Whitelexi, you have such common views, I'm sure you'll find a very common woman to share them with you.

my parents got married 3 months after meeting and 28 years later, then are still together, it depends on if you've found the one for you.

whitelexi:

Didnt quite expect a standing ovation from the female folk but many guys have already concurred to this. Women of nowadays cannot be trusted easily because of all that they do when they do what they do especially abroad, [b]Smart men go all the way back home from countries abroad just to get married because what they see our girls doing here is unbelievable. when girls finish playing and realise the need to settle down, they start looking for the unfortunate dude for child benefits and stuff.[/b]Its all changing, because the birds have learnt to fly higher and the hunters have learnt to aim better

and what about "what the men abroad do and when they do it"?  what a load of rubbish!
i smell rotten fish in this post!

@ika
. Dont you know girls living abroad to some, i say SOME MEN ,are trashy? As if they are anything to write home about. Such views dont really bother me cos i know where the power lies

Nope--I got Married jus 6 months of knowing my Baby---so a yr is nuttin

are u really married ? or do u have ur pipe out again?

Dang my Pipe WAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAT? I'm 4 real

Eurphoria:

are u really married ? or do u have your pipe out again?

haaaaaaa

ikamefa:

and what about "what the men abroad do and when they do it"? what a load of rubbish!
i smell rotten fish in this post!

trust ika to have a nosy nose

Mukiratu wetin dey laf U?

noting haa

@ those two brats

whitelexi:

Didnt quite expect a standing ovation from the female folk but many guys have already concurred to this. Women of nowadays cannot be trusted easily because of all that they do when they do what they do especially abroad, Smart men go all the way back home from countries abroad just to get married because what they see our girls doing here is unbelievable. when girls finish playing and realise the need to settle down, they start looking for the unfortunate dude for child benefits and stuff.
Its all changing, because the birds have learnt to fly higher and the hunters have learnt to aim better

That is why those girls they end up marring from back home come here and leave them. Serves them right i must say. A lottttttt  of cases like that expecially in the USA. The hunters sure ain't aiming good enough.

depends, i dated ma bobo 4 2yrs b4 we started plannig marriage,so its ur call girl, wen u knw ur partner enough u shd strt tinkin along dat line i guess dats if u guys want to marry eachother.

Mukiratu just dey laugh

I believe 3 years is minimum to have date in order to get married. I was married and divorced, now i am long time single. Still i want 3 yr dating before into serious marriage committment.

So far many ex-guys and I did stay 3 year relationship and broke up to move on another---no regret until find the right soul mate. Not easy!!! Most guys whom i dated were cold feet about marriage, no problem!!! SIGH!!!

i think a year is damn to small,you avnt known ur partner at all,i knw wot am talkin abt.

this post intresting, we r all forgettng that it is only God that will know how long we need to decide wen we know he/she is the one!  it all boils down to if its feels right and u have put it in the hands of God, it may also take longer because one may not be ready spiritually, financially and emotionally.

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this post intresting, we r all forgettng that it is only God that will know how long we need to decide when we know he/she is the one! it all boils down to if its feels right and u have put it in the hands of God, it may also take longer because one may not be ready spiritually, financially and emotionally.

yOU'rE ASOLUTELY RIGHT!

I feel only those who have experience can give a true comment here.My view is it all boils down to if you(guy or girl) are mature enough and ready to marry.
By then you would have a , with if you don't then you probably won't even after 5 years.I knew a girl who dated a guy (very close to me) fromwhen she was 17 for 7yrs. When they broke up it was so nasty and she was blaming me for not exposing the guy to her before.She said it was like she never really knew him,because the guy was one of those rare romantic loverboy types in Naija
Please note if at the onset of a relationship you start talking about marraige or settling down youhave shot yourself in the foot.thats when  you will get Oscar winning acting from your partner, male or female.
Propsed to my wife after 4 months ,married in 10 months.
Best decision I ever made

it depends on what u both feel for each other. u need to be sure before going into marriage because it is a serioud commitment

frm a girl's perpective, I think after being with a guy after 6 months, she knows what she wants from him. women come to this decision quicker but we keep it quiet and just wait(pretend even) till the man realises what he wants. it doesnt matter 6mths, 1yr etc. we know the moment we see u in most cases, its called a tickbox list. I personally do not waste time with men that r after one thing. its like a game im afraid and women r pretty gd at it. afterall we came frm eve, LOL, Its love yes but its also a pratical decision these days!

With some ppl its enough, some short and some well nah, so it depends on the ppl.

marrying someone on short notice is like walking into a dark tunnel without a flashlight.

marriage is not a walk in the park. do u love him? are u sure u wants 2 spent the rest of his life with him?

are u very sure he loves u? men do pretend alot.

get 2 know the other person well because, once u get 2 the altar, it will be 2 late.

my little advise is 2 continue dating so that both can watch each other closely .
one year is 2 small 2 study a man u want 2 live with 4ever.
don't be in haste OK.

as for me-----not too soon.

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Depends.
Its not impossible too.

I personally dont think that there is such a thing as a soul mate. I think there are people that u can date and compliment well and ur dreams and visions.

Well, i dont think it is the length of time, i think its the fact that u have run through all your checklist (e.g. how is he around ur friends, their family, your family, authority, how many laws they break etcand he is rite for you. Obviously praying hard and keeping ur eyes open. Make a good friend of urs look at the relationship from the outside and tell u the truth.

Chychy,
You are so right !

i'm still thinkin

damn i really wana learn here dat why i had 2 think bout every comment here
it's kinda depend i think tho
coz my mama and papa dated for 5 years
i ws like dat a long tyme 2 my mama nd she said it dependz on
wat u guyz want because she had 2 wait 4 my papa 2 finish wateva course he was studing
lol very funny 2 wait dat long 4 guys dat change dere mind easily
anywayz more answer frm older peepz

@topic

one year is too much cos im not sure i stayed up to 6 months