Damsal:

Marriage is all about sacrifices and commitment, why would you get married to someone and promise them 'till death do us part' if you are not willing to go across the world with them, regardless of whether you like it or not. And anyway anyone who will picks their job over a partner has already shown where their heart is.

~Mikael~:

[size=14pt]It scrupulously baffles me senseless, when people that claim to be married always have these kind of quagmire in understanding, communicating & sacrificing for themselves and each other! They are married for chrissakes! Were they both jobless before they got married? Why o why would they not put their jobs into consideration, before saying I DO? [/b]What ever happened to the [b]"for better or worse" part of their marriage vows? If they were courting or just dating, and this kind of controversial topic came up, i'm sure they'd had gone their separate ways, it would have been more conceivable and understandable, as to why they cannot be! But NO! They saw the problems that could rear it's ugly head, they swore to stick by each other, NO MATTER what the case may be! Refusing to follow your significant other, to other parts of the world just because of your own job, is nothing short of a selfish and hypocritical case of argumentative fallacy! If you are refusing to go, maybe because of your health implications, then it could be a little decipherable! But because of habits or your work? That lacks an argumentative anchorage, and would vociferously be rejected! We are married, babe, stick to your marriage vows, especially when it counts!. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . I'm Out! [/size]

ebonyvibe:

@ MIKEAL

Would you leave you life wherever you live cos your wife got an high paying job in china or libya?  sometime people need to think it is not just about one person.

Mrs, Chima:

Good question, Nayah.  You are right everything isn't cookie cutter nor straight shooter.  I know for a fact most men would expect their wives to follow them if opportunities awaits them.  

Ebonyvibe, you are right its not always about one person in the marriage.  All factors should be taken in consideration before any actions are done and all money isn't good money either.  

[size=14pt]. . . . . . .And most women would expect their husbands to follow them if opportunities awaits them too! It's all about willingness to sacrifice/compromise on the part of the affected spouse![/size]

~Mikael~:

[size=14pt]. . . . . . .And most women would expect their husbands to follow them if opportunities awaits them too! It's all about willingness to sacrifice/compromise on the part of the affected spouse![/size]

Nayah:

^^Hey Mrs Chima how are you?? yeah life is not just black or White

~Mikael~:

[size=14pt]. . . . . . .And most women would expect their husbands to follow them if opportunities awaits them too! It's all about willingness to sacrifice/compromise on the part of the affected spouse![/size]

Mrs, Chima:

I am good. How are you?

Mikael a lot of women will have this reserve asking their husband to follow them while for many brothers it's quite "obvious" and complusory to do so, we should talk and balance between good and bad, it's all about communication

This was what i was waiting for either you, Chima, or ebony to say! No 2 Situations are the same! And the way i'll handle mine would definitely differ from yours or whosoever! Communication, understanding, and willingness to compromise, cannot be over emphasized!

~Mikael~:

[size=14pt]This was what i was waiting for either you, Chima, or ebony to say! No 2 Situations are the same! And the way i'll handle mine would definitely differ from yours or whosoever! Communication, understanding, and willingness to compromise, cannot be over emphasized! [/size]

Nayah:

Yes brother understanding and communication but NOT in one way

Mrs, Chima:


Opportunities and life curves happen to both women and men [/b]but women are more likely to follow their husbands and I am not saying some husbands doesn't follow their wife. I know some husbands that followed their wives but that is [b]small in comparison to women following their husbands.

~Mikael~:

[size=14pt]! i dont believe this is about men forcing women because they make the decisions in the household! No! . . . . [/size]

Mrs, Chima:

You don't have to believe it.

~Mikael~:

[size=14pt]. . . . .Cos it's not necessitated by facts. . . .[/size]