I have this friend that i really like very much. he's a geek. He loves programming, reading and he's actually very intelligent. we've been very close friends for like 4 years now. there is practically nothing i dont know about him, and he also knows a lot about me.
i discovered i was in love with him 2 years ago. i tried ignoring it but the feelings only grew stronger. i avoided him for a while, but it was hard, cos i still did not get over him. i took a bold step, and told him how i felt about him about a year ago. he said he's not sure he felt the same way, and that he wasnt ready for commitments. i felt hurt and immediately moved on. somehow we became close friends again, and each time i told him i tried withdrawing, he would start begging me, telling me i was his best friend and dat he could not afford to loose me. We've been through a lot together. We play and have fun and talk like everyday. Most of our friends even think we are dating. Several guys have asked me out, but i cant seem to get him out of my mind. About 2 months ago, i summoned courage again and i told him i loved him. (But i told him to keep it off record, that i just wanted him to know). I know he likes me but i dont understand him. he said he doesnt know what it means to have feelings cos he doesnt really understand the idea. he spends like 12 hours a day on his computer writing codes, and doing computer stuff. i'm also an ICT person so i understand his commitments.
But Could it be that he's just too engrossed with his books, and career, or he really cannot feel?

u jst said geek
wat else do dey know
bt m sure if u stay away 4 a wyl, he ll know wat feelings r or cld b he doesnt feel 4 u

he calls me pet names, buys me gifts, and always wants to know if any guy has asked me out. he trusts me with confidential information and we've gone out on dates, i dont think he doesnt have feelings. he said its not consistent,

please try to respect his desire to be a friend remember dont waste much of ur time on planning to be in relationship with him, be who you are dont pretend he might change is mind as god require

hey - OP

He wants to be just a friend - keep it that way - do you love him as a person, or you love him romantically?

Dont spoil your friendship, that you are good friends doesnt mean you will end up as great lovers - try to move on and let him know who you are with. Or else, keep your emotions in check - i.e. mas.tubate. hahahaha.

I GUESS HE LOVE YOU AND CARE FOR YOU BUT HE IS TOO ENGROSSED WITH HIS BOOKS AND CAREER WHICH MIGHT TAKE HIM MORE YRS BEFORE HE SETTLE DOWN AND HE DONT WANT TO WASTE UR TIME, YOU TOLD HIM TWO MONTH AGO AND HE HAS NEVER COMMENT ON THAT AGAIN AFTER THAT DAY YOU TOLD HIM?GET UR SELF HOOK TO A MAN OR PRETEND AS IF YOU HAVE BEEN HOOK AND SEE HIS REACTION TOWARD YOU, BUT PLEASE RESPECT HIS DESIRE TO KEEP UR FRIENDSHIP

I GUESS HE LOVE YOU AND CARE FOR YOU BUT HE IS TOO ENGROSSED WITH HIS BOOKS AND CAREER WHICH MIGHT TAKE HIM MORE YRS BEFORE HE SETTLE DOWN AND HE DONT WANT TO WASTE UR TIME, YOU TOLD HIM TWO MONTH AGO AND HE HAS NEVER COMMENT ON THAT AGAIN AFTER THAT DAY YOU TOLD HIM?GET UR SELF HOOK TO A MAN OR PRETEND AS IF YOU HAVE BEEN HOOK AND SEE HIS REACTION TOWARD YOU, BUT PLEASE RESPECT HIS DESIRE TO KEEP UR FRIENDSHIP

He likes you as a female friend. Dnt waste your time.

How many times did you say you told him again?

About your love that is.

I think i lost count, no offence.

tpia@:

How many times did you say you told him again?

About your love that is.

I think i lost count, no offence.

does it matter? what matters is that i told him.

Be his friend , nothing more, there's somethings you just can't force. Don't torture yourself by hoping against hope

See now o.

The guy don tell you say he just wants to be your friend. . . you no gree.

Now when katakata burst, you'll be crying that men are heartless; men are dogs . . blah blah blah.

He may be a geek but still, he knows what he wants. . . and you are not it right now.

get it?

Op, na by force? Person say hin no love u, u wan kill yourself. Abeg free d guy, he only loves u as a friend. Go look for another person.

Finally a story that doesn't involve cheating, violation, polygamy or pallys in desperate need of advice.

I was beginning to wonder where all the normal people were.

Op just date another person and belive me if he truly loves you the way you do he will surly come for you but if he does not come for u you must move on and find another person who loves u .

Uninstall every software on his laptop.

Mobinga:

Uninstall every software on his laptop.

format his system my dearest litu sista

You've told him twice how you feel and he has never reciprocated.

He has told you you're his best friend; maybe that's all he sees you as.
You can't force feelings that aren't there.

Yield:

You've told him twice how you feel and he has never reciprocated.

He has told you you're his best friend; maybe that's all he sees you as.
You can't force feelings that aren't there.

you can say that again !