Curious345:
Marry her . Life is too short .

Divorce option is always available

Taylor90:
God is indeed merciful

I wish Gods position was electable or has duration of reign I for say make God step down make i be God for 5minutes terminate that her job and watch her suffer since she’s an ingrate

OP you don already see what’s ahead naa

She never even get job she don dey shadow ban you from day one

Imagine she didn’t get a job and out of pity and love you send her go do masters for UK

As she reach Nigeria airport she go just block you

Women are wicked and her type will end up with someone that will make her curse love

Bigheart007:
I have been dating this girl for like 2 years now. When we started dating, she was a private school teacher. She was always complaining about the job being too stressful and the salary not worth the stress. I was always supporting her financially the best I can to pay her rent and feeding. In January this year, We agreed she resigns from the teaching job and come live with me while she searches for another job.

For over six months she was living with me, I was catering to her every need as she was jobless. She was behaving all good, humble, and nice. I felt we were a perfect match. I even went to see her family to collect the marriage list and we planned on a wedding around November.

Recently, a relative of hers who has a level in Government asked her to send him her Curriculum vitae to get her a federal job in one of the ministries. I was so happy for her. From the look of things, she might be earning more than me.

To cut the story short. Last Saturday I gave her money to go to a computer center and scan the necessary documents for her said relative for the job. She left the house around 10 am to do that, but when she came back around noon, she was entirely a different person. When I opened the door for her, she just walk past me without a word. I asked her if she succeeded in sending the documents, but she ignored me. Next, she started complaining about how dirty the house is and why I didn't sweep, clean, and cook something she will eat when she comes back. She was just walking up and down the house angrily. She said I should better start learning to help out with the house chores as I wouldn't expect her to do it all when she starts work soon. She even threatened that she will get her own house when she starts to work as she doesn't want me adding to her stress.

I was dumbfounded by her sudden change of attitude. We had a heated argument like we have never had before. She said so many hurting words to me that I can't say here.

I'm beginning to have a double mind toward her as it regards marriage. I feel like she just showed me her true color. She is yet to get an employment letter for the job and yet she is already acting up and looking down on me. What would happen when she now gets an employment letter to resume the job?

I'm confused about whether to continue with her or if I should end it all for my peace of mind.

Yugoslavia247:
Hmmmm nkan be

Humility is a virtue that is truly known when we have it all or think we have it all.

Never believe anyone is humble especially when they depend on you.

Sometimes they take shit from you and won't confront you because of fear of losing the comfort.

Maybe she has put up with lots of your shit.
Maybe she tried to correct you but you refuse to listen to her because you pay the bills.
Maybe she feels she has no say because she is jobless.
Maybe she is only comfortable with your excesses because she has nothing to offer.

Maybe her ideal man is not you and she feels when she gets a job she will attract better men.

This is not limited to women.
It is human nature.

I put up a lot with my bro too.
I felt I had no say.
Any argument we have I had to reserve my comments because I was thinking this guy coul punish me with money.

Until I left and came back then as equal. I had my say and stood my ground.

Maybe that is what is happening.

There is nothing you can do about it.

Except you are extra observant and try not make her feel that way.

E hard.

Jennyclay:
Did you sit her down to know why the sudden attitude? She has been with you for 2 years and just this first misunderstanding you are already thinking of break-up . Just say you’re seeing someone else we’ll understand. We know your type. Bunch of Randy men!!

Why would you leave your house so dirty and unkempt? Even though you’re spending millions on her that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t take your personal hygiene serious.

Must you wait till she return to come do the house chores for you

Bigheart007:



You are right bro. But isn't that like a red flag that the two aren't compatible

Yugoslavia247:


It is normal.

Just sit her down at midnight and tell her what I wrote.

Tell her you know she put up with a lot of things and she feels that this job will change it.

Tell her that you don't mean to hurt her. And you know she has endured some of your excesses and apologize to her. Why because she is only showing you things she bottled up for 6 months. Tell her that she should not hide her feelings because she doesn't want to hurt you. She should feel free.

