Chuck D:

"all" the ladies? hmm that's a rather strong gneralization o. chairman, are you married? if yes, is your wife lazy? if your answer is "no" how would you feel seeing her being maltreated by your mum because it's her son's house? well, truth is if your parents are wicked, it is very likely you too will be. but the bottom line is if your mum is a trouble-maker, she doesn't have to stay long enough to cause your wife to breakdown and if on the other hand, you married a trouble- maker for a wife, well, it's still one week max for your mum to avoid her being disrespected and insulted. shame on a woman who can't respect her mil and shame on a woman who goes to her child's home to ferment trouble. chikena!

Outstrip:

I totally agree that you cannot be as free with your mother in law as you would your mother. Anybody that says other wise is lying. The point I was making was that if you want your mother to stay with you for one month then you should be okay with his mother staying the same amount of time. That is the only fair thing. If your mother can grow old in your home then so can his own mother

shumno:

For as long as they want. One day I would also visit my kids in their homes when they are married and would not want to be chased out of their home as if I am a stranger. Do unto others what you would have them do to you. Women remember your mil has become your mum too. You love her son you have to love her too because she gave birth to him. Shalom!

shumno:

For as long as they want. One day I would also visit my kids in their homes when they are married and would not want to be chased out of their home as if I am a stranger. Do unto others what you would have them do to you. Women remember your mil has become your mum too. You love her son you have to love her too because she gave birth to him. Shalom!

mummy3:

My mother till triumphed sound
But my MIL (highest one week) because she’s a case file as long as her 5 son’s wives are concern she’s a case file I repeat again.


MIL =

SWEET MOTHER =

shumno:

@outstrip you are just assuming that I would be a terrible mil to my dil, I reject that in the name of Jesus. All am trying to say is that you should not be too hard on your parents because of what you see happening around you, after all the Bible says you should honor your father and your mother, I feel being kind to them is part of it. If the need arises for them to have to live with me I would even invite them (mil and mother) to come live with me, it is an African custom. I don't blame you, na your oyibo mentality dey worry you.

Now get this, it is only people like you who are not secure or something that would bother themselves about such things, as far as I am concerned a wife's role is quite different and distinct from the role a mother plays. You as a mother can never take the place of a wife, likewise the wife can never take the place of a mother, two poles apart, and if both you and your husband understand, love and respect each other nothing can come between you, your husband sef will be on your defense.

For your info and by the grace of God, I am not planning to live off my children, only a bad mother would do that. I am comfortable right now and believe it will remain so if Jesus tarries it is my prayer that the kids turn out even better than we are right now, at any point in time if they ever will need help my husband and I will not hesitate to run to the rescue. We would continue to pray that all goes well with everyone (parents and children) so that nobody bothers anyone. I even declare even right now that by the grace of God I will NEVER in future be a problem to my sils and dil and I pray to abide by what I have declared (I strongly believe in God), amen and shalom to you!

blank:

They both can stay as long as they like.

Whenever my MIL is around, i do not do anything at all in the house. She cleans, tidies the house, goes to market and cooks all before i reach home and if it is not too late, she does my hair for me. She is yet to spend the night but i do not mind her at all. I enjoy her coming over as she is great company. She always has very interesting gist for me. Worst case scenario, we watch African Magic together till she is ready to go home. She is an action woman. She complains of hip pain but never agrees to sit in one place.

My mum is more of a stay at home kind of person but she is so insightful. I love her company and her soup makes me green with envy. She has only ever come to my house when i gave birth and she was looking to leave as soon as possible cos she felt she was being a burden, as if. I love these 2 women with all my heart and i will never stop singing their praises till i meet my creator.

jennykadry:

Maximum 2 days, no be me go pursue her, she will fly back to Lagos where she can get some sleep without having to listen to the love making noises all night

tessybaby:

What i have come to realise is that you have a very good relationship with your MIL but immediately she starts living with you in the same roof (and for too long) everything go spoil.

I never pretended towards my inlaws before and even after marraige
i made them understand my point and would not do things just to please them
or show them am a good wife.
I always treat my MIL like she was my mother (am used to this dis coz i grew up with 2 mother taking care of me-my step mother and my mother and i treat them the same) but i have have come to realise that she looks at everything i do with a twist. if i tell her i don't like her opinion it's a problem etc and i hate it when she comes to my house and start comparing everything in my house with her daughter's. " My daughter does it this way, my daughter had this same funiture and she places it just about here, i did same to my daughter's kids when she put to bed, my daughter dis and dat.

Toonice: How Long Can U allow your MUM to stay in your Matrimonial home?