his daydream and focus on reality.
As someone once said, die that thought immediately otherwise a whole lot of things will die instead.

Definitely, he knows that...but you know sometimes when you try to kill a thought, that's when you end up magnifying it

Hideki:
Definitely, he knows that...but you know sometimes when you try to kill a thought, that's when you end up magnifying it

If that's the case, he shouldn't try killing the thought, he should just not act on it.