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| Re: Choosing Between A Teenage Househelp And A 10 Year Old Househelp by Nobody: 12:24am On Jan 17, 2012 |
BB I have read people's reply to agiboma and I don't think it's harsh. It does not matter if she's relocated from mars to earth ,what is wrong is wrong. Has she seen a 10yr old help in Canada before? Is it a norm in Canada?. Why do people come to Nigeria and think their fellow blacks can be used as slaves. As a human being, your skin should crawl, you should say the biggest no and not even consider it ,if someone suggests to you a 10yr old help. And to think they want his 10yr olds because of their insecurities is stooopid. I can "manage" taking a 10 yr old to train her and give her a better life but taking a 10yr old because they are scared their husbands will sleep wih a teenager is arrrrrrggggggggg How shallow minded. Wicked people |
| Re: Choosing Between A Teenage Househelp And A 10 Year Old Househelp by Outstrip(f): 5:39am On Jan 17, 2012 |
smh |
| Re: Choosing Between A Teenage Househelp And A 10 Year Old Househelp by agiboma(f): 2:48pm On Jan 17, 2012 |
Sisi_Kill: Relocating here has definetly been a cultural shock to put it mildly. To all you ladies on here i must say from an outsiders perspective you guys are definelty in the minority in this country. Perhapes your revolutionary views may start the woman's movement in this Nigeria which is way overdue IMO. To all those who understand that i mean no harm thanks for having that open mind. For all the other not mentioning any names i look fwd to your future attacks on every post i make. |
| Re: Choosing Between A Teenage Househelp And A 10 Year Old Househelp by SisiKill1: 5:25pm On Jan 17, 2012 |
agiboma:Lmao!! Nah, you are now officially a member of the coven. . .err. . .I mean cabal. . .so you have immunity. See Madam CC for your Badge, Uniform and Meeting Schedule. See Madam BB to schedule your Martial Art defense training and Madam JK for your sharp shooting training. You are being given the ultimate power here. . .use it wisely grasshopper.  |
| Re: Choosing Between A Teenage Househelp And A 10 Year Old Househelp by bigbumper(f): 10:24pm On Jan 17, 2012 |
jennykadry: Jenny, my post was referring to 4 people none of which is a male, so how could i used a harsh word such as "harsh" in my post  I knew I was dealing with females hence the 4 gentle adjectives I used were childish/unnecessary/silly/uncalled for  Agiboma only posted once on this thread at the time ada24 recalled her name, so she must have gone through the thread again and seen her "oops moment", her skin woulda prolly crawled at her post too, otherwise she would not have voluntarily come back with contrition in her heart, saying she has had a change of heart and done a u-turn, so we should take her words for it, unlike the others with their resolute repulsive stance. . .and that should be all there is to it. And aside from the unrepentant OP, it is hard not to notice there is still one repugnant coldhearted person digging in her heels that it is her right to employ a 3 years old house slave if she so desires, so hey I know the moral boundary between right and wrong. . . so all I was just saying is to take Agiboma's words for what she says it is, cos afterall she too could have come back to take and maintain the stance of soapdish and ngn4 knowing the worst that could happen is peeps venting and gnashing their teeth at their computer screen. . . |
| Re: Choosing Between A Teenage Househelp And A 10 Year Old Househelp by agiboma(f): 2:29pm On Jan 18, 2012 |
big_bumper: @bigbumper Maturity goes a long way thanks for being open minded and seeing the big picture  |
| Re: Choosing Between A Teenage Househelp And A 10 Year Old Househelp by Nobody: 2:54pm On Jan 18, 2012 |
^^^STFU YOU CHEAP WH0re. BB, people had the right to say what they said. It is very annoying when someone supports child abuse because they are scared of what their husbands will do. No one has to take her word for it, it's not easy to let go off the fact that she supported it in the first place and only backed down when people were very against it. Change of heart or not, she was going for it. Her reason for agreeing to this, isn't a good one, hence peoples replies |
