fav1: ok this is my story... My bf and i av been datin for almost 2years naw, and within dis 2yrs its been one issue or d oda abt oda girls. dey keep calling,sending sms, pictures and all, i keep sein ladies stuffs in his house and all but with all des i still stick around him cos i feel he realy loves me and he does not know how to say NO to these girls, Even all his Ex r still fwends with him.... But i Love this dude whole heartedly,unconditionally and i was sincere and faithful to him all tru, even prayed and fasted about it.. until recently when he had his bday party, HE KISSED anoda girl infront of me and i also get to find out about one of his Ex and how serious their relationship is growing back, family involved and all. and then i sat him down and asked him abt the whole thingy and d most shocking part is that he laughed about it. but he keeps saying d oda girl is not sum1 he can marry, that its me he realy wana get settled with... but things started gettin more worse and i cudnt just sit and being misserable. so i meet this new guy dat gives me attention and all, im gettin to like him much, tho i dnt realy knw him yet but i know i like him. so now my bf got to find out abt dis new guy and siezed my phones for days of which i dont av anytin im hiding, but i av sum madt naughty guys on my contact which chatted shit wiv him..
so to cut d whole story short, he asked me abt des guys and all, den i told him d truth and abt d new dude i just meet altho no Sexual intercourse yet btw us. but to my bf "ve cheated" and den he calls me all sorts of names, dissed me wiv my past and all... with all these I STILL BEGGED HIM SO MUCH.and he says he has heard.
but he keeps saying he cant 4GIVE me and hes acting Nice des days.
But im so scared. dont even knw what to do?
I realy Love him so much.

plss i need a reasonable advice from y'all....

Akinagirl: Poster come on now. Good riddance to bad horrible rubbish. He really doesnt love you. He had no right to take your phone. After all of what he has done to you. He doesnt deserve a secon or third chance. This man is going to marry his ex. Not you. Get out now and maintain your sanity. Nonsense. Hes playing you and your eyes are wide open.

ITbomb: what r they called again?
Fishbrain
Femine stock who cant use their brain

BolaBankole: @Poster permit me to ask how old you are and what is the age of this guy? It seems yhe is your first guy and you have little or no knowledge of an ideal relationship.you don't need to be told that this is not love but abuse at its peak, I don't want to retorate what other has said but just sit down and think for how long will you continue to live under fear of someone you claim to love, from every indication the same thing this guy is telling you is what his telling others thereby playing on your intelligence. I will advice you to quit the relationship, stay away from the other guy and focus on building your career...when the times comes the right guy will come just like a thief at night and will be the one that will respect your feelings and opinion.

pro01: I guess this boyfriend of yours must be rich (first and foremost), and perhaps also handsome and/or good in bed. And these are the only things that got you attracted to him and keeps you attracted to him. If that is the case, what makes you think you deserve to enjoy these things all alone? Would you still love him and want him this bad if he suddenly goes broke? Then I'm sure all the other girls would leave him for you to enjoy all by yourself.

BolaBankole: @Poster permit me to ask how old you are and what is the age of this guy? It seems yhe is your first guy and you have little or no knowledge of an ideal relationship.you don't need to be told that this is not love but abuse at its peak, I don't want to retorate what other has said but just sit down and think for how long will you continue to live under fear of someone you claim to love, from every indication the same thing this guy is telling you is what his telling others thereby playing on your intelligence. I will advice you to quit the relationship, stay away from the other guy and focus on building your career...when the times comes the right guy will come just like a thief at night and will be the one that will respect your feelings and opinion.

~Killz~:

Smh! This is what happens when you make a guy you are not married to the center of your world. Why will you take such crap? Are you that insecure? Seize your phone for days? WTF

I don't know much, but this is not love. He won't be open to any agreement, cos you are scared of him, and you can't really confront him. Get out of that relationship for your own good, or stay and be traumatized unnecessarily. He's not even planning to marry you. What nonsense!

deshclones:

o boy must you yell and shout at every opportunity??advice the chi or STFU... wonder what sort of dad you will make..hmmh

Bro, he's a lost kid with internet access

deshclones:

o boy must you yell and shout at every opportunity??advice the chi or STFU... wonder what sort of dad you will make..hmmh

agreene: I am an African American woman living in the states and not in a million years would my bf seize my phone. What is that about?

Just leave him because he is pathetic. In any relationship you must show your partner how you want to be treated -1st by treating yourself

with respect and dignity. I was really close to my college best friend. He is Nigerian. We decided to start dating and I broke it off

because he lacks communication. He goes days without calling. When you have all the signs- it doesn't take other people to tell you what is really

going on here. He is disrespectful and self centered. Sometimes you must remove yourself from such negative situations in order to know your own

self worth. He has drained you of your dignity and self respect. Sometimes we you love someone you hope they will love you enough to treat you

like you want and asked to be treated. I have learned in past relationships if you allow a person to disrespect you they will continue until you

draw boundaries. Pick you head up...Mend your heart. You deserve to be with someone that will shower unconditional love your way.

Learn your self worth. Take this time out to distance yourself from him. Write about your feelings. Start journaling. The 1st couple of days will

be tough. You will feel as if you can't breathe without him. You will feel nauseous but love you will survive. Once all the shade comes off from where

he has blinded you for years..you will wake up one day and say WHAT THE Bleep WAS I THINKING?

I will pray for you.

Amanda

ITbomb: since u too ugly and have insecurity and inferiority problem and u r not sure any responsible guy will ever look ur way, I suggest u stick with him, nature has its own way of giving people what they deserved at their level.
U r a pathetic lover

fav1:


God bless u Amanda.... dats d best advice i ad so far with reasons.
thank u Love.

agreene:

Fav1-I am happy to provide you with advise that I hope will help you start
your journey to mending your heart, mind and soul.

Do you have a skype ID? We can continue to chit chat there. How are you doing today?

How was your weekend? Is everything okay?

Amanda