I agree with MBJ on this. The only way is is straightforward. Even after you've done what you need to do, reassure him of the intactness of your friendship.

apocalypse:

I thought the nomenclature was rather apt. You understand where I'm coming from and where I'm going to , the only problem is how to get there. I'm not waiting on him to be successful but like you said - fortune smiles on anyone as it pleases. I'm always wary of how I treat people now cos tomorrow I can be on the receiving end.

You ought have told me sooner and in person. Knowing both Kane & Abel, I could have made quick work of reasoning with them. You should have faith in friends & learn to discuss problems with them. I'd have gladly helped out any of the times I'd been around.

Throw him out jor,belv me,he will curse u now but will praise you in yrs to come.

Op, how far with your friend? It's over a year now.

I had a nephew like that... I had to send him to my late dad's house in delta state, to live in my mum's apartment.. At least he shouldn't bother about a roof on his head, but should bother abt his daily meals, after sending some upkeep money for 8months... He is on his own ....have tried... U have to put yur foot down , and tell him no more meals for him and be firm about it.. Also look for a teaching job for him... Av been seeing series of teaching job adverts in front of secondary and pry school gates... He can opt for that for the time being.