immortalcrown:
Which ones are your messages in the screenshots? I need to know before I advise you.

Meanwhile, you are very selfish. You started another relationship while you have an ongoing relationship. Why didn't you quit the first one before starting the second one?

Hundredegrees:
She's my girlfriend of going to 3 years now. In the beginning we were very happy and talk almost every night for hours. We go out, spend quality time together and she visits me as well so we got really used to one another.
It happened that i met another girl and this other girl is down to earth in behavior. Apologizes for even the simplest things and will go out of her way to get things done for me. She's about a year younger than my girlfriend as well and she's one of the most respectful girl I've ever encountered in my life plus the fact that she's a virgin (i confirmed myself).
This girl (B) visited me sometime last year and one thing lead to another and we had a romantic moment. So it was one of our subject of discussion on WhatsApp when we were not seeing each other and my girlfriend was noticing this then she started finding ways to access my phone which she later did this year and she got to know everything. Though, whenever she asks what's between me and this girl (B), i usually say that she's just a friend. So it was very disappointing when she found out that we were more than that.
She told me to choose between her and this girl and I eventually chose her after thinking about it for days. But ever since then, she has been acting really cold. She would wait till i message her before she replies vaguely. I've asked her on several occasions what's wrong and she would say everything is fine. But she kept on posting lots of things that makes me want to quit this relationship because I'm already fed up.

PS: there are lots of things she does that i really hate and this girl B just seem to tick all the boxes but this my girlfriend has been with me and we've both made some shitty decisions together, so I'm finding it very difficult just leaving her cos it feels like a betrayal. But with these messages, I'm starting to feel like break up is inevitable. Kindly advise me please

Hundredegrees:

That's a message from someone else that she posted on her WhatsApp status.

immortalcrown:
Do you mean you are not the one who exchanged the messages with her? If yes, she is gradually writing you off.

Hundredegrees:


I'm not. I saw it on her status too

Fahvvy:
Guy you f up big time ...

But be that as it may, your babe has written you off already ...

She isn't even afraid to post those things on her status knowing fully well that you'll see it and prolly be pissed about it ...

I'll advice you seat her down and talk things with her... Let her tell you exactly what she wants...

If she says she wants the relationship, then tell her that such behavior is UNACCEPTABLE! But if she doesn't want the relationship break up with her instantly ...

I'll leave you with a quote that is popular amongst the ladies (though I'll twerk it a tiny winny little bit for this purpose )....

"Don't allow a girlfriend stop you from finding your wife" ...

Life is too short to put up with such stupid attitude of hers when there's someone seemingly better, just Sha be upfront about it ...

swagguElite:
That shii hurts man. How can she say a stranger can see through her while the ones closest can't decipher, on her status publicly, trust me. She's writing you off.

And using the same turret to gain attention. People wey wan chop your babe clean mouth will appear like a good companion now since she made it open. Easy target with blandishment. Savour this moment, count your losses and leave before your respect diminishes completely.

When a lady loves you, and you fvckup. She forgives but her mind still replays the fvckup in her head. They begin to act like this, do everythin' under inherent pain to inflict same to you and commensurate it with your past action. Its an emotional thingy.

swagguElite:
That shii hurts man. How can she say a stranger can see through her while the ones closest can't decipher, on her status publicly, trust me. She's writing you off.

And using the same turret to gain attention. People wey wan chop your babe clean mouth will appear like a good companion now since she made it open. Easy target with blandishment. Savour this moment, count your losses and leave before your respect diminishes completely.

When a lady loves you, and you fvckup. She forgives but her mind still replays the fvckup in her head. They begin to act like this, do everythin' under inherent pain to inflict same to you and commensurate it with your past action. Its an emotional thingy.

Talking from experience. You have to do the non-casual breakup. Emotional one. Breakup on the ground that you hurt her and staying in the relationship will only hurt her more. Whatever she's feeling right now is a glitch. Don't rekindle nothin', let her cry, give her the space and purge herself of the hate she still harbors for you and come back on her own terms.

If she doesn't come back, she has gotten over you. The pain in her life, at least you left with some dignity not when you catch her spiral cheating and ruin every hope in your cloying love life.

When you want to stop a forest fire, you don't apply water pressure instantly tryin' to rekindle shii. You cut down trees untouched yet, give it space and keep the fire isolated. The situation is already lit, limit the collateral.

Premiumwriter:
The girl is obviously hurt.

You really need to win her trust back again. Honestly, you did wrong.

No one is perfect. Girl B is your fantasy and you described her like she was perfect.

She's just that, a perfect fantasy.

Spend 3 years or more with her and you'll start noticing the flaws.

Like the say, the devil you know is better than the angel you don't know.

The first girl is someone you've known too well and can handle. She no fit surprise you again.

Girls post those things on status to say things they can't say directly.

But it looks like your mind is no longer with her. It just feel so sad though. And I just hope you don't regret it.

Each time I'm tempted to cheat on my girl, I always realize that it's mere fantasy. Anything any girl may have, my girl already has it

Suunnn:

1. She is your girlfriend and vice versa
To make everything right between you two it has to do with you both, and for everything to go wrong it is still within you both

2. Talking about attitude
You made mention of things about her you seem not to contend with, she might have her own concerning you it has to do with communication between you both. Where it get to worse is where one party seem to be the only one doing everything all to make everything work, then after working on this over and over and over you conclude within you..

3. Facing girl B
You met her got to know her, had certain connection with her and now your girlfriend is not happy about it finding this all out. And now she is upset, first question here is have you discovered such from her i mean judging you and girl B on her own side? If no, you hurt her and is yes,, try resolve your issue among you two..

Note: If you love someone with everything all you even while and when the other party seem unpleasant you could make that same party pleasant, what you want you make happen. With everything time, love humility respect and all..


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Hundredegrees:


Thank you. I have asked her countless times, she always say everything is fine and nothing is wrong and then, I'll check her status and find messages like the above.

Hundredegrees:


It's a long story Sha. But she has her own default too and especially with still being in talking terms with those she has had sexual encounter with before our relationship

GoooodHardDick:


You're a semi beta male. A male who's afraid of taking decisions and let go.

Oga that girl used reversed phycology on you hence the reason she asked you to choose. Mr man you would've chosen the new girl and relax, then watch your gf become extremely jealous and demanding for your attention.

You were afraid of hurting her hence you opted for her! Even despite knowing lots of guys has banged her before and she's still in steady contact with them!! What a simp! It'll interest you to know that girls respect and value a guy who careless and doesn't give them attention. I'm sure you're the Mr. Nice Guy and gentle guy type (The WhatsApp screenshot confirmed it). An alpha male wouldn't even bother replying that message and that's another value and respect added to him.

Go through my threads here on nairaland and purge yourself from this Simpson disease you're exhibiting

Suunnn:

Ok
Relationship is not an easy one, try starting afresh i mean within you both,, beginning with you


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.....But ever since then, she has been acting really cold. She would wait till i message her before she replies vaguely. I've asked her on several occasions what's wrong and she would say everything is fine..