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What do you need help with really?

Too long.

Why do some people write books before getting to the point and still haven't gotten to the point?

sincce no1 understands me then i remove it so simple still thanks all

C'mon peeps, this guy is experiencing emotional trauma and he needs someone to pour out his heart to, hence he has come here since there's no close friend/relative around.

@OP, I know how you feel. Just relax mahn, take time out and go to the cinema, parks, shows etc and just try to make some new friends. Try to think less of her and know that life is too short for you to make yourself unhappy.

Thanks Bro God Bless you

@ Poster, i think you should talk to her, let her know how you really feel about your relationship, And you should just let her be (work wise), you are not formally married yet, most women want to be financially independent now, which is a good thing, at least she will not be a liability to you.

I do not understand her relationship with her boss, they might just be close-friends with no-strings attached. sometimes we all need someone to talk to apart from our spouses, someone we can trust, so maybe she found that in her boss. Calm down, take things easy and slowl- down, do not be hasty to sell your properties and move abroad. it is better you are well established first. And above all, if you are the praying type, pray about your relationship, if she is really your wife, God would intervene, if not, God will send your wife to you.

otunbasmtp:

What happened to the post?

otunbasmtp:

ahn ahn whre is d story na?

lurkee:

OK I think I got the gist of the story:

1) His chick got pregnant but she was not ready even though he was.

2) He saw a video of her revealing a private matter about herself to her boss which excited his suspicion of her possibly dating the boss.

3) She quit her job and moved to his place. During this time, she had a medical condition which made her discharge creamy things from her privates. . .

4) He then left the country to Malasia for a course.

Gahhh, I give up! This story is going nowhere for me.

Good summary. For those who missed it earlier:
1. I don't think he was ready exactly.
2. She discussed hving an abortion with the boss on recorded audio. This made the OP suspect the BOSS might be the papa.
3. She quit her job and moved in with him initially. Couldn't find a job for a very long time while in the same state as the OP. Finally got another job in a different state.
Now the OP thinks she is cheating and/unserious with the relationship and he wants her to quit her job and move back to where he is. I can't remember if they were living together or not. She doesn't want to move till she has a job in the state the OP is living in.
4. I think he was always planning to leave malaysia for a course.

Now he wants to know if he has a future with the girl (hence the word wife) because she hasn't moved to be with him so far.

OP, its mighty selfish of you to expect her to move just because you are jealous. You want her to throw her life and career away just because you think she is cheating? You want her to depend solely on you? What happens when you decide you do not wwant her anymore? THen she should start the process of looking for a job all over?

OP your wife don preggo for una hausa gateman? .

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deniyor:

Good summary. For those who missed it earlier:
1. I don't think he was ready exactly.  
2. She discussed hving an abortion with the boss on recorded audio. This made the OP suspect the BOSS might be the papa.
3. She quit her job and moved in with him initially. Couldn't find a job for a very long time while in the same state as the OP. Finally got another job in a different state.
Now the OP thinks she is cheating and/unserious with the relationship and he wants her to quit her job and move back to where he is. I can't remember if they were living together or not. She doesn't want to move till she has a job in the state the OP is living in.
4. I think he was always planning to leave malaysia for a course.

Now he wants to know if he has a future with the girl (hence the word wife) because she hasn't moved to be with him so far.

OP, its mighty selfish of you to expect her to move just because you are jealous. You want her to throw her life and career away just because you think she is cheating? You want her to depend solely on you? What happens when you decide you do not wwant her anymore? THen she should start the process of looking for a job all over?
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^^ you will say this because i did not mention when she was with me i gave her 500,thousand naira to start a biz of recharge card bizness while on her way to the office to buy it she entered 1chance and got beaten up that landed her to hospital while she taught it is over between us inwhich i forget as if nothing happened thank you if i am selfish , and after that still gave her 100k to do shopping so as not to think about it because i noticed she was not that free with me since then  i am selfish abi?  Thanks

Do you think throwing money at a woman is enough to buy her love and feelings etc? Did you consider the satisfaction she gets from her job? Do you want her to leave that and sell recharge cards?

how did u know?

deniyor:

Do you think throwing money at a woman is enough to buy her love and feelings etc? Did you consider the satisfaction she gets from her job? Do you want her to leave that and sell recharge cards?

^^ u dont have a point and nobody buy love here stop acting as if you are perfect if a woman living under your roof if you think about yourself you must think about her too perhaps you are a type of selfish guy who is afraid of responsibilities
and for your question Do i consider her to leave and start selling recharge cards?  That is what her company does and if you start that type of biz with as low as 500k according to her explanation she would gain times 3 of it in some few months ahead before the horrible incident happened so if you dont get the story well i will advice you to keep shut or Pray such situation happens to you and shear your experience here i only came here for advice not insults

how did u know?

Your last reply sounds childish! How was he supposed to knw all these when you dint include them in the gist earlier?

He still raised good points though!

You be woman so what do i expect?

You should have indicated you wanted only men\boys on your thread, *am out*

bhusayor:

You should have indicated you wanted only men\boys on your thread, *am out*

sorry just that am annoyed cos i indicated everything on this thread before some people complained it was too long so i had to delete it, and when the guy deniyor said i was Selfish, and if i wanted her to sell recharge cards sound as if to me i made mistake helping the poor girl, am not arsh and i respect people's opinion i met most of my friends on NL and here is my beer palour cos i have learnt a lot from here as well sorry if i got rude to you

otunbasmtp:

^^ u dont have a point and nobody buy love here stop acting as if you are perfect if a woman living under your roof if you think about yourself you must think about her too perhaps you are a type of selfish guy who is afraid of responsibilities
and for your question Do i consider her to leave and start selling recharge cards?  That is what her company does and if you start that type of biz with as low as 500k according to her explanation she would gain times 3 of it in some few months ahead before the horrible incident happened so if you dont get the story well i will advice you to keep shut or Pray such situation happens to you and shear your experience here i only came here for advice not insults

It's obvious you do not have the balls to accept criticism and advice so if you saw one, you wouldn't know it. You can pray all you want but even your god doesn't affect me.
PS I handle my business well enough thats why this kind of situation don't apply to me. For the record, you are not a real man and you know it.