Because if you bring 1000 women. They will exhibit same behavior. This is not about compatibility but human nature.

Money stops nonsense.
No money brings nonsense.
She feels the nonsense you do is because she has no money.

Even if na man na same thing.
Now treat her well.
Take her out.
Give her Liberty.
Observe well too.
Women hate doing House chores alone.
It seems like servitude or slavery.
So things differently.
She will open up or change.

Bigheart007:



Thank you so much, bro. I appreciate .

Bigheart007:
I have been dating this girl for like 2 years now. When we started dating, she was a private school teacher. She was always complaining about the job being too stressful and the salary not worth the stress. I was always supporting her financially the best I can to pay her rent and feeding. In January this year, We agreed she resigns from the teaching job and come live with me while she searches for another job.

For over six months she was living with me, I was catering to her every need as she was jobless. She was behaving all good, humble, and nice. I felt we were a perfect match. I even went to see her family to collect the marriage list and we planned on a wedding around November.

Recently, a relative of hers who has a level in Government asked her to send him her Curriculum vitae to get her a federal job in one of the ministries. I was so happy for her. From the look of things, she might be earning more than me.

To cut the story short. Last Saturday I gave her money to go to a computer center and scan the necessary documents for her said relative for the job. She left the house around 10 am to do that, but when she came back around noon, she was entirely a different person. When I opened the door for her, she just walk past me without a word. I asked her if she succeeded in sending the documents, but she ignored me. Next, she started complaining about how dirty the house is and why I didn't sweep, clean, and cook something she will eat when she comes back. She was just walking up and down the house angrily. She said I should better start learning to help out with the house chores as I wouldn't expect her to do it all when she starts work soon. She even threatened that she will get her own house when she starts to work as she doesn't want me adding to her stress.

I was dumbfounded by her sudden change of attitude. We had a heated argument like we have never had before. She said so many hurting words to me that I can't say here.

I'm beginning to have a double mind toward her as it regards marriage. I feel like she just showed me her true color. She is yet to get an employment letter for the job and yet she is already acting up and looking down on me. What would happen when she now gets an employment letter to resume the job?

I'm confused about whether to continue with her or if I should end it all for my peace of mind.

Bigheart007:
I have been dating this girl for like 2 years now. When we started dating, she was a private school teacher. She was always complaining about the job being too stressful and the salary not worth the stress. I was always supporting her financially the best I can to pay her rent and feeding. In January this year, We agreed she resigns from the teaching job and come live with me while she searches for another job.

For over six months she was living with me, I was catering to her every need as she was jobless. She was behaving all good, humble, and nice. I felt we were a perfect match. I even went to see her family to collect the marriage list and we planned on a wedding around November.

Recently, a relative of hers who has a level in Government asked her to send him her Curriculum vitae to get her a federal job in one of the ministries. I was so happy for her. From the look of things, she might be earning more than me.

To cut the story short. Last Saturday I gave her money to go to a computer center and scan the necessary documents for her said relative for the job. She left the house around 10 am to do that, but when she came back around noon, she was entirely a different person. When I opened the door for her, she just walk past me without a word. I asked her if she succeeded in sending the documents, but she ignored me. Next, she started complaining about how dirty the house is and why I didn't sweep, clean, and cook something she will eat when she comes back. She was just walking up and down the house angrily. She said I should better start learning to help out with the house chores as I wouldn't expect her to do it all when she starts work soon. She even threatened that she will get her own house when she starts to work as she doesn't want me adding to her stress.

I was dumbfounded by her sudden change of attitude. We had a heated argument like we have never had before. She said so many hurting words to me that I can't say here.

I'm beginning to have a double mind toward her as it regards marriage. I feel like she just showed me her true color. She is yet to get an employment letter for the job and yet she is already acting up and looking down on me. What would happen when she now gets an employment letter to resume the job?

I'm confused about whether to continue with her or if I should end it all for my peace of mind.