| Re: Choosing Between A Teenage Househelp And A 10 Year Old Househelp by agiboma(f): 4:17pm On Jan 18, 2012 |
You immature child, done with you for good jk. Comment all you like on future threads, LovePeddler you say? Funny so many others have used that term to describe YOU Jk on many threads i have read. Looks like we have something in common. |
| Re: Choosing Between A Teenage Househelp And A 10 Year Old Househelp by bigbumper(f): 5:11pm On Jan 18, 2012 |
^^^ Agiboma no, no, no, abeg let it go for my sake biko, I nor sabi how to settle pointless catfights oh biko, please drop this, I am on my knees. YOU SAID YOU ARE DONE SO I HOPE I CAN TAKE YOUR WORD FOR IT, BIKO leave my first pickin alone   jennykadry: Jenny, sure I will never dispute the fact that everyone has the right to their opinion however asinine or pedantic it might be. And one thing i always repeat ad naseum is that i don't expect everyone to agree to all my 900 posts, meaning i am not obliged to agree to theirs too, hence will always call it as i see it. And if you ask around i can't stand anyone being picked on where i am And before I wade into any issue to post, I always knack my peripheral goggles, download my mantra "IS THE MEANS BEING USED PURE AS THE END THEY SEEK" (RIP Martin) - then I start looking to see what the alledged offender said/why it was deemed offensive/why it could be deemed offensive/what solution the aggrieved party wants/whether the aggrieved party is genuinely concerned or is just looking for a pound of flesh/if there are other means the aggrieved party can get their point across/motive/motive/motive/etc. . . And this is the reason why my posts is usually mostly directed at stubborn people's conscience. . . People were also against ngn4 and soapdish who refused to "back down" and "stop going for it", but what did that amount too, nor be say everyone realising no one was about to back down, retreated to their lane abi nor be so. Agiboma on the other hand didn't indulge in any back and forth, someone highlighted the only comment she made, and she came to retract it, SIMPLE, hence reason I proferred my opinion which I had the right to. And I can't stop anyone and haven't stopped anyone from responding to me and "unwittingly" opening the fowl yansh further na, cos nor be me go get the egg splat on my face na, or wetin u expect to find when you go rummaging inside fowl yansh  This here is the whole summary of why I dive right in when I see peeps being picked on or when I see an inflammatory situation in the piping : "Cowardice asks the question, 'Is it safe?' Expediency asks the question, 'Is it politic?' Vanity asks the question, 'Is it popular?' But, conscience asks the question, 'Is it right?' And there comes a time when one must take a position that is neither safe, nor politic, nor popular, but one must take it because one's conscience tells one that it is right." |
| Re: Choosing Between A Teenage Househelp And A 10 Year Old Househelp by agiboma(f): 6:38pm On Jan 18, 2012 |
for you ill do anything bb  |
| Re: Choosing Between A Teenage Househelp And A 10 Year Old Househelp by Dudugirl01(f): 8:53pm On Jan 18, 2012 |
Before pricking a bird with a needle, why not try it out on urself first? I mean come on, an eight year old or ten year old is still virtually a child, I've a little brother who's gonna be ten this year, he doesn't even do his own laundry cos he's still my baby, if u want help, why don't u get a mature house boy |
| Re: Choosing Between A Teenage Househelp And A 10 Year Old Househelp by Nobody: 2:19am On Jan 19, 2012 |
BB, the OP did back down the last time I checked . agiboma: Yea we do, the only thing we have "uncommon" is ; I do not take shait from the man I am married to, the person I am married to does not disrespect me, I am not going to have some STD Infested backside anytime soon, i do not go to bed Hot and with tears on my mind, tears of rejection, so you see we really are not on the same level. You are married to a man wh0ree who finds anything but his wife sexually attractive, a man that sleeps with another woman on your matrimonial bed, a man that fnds you boringin bed, a man who has looked deep down at your v@Gina and said to himself. . . . ."this dirty 12ft deep well, isn't something I am looking forward to seeing for the rest of my life" I hope I have answered your question right and set the records str8 |
