I read with great interest the thread about long distance relationships. Of this I'm curious: of every one who says that distance relationships DO work, how many would immigrate to a different state/country to be with their love? I'm dating a Nigerian guy and I would gladly adopt his home as my own, but I don't think I could possibly leave America permanently for Nigeria. His skills are very marketable here and he would do very well, but there he is, as he refers to himself - " a poor young man" and "a hustla." My reasons are based on economics.

I think ladies would be more likely to immigrate, but what of the men?

Offtopic: So you've never met your boyfriend?

Yes, I've met him. We were on holiday in New York (separately) when we met. After about two months time he returned to Lagos. Modern technology is a wonderous thing - we've been able to keep up the communication and we speak every day, sometimes several times a day. Its become a long distance relationship and it's getting to be an issue. What we are spending on phone bills could go towards a plane ticket!

lol

look beyond phone bills if there is love. as i would alwayz say " love has no boundaries", lol, by da way, u Nigerian?

I'm not Nigerian at all, that I know of. I say it like that because my father's heritage is spotty and I don't know much about him. My mom is East Indian and I was brought up in America. My bf's dad is American and mom is Nigerian. He has lived his whole life in Nigeria. This month's phone bill is $300 which i think is like naira 38,317. I can afford it, but still. It would be less expensive for either of us (meaning HIM) to immigrate. Now, before ppl start callin' me selfish, he said he will come. But it made me wonder, how many Nigerians are willing to give up their home for a distance love. It seems that there's a long of distance lovin' goin' on!

I would move in a heartbeat to anywhere that I can work and keep up the standard of living to which I'm accustomed. Btw, Hotstepper, thanx for the encouragement. I hope you're a lawyer so u can represent me in bankruptcy court. That's where I'll surely end up!

Personally I dont beleive in long distance relationships. But if some I am already very serious with relocates abroad I may consider moving if the opportunities for me to make a living there is equally as good as it is in my present location.

my husband is nigerian. He left nigeria and has been thru hell and back just for us to end up together. I felt kinda bad for him at some points But if there is true love. . .it has no boundaries.

^^^He's so brave and ambitious!

Hell, If I was coming out of Nigeria and trying to get to America, hell I would FOUGHT LIKE HELL too!

^^^Are you preferring America to Nigeria?

Mrs, Eve:

Hell, If I was coming out of Nigeria and trying to get to America, hell I would FOUGHT LIKE HELL too!

lol ok ok but america really isnt as great as everyone seems to make it out to be. Are you in america? just curious btw

they say america is land of the free. . .but shoot. . .ppl are more free in nigeria. I saw ppl peeing on the side of the road lol. we would get put in jail for that geez. or atleast a huge fine. Its just the economy. so many stupid laws i swear. its kinda stupid.

Naija reputation is being battled here . . . .''Egbami ooo'' . . .

racheal84:


lol ok ok but america really isnt as great as everyone seems to make it out to be. Are you in america? just curious btw

they say america is land of the free. . .but shoot. . .ppl are more free in nigeria. I saw ppl peeing on the side of the road lol. we would get put in jail for that geez. or atleast a huge fine.  Its just the economy. so many silly laws i swear. its kinda silly.  

Yes, Racheal I am in America.  I am a juicy American born wife of an Igbo man.  In comparison, I would pick America over Nigeria.  No offense, but Nigeria is a nice country don't get me wrong but to stay.  No thanks.  I would visit as often as I can but that about as far as homely I will get.  

You said that your husband had issues coming to America?  Did they assumed that some fraud was committed because that what happened with the lady in our church her husband can't come to USA he is not Nigerian but he is Ghanian.  They saying they don't they it real marriage but they have a legal marriage certificate.  Poor thing.

Mrs, Eve:

Yes, Racheal I am in America.  I am a juicy American born wife of an Igbo man.  In comparison, I would pick America over Nigeria.  No offense, but Nigeria is a nice country don't get me wrong but to stay.  No thanks.  I would visit as often as I can but that about as far as homely I will get.  

You said that your husband had issues coming to America?  Did they assumed that some fraud was committed because that what happened with the lady in our church her husband can't come to USA he is not Nigerian but he is Ghanian.  They saying they don't they it real marriage but they have a legal marriage certificate.  Poor thing.  

OH lol i would pick america to. . .no offense to nigeria. My husband is igbo also.

No they didnt assume fraud. The american embassy in lagos just really sucks. It was hard to get thru. so we went about it a different way. Cost alot more but in the end. . .it was worth it.

Mrs, Eve:

Yes, Racheal I am in America.  I am a juicy American born wife of an Igbo man.  In comparison, I would pick America over Nigeria.  No offense, but Nigeria is a nice country don't get me wrong but to stay.  No thanks.  I would visit as often as I can but that about as far as homely I will get.  

You said that your husband had issues coming to America?  Did they assumed that some fraud was committed because that what happened with the lady in our church her husband can't come to USA he is not Nigerian but he is Ghanian.  They saying they don't they it real marriage but they have a legal marriage certificate.  Poor thing.  

aw that is sad.

I would relocate for the guy i love. Life is too short.

I HATE long distance relationship, there is a lot of pretence and cover ups