@OP tell dem.

Too many children running to wear rings these days.
They do it for prestige, to stop people from harassing them, and all other wrong reasons.

@ Tgirl4real, you said it all.. The man as the head of the family needs to ask for God's wisdom so he can be a good leader and the wife needs understanding so she can pick her husband's words in a polite manner even when it is not favorable. Marriage comes with lot of issues but with God's wisdom one will overcome.. Firstly,one should know that you and your wife are both coming from different backgrounds,it is not possible you guyz reason the same way,lot of differences but LOVE makes one overlook all that and wisdom balances it all..

bukatyne: @neyostica: wat do u mean by helper n not partner?

Lets say mariage is a ship, then the man is the captain, while the woman is an assistant

Marriage is what you want it to be. Life is so simple and sweet - always.

neyostica:
Lets say mariage is a ship, then the man is the captain, while the woman is an assistant

Helper not assistant.

ronkebp:

Helper not assistant.

Whatever, simply put, the man is in charge

it aint no bed of roses trust me i no nothing about marriage

Marriage is not a bed of roses...you do not expect both individuals to be perfect and completely compatible even if they have courted or dated for years. Change is the only thing that is constant in life...so as the changes comes,both just have to learn to flow with the tide of the changes "positively"...love is not blind,it only sees what matters. May God help us!

Yeah it's a bed of roses but don't forget the fact that roses have thorns. Don't then expect it to be rosy all d tym think about the thorny aspect also.

The most important thing to make any marriage work is for both parties to be willing to do all that is expected to make it work. When we have it in our mind as individuals to ensure we would sacrifice all that is needed to make our marriages work then, surely it would work but the day we start nursing the idea that we have an option to divorce, then the marriage is fast setting towards divorce.

free2ryhme: Luv dis thread But without God in any marriage forget it ..."A chord of three cannot be easily broken"

if i say u no make sense am a liar. God should be the foundation. Pray ask GOD if he is right man 4 u or go see yor pastor

bukatyne: @neyostica: wat do u mean by helper n not partner?

google both

amtheone:

@Tgirl
If u get in with this mindset, u will make a gud home. U made so many fantastic points. Ensure u live upto this statement when u get married. But if u are married enjoy ur marriage.

Thanks. I'm married.

M.O.M:
@ Tgirl4real, you said it all.. The man as the head of the family needs to ask for God's wisdom so he can be a good leader and the wife needs understanding so she can pick her husband's words in a polite manner even when it is not favorable. Marriage comes with lot of issues but with God's wisdom one will overcome.. Firstly,one should know that you and your wife are both coming from different backgrounds,it is not possible you guyz reason the same way,lot of differences but LOVE makes one overlook all that and wisdom balances it all..

I love dis. I will pick one or two things I can apply to my marriage

The wedding day is a hundred metre dash whilst the actual marriage is a marathon.

Marriage is only worth it if you meet your soulmate.
Now meeting your soul mate is a different issue altogether. How many of us will meet our soulmate in just one lifetime

Yes marriage is a bed of Roses but even Roses have torns.

Marriage is work, no doubt about it. l think if you think it'll be peaches and creams,
you're living in dreamland with pink unicorns. You get the good,the bad and the ugly but
ultimately if you can both get to bed, make love then you're doing alright.
My partner and l have gone through the loss of our baby at term, financial loss and at times,
when we wanted to throw in the towel, and at one point we were walking out the door. We
realized that we were fighting because we were stressed, and it wasn't worth it. Nothing is
worth it.
Marriage is what you make it.The harder each person works to make the marriage successful,the
more likely it will be successful. None of this happens by accident or by good fortune.

Why wont it be easy for a woman to submit to a man that treats her right.
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It's not ALWAYS the case, only pray for Grace to find a virtuous woman.

Marriage should only be attempted by those blessed with incredible luck.

YES!,But you have to make the bed yourself

Even if its a bed of nails,i want it dat way.aftaall,singleness is not close to bed of roses ida:>

Tgirl4real: One main issue that leads to problems is the issue of submission.

The man is often quick to quote the bible: wife should submit not minding that the first instruction goes to him. The bible says: 'husbands love your wives, wives submit'. The greater responsibility lies with the man.

If you love her, you will consider her before makong decisions, you wont abuse her, you wont cheat on her, infact, you will put her first before you think of yoursef.
Why wont it be easy for a woman to submit to a man that treats her right.