| Re: Choosing Between A Teenage Househelp And A 10 Year Old Househelp by bigbumper(f): 7:59am On Jan 19, 2012 |
^^^ Jenny the Op did not back down hence reason she was backing and forthing till page 4, instead what happened was the people attacking the OP realised it was an exercise in futility and gave up and slunk away. This was why I expressed the distaste at how some peeps crawled outta the woods to throw darts at Agiboma perceived to be the "weakest link", they could see with the women intuition we were blessed withm . . that Agiboma's conscience was now atuned to the issue, and was now attempting to right things, yet . . . Jenny it is because your female intuition is on at full blast that makes you always agitated to say "woman you are a fool for taking this bullshi't/if you were my Sister I will slap some sense into you/etc. . .You too could keep quiet due to vanity and the need to be popular and only chip in half-heartedly to maintain some fake ar'sed rep, but you don't. . . But that you choose to come out shooting from the hip instead of ridiculing which some specialise in. . .is a commendable feat from you, and I'd take this over a million times than fake sincerity or people who only post to be popular by playing to the gallery. Keep it up I am not taking about those catfight which would not have "come into being" if the other party/parties had clicked the ignore button,, so don't go a-getting ya pata nla with those superman motifs twisted |
| Re: Choosing Between A Teenage Househelp And A 10 Year Old Househelp by bigbumper(f): 8:03am On Jan 19, 2012 |
agiboma: Thank you thank you thank you, you are a star Hold your head up high, we have seen women go through worse in this section and the general consensus and advise they had been given was "you are the woman and must have slacked/get back on your knees and start licking your Husband's feet/rub his belly/dress sexy for him/hit the gym and lose weight/cook him some good food/give him mindblowing sex/yada/yada/yada . . . So babes you are not alone, the one thing I always say applies to you too - OUR MOTHERS FAILED US. Nigerian women have been conditioned to believe that the marital home is the "be it and all", hence the clarion call of at least you are married/what has your eyes seen/at least you are Mrs Somebody/at least he gives you a roof over your head/at least you got the ring/stay for your children/the grass is not greener on the other side/etc And when you complain he is cheating with 20 women or beating you nko, all you will hear is pray for him/the devil is behind this/the devil is a liar/the devil does not want your home to be peaceful/the girl must have jazzed him/don't allow any trifling whippersnapper take over your home oh/etc Agiboma, and when Nigeria culture dictates this upstream struggle to swim and stay afloat is what majority of Nigerian women have to endure, so what can you do knowing if you decide to jump ship they will start calling you ashawo and allsorts. . .forgetting the small niggling fact that afterall the Nigerian woman is human too. . . There is one glimmer of hope though and I am sure there is the equivalent in the Quran too. The Bible states that is is better not to marry and remain single to serve God, but acceded to us marrying if we cannot contain the lust of the flesh. People still not content wanted a getout clause hence reason God threw his hands up in exasperation that "okay okay okay you can divorce but only on grounds of adultery" It is possible to "get" your Husband back if you want through understanding his background/prayer/counselling and the good news is that the Bible describes this selfless sacrifice as longsuffering and actually states it is a gift because for one to be able to overlook one's atrocious behaviour and keep hoping and believing and praying for such person. . .some people can't take this and would bail and do a runner on such man. . .so if you decide to stick with it with prayer and supplication, you are not doing it for self but doing it for God. But hey remember to shield your children from witnessing their Dad when he is under the influence of "that" contrary spirit and is battling his demons. . .History need not repeat itself in such situation. . .Men are truly "simple" beings whose basic utmost need is food, sex, respect and the need to bring home the bacon/provide a lair for their household. . . |
