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This remind me of story of scorpion and frog.

Firstly,when someone cheats on their partner,it indicates the person doesn't love or value that partner!

So when you forgive and welcome back a cheat,the cheat will simply feel you have no value for yourself to have even contemplated letting them back...hence,they will continue where they stopped!

Maisiba:
A cheater never regrets cheating, but regrets getting caught. If they are human, they regret that they hurt their partners. You are dead wrong if you expect a cheater to go on their knees. If they do, double check the motive behind it.

Because Basic Sexual and Lustful Pleasure as basic Instinct overrides intelligence.

Basic Instinct says sexual pleasures from multiple partners (most often) is delicious. It is exciting. It is sweet. The games. The drama. The excitement. The adrenaline rush. The hiding. The secret calls and messages. The excitement in getting caught. The pleasure from these overrides intelligence.

When strong enough, it (instinctive sexual desires and addiction to sexual pleasures and orgasm) can override intelligence which should normally clearly shows that cheating hurts partners, it is risky, can lead to unwanted pregnancies, STIs, it is expensive, steals time, effort, resources, it is energy sapping, can be frustrating, lead to physical fights with other lovers of a cheating partner etc.

It is an addiction to the stalking, the singling out of a prey, the chase, the attack, the subduction, the conquering, the pleasures. These can be so strong as to override intelligence.

When strong enough, justifications will be sought and made. These justifications can be valid or not valid. The argument is this. If your justification for cheating is valid, then LEAVE THE RELATIONSHIP FIRST BEFORE YOU SLEEP WITH ANOTHER PERSON!!!!!

Naturally more men feel they have the right to cheat or have multiple sexual partners and experience multiple sexual pleasures from multiple women whenever they want and are opportune to. I feel this is instinct. Intelligence on the other hand, should us guide better and keep us safer by enabling us to make decisions that have the lowest probability and likelihood of stress and risk.

Quality20:
But women caught or suspected of cheating do regrets and do stop but d prob is men who feel a must have as many concubines as he can afford

Cos men pay bride price and dowries....women do not pay. So they got no right to give what their parents and they have been paid for. A woman who takes care of the family expenses and cheats if often not looked down upon by the men.. Nigerian women with entitlement mentality too much

Maisiba:
A cheater never regrets cheating, but regrets getting caught. If they are human, they regret that they hurt their partners. You are dead wrong if you expect a cheater to go on their knees. If they do, double check the motive behind it.

I am looking for one to ask this your question ⁉️

It is there birthright

"You haven't seen the size of the derriere's of these women!" - Family friend who opened an Adult literacy class with his wife, after their retirement.

What is cheaters ? Is that even English at all ?

Spagi:
Because winners never quit

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Because it becomes a habit

U cheat. U get caught. U don't care if u get caught again

U just wanna do it.

Same with stealing meat from pot

Mtchew

Stupid question

Useless answers

u just called them cheaters. so why are u still asking

Morbeta11:
Cos there is nothing like cheating....its a word caved out for material things and not for biological and naturally immuned human satisfaction. Sexual urge is biological and most be satisfied beyond boundaries. Early religious and selfish he-goats set those boundaries....God created every living thing to have as much sex as possible at any time and where. Sex has no heavenly or earthly boundaries, the word cheat is inconsequential...
God created man simple...man made himself complicated...

Ur head get oil.

Ajagun Obo....

jaxxy:
u don't automatically stop cheating because u get caught especially if ure a serial cheat. it's a bad habit.

A lack of self control or a mindset that cheating isn't wrong or so bad.

Seriously,is it so bad?

Maisiba:
A cheater never regrets cheating, but regrets getting caught. If they are human, they regret that they hurt their partners. You are dead wrong if you expect a cheater to go on their knees. If they do, double check the motive behind it.

Cheat not cheater , please correct
I am in Germany and viewing this, what about those in UK and USA viewing Nigerian English

Quality20:
But women caught or suspected of cheating do regrets and do stop but d prob is men who feel a must have as many concubines as he can afford

It's a lie, women dont

It has to do with the brain and how we are wired!

Once a neurological association has been made, that is, if the brain got a dopamine hit from having sex with someone else (other than ones spouse)...then there's almost no going back once the connection is made.

The stronger the hit, and thus the connection, the more difficult it is to get off the hook. This is how addiction works and is applicable to smoking, drinking, womanizing, porn watching, masturbation...etc.

This idea then will be to break the connection, or reverse connect with another dopamine releasing experience to the brain that produces the expected behaviour...in this case faithfulness to a spouse

bentenny:
Firstly,when someone cheats on their partner,it indicates the person doesn't love or value that partner!

So when you forgive and welcome back a cheat,the cheat will simply feel you have no value for yourself to have even contemplated letting them back...hence,they will continue where they stopped!

the first assertion is incorrect. a man can cheat and still love his wife and family and do all that he's supposed to do. It's not quite the same for a woman. When a woman cheats, she has emotionally checked out, and lost respect for the man. Cheating for men n women is not the same

Can a leopard change its skin ?

Na addiction now o

Why would they not keep on cheating when they are been accepted after cheating.

If your partner cheats and you remiain in the relationship, you are telling him you are ok with that lifestyle.

Op,

You're right. The only problem is that, according to your definition, a cheat is someone who gets caught. What if they never get caught?

Maisiba:
A cheater never regrets cheating, but regrets getting caught. If they are human, they regret that they hurt their partners. You are dead wrong if you expect a cheater to go on their knees. If they do, double check the motive behind it.

Because, cheating is an habit that developed over time. You don't expect a girl who has been in casual relationship with countless men to be faithful in marriage, same way you dknt expect a man who has slept with many women including prostitutes to be faithful in marriage.

Decent women don't cheat at all, and if decent men must cheat, it must be a result of long separation( works or divorce) from their wives.

Maisiba:
A cheater never regrets cheating, but regrets getting caught. If they are human, they regret that they hurt their partners. You are dead wrong if you expect a cheater to go on their knees. If they do, double check the motive behind it.

A stolen ponmo tastes better than a bought one

[b]BECAUSE THEY HAVE SOMEONE TO CHEAT ON, SOMEONE WHO TOLERATES IT

PrimadonnaO:
Actually, if you find a person cheating once, NEVER stay.

Except you sincerely do not mind tolerating sharing your partner for the rest of your life.

...Because there's just something that psychologically emboldens a person who once cheated to do it again, once they get away with the first act.

But there's love in sharing na. 🙂