Women generally, are known to be soft hearted, kind and compassionate. We can go all out and give all when in love.lol

So, so I say, treat her right and you will get the best of her and vice versa. Shikena!

Noted!

Well.... Marriage is bed and every marriage has a bed....but am not sure about the roses

Tgirl4real: Another thing that causes wahala is when the wife wants to control the relationship.

You want to determine wen your hubby wakes up, shower, go to work, return from work, what he eats @ work, who he eats with, the type of work he does, how he spends his money.(lol). You want to make every decision for him. All in the name of making your own contribution you dominate his life.

You determine everything in the family. He hardly says a word, u've said 10 and you hav an opinion on every matter. He doesn't know how to do anything well. Infact, you are competing the 'head' position with him. You are the only one that knows what is best for the kids. His opinion doesn't count.

If you are controlling, u will eventually turn your hubby to a puppet. When he wakes up from his slumber, you start having issues claiming that he has changed.

If you complain too much you chase him out into the hands of other women cos you are choking him.

The bible says it's better to live on the rooftop than to live with a nagging wife.

Just as we want our husbands to 'gbo ri du ro' and treat us right, we also have the responsibilty to treat him as the head he truly is and stop competing with him.

best post so far. There are some women that will not submit even when the husband loves them to bits. I think the critical issue in marriage is that of couples interferibg in each other's roles. E.g the wife trying to act the husband role or the husband not running his responsibilities.

big pastor: Why wont it be easy for a woman to submit to a man that treats her right.
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It's not ALWAYS the case, only pray for Grace to find a virtuous woman.

Yea, some women are just terrible. But most women will if they find true love.

free2ryhme: Luv dis thread But without God in any marriage forget it ..."A chord of three cannot be easily broken"

very true

A woman is designed to nurture,enhance and multiply anything u give 2 her,that's why when u give a woman an idea,she will give u a plan,give her a house,she will give u a home,give her a sperm,she will give u a child and if u give her trouble she will give u hell.good measure,pressed down,shaken 2geda and running over she will cause u 2 see fire. Love her and she will make u to be d man u are destined 2 be. Ow una see am?

JBL316: A woman is designed to nurture,enhance and multiply anything u give 2 her,that's why when u give a woman an idea,she will give u a plan,give her a house,she will give u a home,give her a sperm,she will give u a child and if u give her trouble she will give u hell.good measure,pressed down,shaken 2geda and running over she will cause u 2 see fire. Love her and she will make u to be d man u are destined 2 be. Ow una see am?

lol @ hell, good measure, pressed down . . .

Tgirl4real: Another thing that causes wahala is when the wife wants to control the relationship.

You want to determine wen your hubby wakes up, shower, go to work, return from work, what he eats @ work, who he eats with, the type of work he does, how he spends his money.(lol). You want to make every decision for him. All in the name of making your own contribution you dominate his life.

You determine everything in the family. He hardly says a word, u've said 10 and you hav an opinion on every matter. He doesn't know how to do anything well. Infact, you are competing the 'head' position with him. You are the only one that knows what is best for the kids. His opinion doesn't count.

If you are controlling, u will eventually turn your hubby to a puppet. When he wakes up from his slumber, you start having issues claiming that he has changed.

If you complain too much you chase him out into the hands of other women cos you are choking him.

The bible says it's better to live on the rooftop than to live with a nagging wife.

Just as we want our husbands to 'gbo ri du ro' and treat us right, we also have the responsibilty to treat him as the head he truly is and stop competing with him.

Fantastic insight. A wife can do every other thing right but if she gets this wrong, then her marriage could suffer.

@joey82 got it spot on, society today is focused more on vanity, class, looks etc as its foundation while the impportnt attributes such as virtue , respect etc is neglectted.

today most ladies with all their educatn lacks basic virtue needed to build a lovely home, while the rest are sluts offering themselves to the highest bidders

it is just very few women are marriageable type

while on the men part, maajority of men are directioless, they are not in control of themselves, cos if u are directionless there is no way u can lead a woman because every woman needs direction, protection and caring from man. women need real men as their leaders and they will willingly follow but most men cant be that.

and all these are a product of vain society we are in now
thats why most couples are misrable in there marriage it is not supposed to be so marriage is meant to be enjoyable