| Re: Choosing Between A Teenage Househelp And A 10 Year Old Househelp by blacklion(m): 8:38am On Jan 19, 2012 |
Housemaid Jailed 4 Years For Drugging Mistress, Stealing N6m Jewellery January 18, 2012 An Igbosere Magistrate’s Court, Lagos, southwest Nigeria, has sentenced a housemaid, Janet Phillip, to three years and six months imprisonment for drugging his employer and stealing N6 million jewellery from her. The accused was sentenced without an option of fine by magistrate W.B. Balogun after she pleaded guilty to the three-count charge of felony to wit administering stupefying materials on her boss to steal N6 million jewellery from her. The charge was read in the court during her arraignment. Police investigation revealed that Janet Phillip on 14 August 2011 at 86, Oyinbo Adjarho Street, Lekki Phase One, Eti Osa council area stole her employer’s jewellery valued at N6 million after she administered sleeping substances into her tea. She thereafter escaped to give them to one Joseph alleged to be her boyfriend to sell and she received a share of N350,000 from the proceeds while her lover went with the balance. Her employer, Mrs. Olabisi Talabi after drinking the tea became unconscious and was revived in the hospital where doctor told her that she was poisoned through tea. In her statement to the police, Janet confessed to the crime, saying that Joseph and others, now at large, convinced her to steal her boss’ jewellery and that they would give her money to start life and forget about housemaid job. She said: “To actualise our plan, Joseph gave me a whitish substance to put in my boss’ tea to make her sleep off and steal the jewellery. But he assured me she would not die. After she rank the tea I prepared for her, she slept off and I ransacked her room and found the jewellery and packed them to Joseph and others who later gave me N350,000 before I was arrested by the police at a hideout.” According to the prosecutor, ASP Raymond Odion Akhaine, the offence is punishable under Sections 516, 390 (9) and 331 of the Criminal Code Cap C 32 Vol.2 Laws of Lagos State of Nigeria, 2011. The accused pleaded guilty to the charges. The presiding magistrate, Mr. W. B. Balogun sentenced her to three years and six months jail without an option of fine. —Paul Iyoghojie via PM News |
| Re: Choosing Between A Teenage Househelp And A 10 Year Old Househelp by bigbumper(f): 8:51am On Jan 19, 2012 |
^^^ Hmmm, so many "ifs" and "buts", but one still can't stop to ponder if she'd hhave succumbed if she'd been treated right. Hmmm, the need to also be wary of employing older impressionable people is also glaring here. Afterall is said and done, why do people still need in-house househelps these days, what happened to getting someone on as "as needed" basis!!! Lazyness is one hella mofo I tell ya  |
| Re: Choosing Between A Teenage Househelp And A 10 Year Old Househelp by armyofone(m): 9:57am On Jan 19, 2012 |
BB, kai, you sabi write o . mind if i invite you to do the toast for my d-day eh? i get khaki for you and clearance to enter Base food plenty too |
| Re: Choosing Between A Teenage Househelp And A 10 Year Old Househelp by bigbumper(f): 10:58am On Jan 19, 2012 |
armyofone:  What ignonimy, me that if you look up iyntrovert in the dictionary, you will see it is listed next to iyalode Haba me that i am just signing on now now and have only just written two lines only and this is my first post of the year, or isn't it two lines you see up there  Ehn don't tell me it is me and not Jenny that needs goggles, impossicant I demand a second opinion  Trust this awa gbogbo bigger gurlz to be the first in the queue, who wan miss witnessing Dayokanu-the okunrin meta-extraordinaire finally cornering you and putting a ring on it despite all ya shakara Yes Dayokanu nailed it, yippee, yay See blushing bride, come closer let me pull ya cheeks jare, why shall you shy, especially when it is the hot-to-throt-Dayokanu wey every lady on NL dey shamelessly throw themselves at we are talking about, but who only had eyes for your take home to Mama cookery skills as reflected in your bakassi |
