The past two weeks must have been the most trying times in the six-year-old marriage of Folorunsho Odegbaike and her husband. On February 13, their 10-month-old baby, Enioluwa Odegbaike went missing from their Magodo home while in the custody of a nanny they hired just two weeks before.

The family reportedly never allowed the nanny to take Enioluwa outside the house; but she took the boy while his mother, a former Airtel employee, was in the shower.

“The person who introduced the nanny to the family has been arrested and is being quizzed by the police,” he said.

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@ Blacklion, that is a very very old story na.

jennykadry:

Lol outstrip I am fine. BB has been drugging me in yaba left with what she calls anti psychotic medications. I told her Its not hallucinations as I know what my eyes are seeing.

Not on drugs Outstrip, just joking. Was on call.

Shy-One:
I will need a house help, please can someone share with me how to go about this?  I will be very grateful to you.  I will need an older woman who can cook and can clean and can train me on how to cook and clean with the items that are sold in Nigeria.  I will need an older woman who can go with me to market and show me "how to go to market and what to do while there, how to negotiate and how to select."

I will be very grateful to anyone for any direction and advise they can give to me.  How much to pay such a person.  Lagos based.  Also, I will need her to school me on what is an isn't acceptable in the environment.  (i.e., words, mannerisms, etc.)  She must be able to speak basic English, she doesn't have to be overly educated, just able to communicate with me.  I need her to be able to educate me to the culture.

I prefer her to be an older woman who has a husband and children. (30 years old or older)  I want someone who needs help, we can exchange services and I will pay her money as well.  I can school her and she can school me.  I need someone who I can grow to have a very long connection to, as I will be traveling back and forth from U.S. and Nigeria.  I want someone that I can grow to trust to be loyal and honest and she can trust me that I will not mistreat her and that I will treat her well and will pay her promptly.

CNN80: Pls, I want to ask a question and no one should crucify/insult me.

I grew up in what a lot of my friends considered a privileged home. Yet

At 7, I was expected to wash my socks and underwear and that of my immediate junior ( with supervision)
At 8, I started to learn how to cook.
At 9, I had joined my mother/aunties/cousins/maids in the Saturday washing. I also prepared corn for grinding from the farm, helped peeling cassava for garri, swept my room, weeded outside etc.

By the time I was going to boarding school (just before I turned 11), I could take care of the house with little supervision if need be.

By 12, I could be left alone overnight with my younger ones without my parents having to panic.
By 13, I could be left hours at a stretch with a baby (3 months to about a year) and be expected to know what to do. And if there was an emergency, I knew to go immediately to the neighbour's house to inform them and my brother knew who to immediately make a phone call to.

Now, if I could do all these and take it as a part of growing up, what is wrong with getting someone at that age to do it? Please note that I don't have a maid nor am I considering getting one. I am lucky to be in a position where I don't need it.

ifyalways:
@Blacklion,i'm in naija and have 3 boys  all below 4 years.I don't have a live-in help.

The help is a 22 yrs old female undergraduate.My boys leave school/Crech by 4pm and that is when her work starts (monday to friday),she works from 4pm to 8pm and i get back home between 5pm to 7pm depending on my schedule.On saturdays,she works from 7am to 12pm and her pay is 20K.I have cameras installed and very proud to say that i've not been disappointed.she's been behaving well.

She is happy,I'm very satisfied.Point is,regardless of where u live,if u  decide on NOT enslaving another womans child cos u have the means or feel you are doing her a favour,u can!
Forget all this story of "I would put her in school,she is just there to play with my kids" all are booolsheet.Bottomline is,wud you let your OWN 8-15 yrs child live with another person,afterall the person wud put him/her in school,treat her well

slave trade has been abolished but slave mentality and spirit still thrives in us.Tufia!