I think love should come first. Yes money is important, the bills need to be paid, but it's not & should not be the deciding factor on who you marry! I met a jobless man over 6 years ago, I fell in love with him, knowing that he had no job & no money. I have my own job & my own money. I married the same guy over 3 years ago, still with no job & no money, but we had love. Now we are still married, very happily with gorgeous children & he has a job & money   I am so happy I didn't let him go because he didn't have a job or money to support me. I am able to support myself & wouldn't have it any other way!!!

How many women are with good jobs? Must every educated man has to become a millionaire? This mentality in our society is a destructive one if not properly checked. In a country like Nigeria, we should ask ourselves the question how many good jobs are available in the country?

All4naija

Thanks man, good comment, intelligent reply.

Just a question and many are raining insults and abuses

Most of you cannot comment without drawing attention with insults especially when its unwarranted!!

Bhusayor

I know you're dedicating that reply to me so let me answer you straight up. Madam, i don't have anything against Rokiatu but i was only trying to bring the facts out about her so don't think she got on my nerves Naw! thats a wrong thought.

You stated that intelligence is what Rokiatu wants in a man, aight? so let me ask you one thing since you're speaking on her behalf, and since she love chanting intelligent man in every threads on here.

Can Rokiatu marry an intelligent man without being educated?

Eiregirl:

I think love should come first. Yes money is important, the bills need to be paid, but it's not & should not be the deciding factor on who you marry! I met a jobless man over 6 years ago, I fell in love with him, knowing that he had no job & no money. I have my own job & my own money. I married the same guy over 3 years ago, still with no job & no money, but we had love. Now we are still married, very happily with gorgeous children & he has a job & money   I am so happy I didn't let him go because he didn't have a job or money to support me. I am able to support myself & wouldn't have it any other way!!!

Love is blind

Tosinville:

Bhusayor

I know you're dedicating that reply to me so let me answer you straight up. Madam, i don't have anything against Rokiatu but i was only trying to bring the facts out about her so don't think she got on my nerves Naw! thats a wrong thought.

You stated that intelligence is what Rokiatu wants in a man, aight? so let me ask you one thing since you're speaking on her behalf, and since she love chanting intelligent man in every threads on here.

Can Rokiatu marry an intelligent man without being educated?

Facts without tact or diplomacy

@ all4naija.Good points! @Eiregirl. good example there!.

Pinkrex

Bros, abeg if you can't check some previous posts and mine too for u to know what led to this abeg fly.

@pinkrex - Is that a good or a bad thing

^^I'm also wondering

Well thankfully it seems it was a good think in my own situation. I would HATE to think I've let a good man go simply because he didn't have the job or financial means that I desire for him.

^^Majority of Nigerian women don't think like this, they reason upside down.

You've probably guessed I'm not Nigerian then

Tosinville:

Pinkrex

Bros, abeg if you can't check some previous posts and mine too for u to know what led to this abeg fly.

you lack common sense, are you sure you understood what i posted earlier? As a matured mind you claim to have I expect you to be retracting your earlier comments

Eiregirl:

@pinkrex - Is that a good or a bad thing

What do you think hon??

Because i obviously blamed his comments!

Pinkrex

And have i ever mention your name in my post that you sounds so obnoxious with ur previous post? am i hitting a nerve here? is your conscience judging you dat ur comment sound so dumb? who the hell are you? must u stalk me to talk to me? bros, u must be suffering from down's syndrome, goat.



Eiregirl

If i say MAJORITY of Nigerian women don't reason like that doesn't mean you're not Nigerian. haba! LOL

Well I'm simply stating that I'm not!!!

Ok i understand but with my MAJORITY means you might probably be a Nigerian woman thats what i mean.

Tosinville:

Pinkrex

And have i ever mention your name in my post that you sounds so obnoxious with your previous post? am i hitting a nerve here? is your conscience judging you dat your comment sound so dumb? who the hell are you? must u stalk me to talk to me? bros, u must be suffering from down's syndrome, goat.

Stalk you

I dont even know you bruva! I hardly know people's name on here, I just comment based on my observation and opinion. I'm somebody you can never be , And for the syndrome ish, what should i expect from a not so gentleman like you? Garbage in garbage out

If he's educated(not just a graduate), then it means in no time he will get back. Marrying someone with prospects is the way to go. I wonder why girls find it difficult marrying someone that has a future. They'll rather marry a millionaire whose source of wealth is unknown.

Yes I can. Marriage is not about money. Although it is a very important factor, it is not the MOST important. Money doesnt buy happiness. Id rather have someone with whom I can have intellectual discussions, mess around, have fun n build my community than have a rich fool as a husband. 'sides, if he's well-educated (i mean a good all round education) then he is prolly on his way to making money.

The ladies are very very saucy in giving cyber opinions o, when reality beckons it will be a different case

pinkrex:

The ladies are very very saucy in giving cyber opinions o, when reality beckons it will be a different case

True talk oooooo.

Theblessed:

[size=16pt]Well, can't see why not!

Yes, if he has the potential and aspirations for life - to develop and achieve in life and not the kind that hide behind his laziness and give millions of excuses that prevented him from becoming our president then, go for it!

You need a hard working man, a go-getter plus those colourful certificates and skills, whom you can achieve together with.
And, not the kind, that accumulate colourful certificates with no prospect, no ambition or drive - a dreamer, that you can do without!

Good luck!



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You have just qualified the abilities of a working class man.

God willing, a well educated man will surely get a good job one day.

To be honest I can, in short or middle term because I'd truly believe he'd do his best to find a job and sometimes life is quite difficult so I might give him a chance, but in long term I must admit that it could be a problem for two main reasons

- Finances of our future family
- His own pride, he might become very irritated and frustrated which could lead to problems in our couple

@Egbagirl that' true!

All round sugar coated tongues , esp. the ladies , Mtcheeew

I have been giving salt tongues!

Mrs, Chima:

I have been giving salt tongues!

Whats the difference?

Go check the dictionary for the meaning of 'spice'