| Re: Choosing Between A Teenage Househelp And A 10 Year Old Househelp by agiboma(f): 11:33am On Jan 19, 2012 |
big_bumper: Your post made me cry, I wish i could pm you and express the reason's behind my weeping, but i cant post it on this board without being further ridiculed. |
| Re: Choosing Between A Teenage Househelp And A 10 Year Old Househelp by bigbumper(f): 7:33pm On Jan 19, 2012 |
agiboma: Awww, no need to cry honey, my email address is busybody999@yahoo.co.uk. The beauty of this forum is the cathartic anonimity it affords us, so treat whatever you read here as water off a duck's back, we all know that you are only being encumbered and overburdened by our backward culture, so allow your spirit to rise again so you can rise above your situation since you have decided to stay and fight for your marriage and once you throw God into the mix, you would no longer see yourself as a victim but as a survivor. . .it is your Husband who has severe self-esteem issue looking for validation all over the place like a headless chicken. I will go over your post but from the little I read, you are not staying because you are financialy incompetent but because of your son, despite the emotional hurt you are going through, and this is a selfless act in itself. And you have come here because deep down you think it might be detrimental to your children growing up in such environment, hence need input and advise on how to tow this path. . . So chin up like I said earlier, for you are not alone in this walk, it is the norm in Nigerian society. You will overcome. |
| Re: Choosing Between A Teenage Househelp And A 10 Year Old Househelp by MrsSiena1(f): 9:55pm On Jan 19, 2012 |
BB dearie I dont really know what to say am really really impressed seriously and you have won a place in my heart once again |
| Re: Choosing Between A Teenage Househelp And A 10 Year Old Househelp by SisiKill1: 11:21pm On Jan 19, 2012 |
Mrs. Siena: Honestly, I agree!! BB, you are definitely a better woman than most of us. Nothing else can make your bad behavior more apparent than someone doing/being the opposite. [img]http://www.xs4all.nl/~ernstmul/images/yahoo/08.gif[/img] |
| Re: Choosing Between A Teenage Househelp And A 10 Year Old Househelp by bigbumper(f): 6:57am On Jan 20, 2012 |
Sisi_Kill: Hmmm, better woman ke, hahaha I see why una don miss road, its the resultant effect of passive igbo smoking, oh dear sorry to see you have been inhaling what I have been exhaling, abeg try not to stay too close to me when I am rollling and smoking my hourly dose of medicated from the prestigious yabaleft if I might add indian hemp, this will make you have a clearer head next time, better woman ko, best man ni, lol You bold oh, you nor even fear the chance of Sango or Ayilala striking you with thunder for that fallacy ni, chai you get liver By the way this is just to coincide with the full moon coming, I will soon return to "normal" so I can retire to my cushy and comfy room and parlour at yabaleft. I worked my bu'tt off to earn that room so I'd be darned if I allow any good behaviour take it from my grasp. Yabaleft it is for me for life Mrs. Siena: Thanks for your kind comment and most importantly thank you for being a good woman to our beloved Brother Siena, may your reign at his side as his Deltan Queen be forever till eternity. Hey congratulations that God has once again considered you and your Deltan King worthy to look down from heaven and blow down another baby gold dusts from the palm on His outstretched arms onto the two of you all the way from Heaven. . . as a sign that He is happy for the human race to continue. Lotsa wet juicy kisses to the squishy adorable scrummylicious Sienna too |
| Re: Choosing Between A Teenage Househelp And A 10 Year Old Househelp by MrsSiena1(f): 12:41pm On Jan 20, 2012 |
big_bumper: Awww thanks very much darling and God bless you tremendously |
| Re: Choosing Between A Teenage Househelp And A 10 Year Old Househelp by agiboma(f): 12:45pm On Jan 20, 2012 |
Sisi_Kill: i could not agree more |
| Re: Choosing Between A Teenage Househelp And A 10 Year Old Househelp by wendybaby(f): 3:04pm On Jan 20, 2012 |
wow, Big-Bumper, you have a secret admirer. After reading your posts, I cant but respond to appreciate you. I'd like to have a one-on-one with you. Hope I can e-mail you? |
| Re: Choosing Between A Teenage Househelp And A 10 Year Old Househelp by agiboma(f): 5:33pm On Jan 20, 2012 |
wendybaby: lol a beg wendy dont take to much of my time ooo, i need bb more than you, just joking , bb is a blessing im glad others see her in the same light as myself. |
| Re: Choosing Between A Teenage Househelp And A 10 Year Old Househelp by Nobody: 6:02pm On Jan 20, 2012 |
jennykadry: Woah!! Jenny, this is unlike you. Why do you hate Agiboma so much? Originally, her stance on the subject of this thread was disturbing, but she's seen where she's gone wrong. Why not let her be, unless she's offended you prior to this thread? Is your verbal abuse meant to be corrective, or is it more personal? I'm just curious, because you're not usually so full of bile. |
| Re: Choosing Between A Teenage Househelp And A 10 Year Old Househelp by Nobody: 11:48pm On Jan 20, 2012 |
Hate is a strong word Siena. |
| Re: Choosing Between A Teenage Househelp And A 10 Year Old Househelp by Nobody: 2:21am On Jan 21, 2012 |
^^^ It's a strong word alright. But dayuum! Your attack on your fellow woman is almost frightening. |
| Re: Choosing Between A Teenage Househelp And A 10 Year Old Househelp by Nobody: 2:35am On Jan 21, 2012 |
@siena Really, is that right? |
| Re: Choosing Between A Teenage Househelp And A 10 Year Old Househelp by bigbumper(f): 7:03am On Jan 21, 2012 |
Siena, The surreptitious why's/why can't i/why you shouldn't 3 way dialogue that transpired between myself, Agiboma and Jennykadry had effectively taken care of this, and like I mentioned earlier Jenny doesn't "talk" to herself. . .but there is no need to point the finger of blame to start rooting for who said what first, as this achieves nothing, until you . . . er. . . Well its iike this. . .tests upon tests upon tests have revealed that the parts of the brain that controls thinking and emotion in men and women are different oh. . .and this is all I am going to say oh. . .for example you men saying to a women "it was just sex" or men uttering "dammit woman can you shut up already you gat issues" or men scratching their heads wondering why women can't read maps, are only unconsciously doing this because of the way both sexes has been biologically engineered differently oh. . . Right onto serious matter, thanks all the same for showing up, unlike that lazy Richkunt who legged it, how hard can it be to work hands and foot like a dogsbody on a few harmless, toothless ladies like us huh, SMH. You can hang your coat on the jacket rack there, the kitchen is that way I have left the kettle on the boil, there are 12 of us women in the boardroom already, so that's 12 cups of steaming hot chocolate there. . . And when you are done serving us that, you can get started on the sandwiches, the list of what we ladies require is on the kitchen worktop. . .so please be mindful of those who wants brown bread/seeded loaf/gluten free/white bread/ciabatta rolls/bagels/etc. Oh could you also drop the tea for now and go help the ladies just coming please. . .you know how we ladies are with parallel parking and reversing round the corner I bet Thanks love you are a sport The meeting is only scheduled to hold for a maximum of just 18 hours, so we wouldn't be taking too much of your time at all But don't take my word for it cos I envisage all the "why was she invited/gosh doesn't she look dreadful/my feng shui chart indicates I can only sit at the head of the table/oh look she is wearing last seasons Jimmy Choo/etc small talks, we still have to wade through before we get to the main agenda of "man, the can't-do-wiithout-enemy within Hey Agiboma also mentioned somewhere that she is foreign hence reason twas logical for her at the time to rely on her Hubby's recommendation. |
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