Welcome, Guest: Register On Nairaland / LOGIN! / Trending / Recent / NewStats: 3,195,274 members, 7,957,678 topics. Date: Tuesday, 24 September 2024 at 05:26 PM |
Nairaland Forum / Science/Technology / Computers / Is It Okay To Read Your Wife's E-Mails? (17681 Views)
Spam Mails Every Day In Yahoo Mail! / ***send Your HTML Bulk Mails Direct To Inbox Using My Online Mailler*** / Unsolicited E-mails Alert (2) (3) (4)
(1) (2) (3) (4) (5) (6) (7) (8) (9) (Reply) (Go Down)
Re: Is It Okay To Read Your Wife's E-Mails? by somze(f): 9:51am On Nov 13, 2007 |
seun well thats a good question, but experience from my Aunt and my Uncle tells me that because they share passwords and all, there's no need for either of them to check the mails unless either party brought something up. Openess . . . sorry for my language . . . brings trust. Trusts removes the need to constantly monitor . . . surveillance may be a better word here . . . the other party's activities. I can tell you that my uncle stays out late, travels alone and stuff but even I trust him so much that I know he will not as much as look at another woman. Like I said any woman that has nothing to hide in her email wont make a big deal out of it and soon both parties wont even bother about emails anymore. |
Re: Is It Okay To Read Your Wife's E-Mails? by somze(f): 10:01am On Nov 13, 2007 |
nwando:BabyOsisi, that was unnecessary na Just cause we're unmarried does not mean we cant air views on marriage issues, we'll all get married one day . . . I think Anyway I understood your view point but I have a slight concern - Why would a wife not give her husband her email password if asked? What possible excuse can she offer? Privacy? Is that a good enough excuse for someone she's spending her life with. This is even email o not bank account statements and all that. I wonder what the woman would say when it comes to that. |
Re: Is It Okay To Read Your Wife's E-Mails? by almondjoy(f): 10:12am On Nov 13, 2007 |
I do not know why it is mostly the men here that have a problem with this e-mail business after having more than one girlfriend or wife here, there and everywhere. Is this not a sign of joblessness? |
Re: Is It Okay To Read Your Wife's E-Mails? by almondjoy(f): 10:15am On Nov 13, 2007 |
Make una come see the one when dey practice marriage "transparency" oh! Hiding money from your "beautiful queen of Sheba" of a wife who is worth more than I million of me? ------to squander on all your girlfriends and side kicks. Useless man. I hope your "beetiful" wife reads this too! Awobi! I remember you very well. You have entered my trap. Oloshi! Just goes to show. If the rest of you are not careful, I will go and dig up more of your past sins on Nairaland. Chauvinists!!!!!! Hypocrites!!!!!!
Make I see your leg here again! Hypocrite!!!! Yes! It would have been better if you did not register your presence at all! You well so? What effrontery?
He he he he he he he he he! See im mouth? Hmmmmmmmmmmmmm! See your Mr transparency? Hiding money from his wife? Now get back into your "fetid cave"!!!! PIMPS!!!! |
Re: Is It Okay To Read Your Wife's E-Mails? by somze(f): 10:18am On Nov 13, 2007 |
almondjoy:You just want to start a war don't you, madam take am easy o Meanwhile whatever happened to Babeelove . . . just thinking Now the problem with bank statements got me thinking. Is Email to the females the equivalent of what a Bank account is to the males? . . . just thinking |
Re: Is It Okay To Read Your Wife's E-Mails? by almondjoy(f): 10:27am On Nov 13, 2007 |
somze: Hmmmmmmmm! The one you left at the altar? She is happily married now while you are still single running after "Neyo"--in Nairaland!!! What are you thinking? Transparency is transparency---email or bank account. Share and share alike. What is the difference. Is it not hiding something too? Not trying to start any wars here but to let you know that that "transparency" law is for the birds! Oh? It is okay for a man to hide his earnings while rummaging through his wife's e-mail eh? What is the difference please. No trust? Trust! nwando and seasoned "married folks" on Narialand know better. Just keep learning. There are somethings you can never learn in any "classroom"!!! |
Re: Is It Okay To Read Your Wife's E-Mails? by mamaput(f): 10:29am On Nov 13, 2007 |
But why even ask for the password. if it has come to that stage then who is the problem with. i do not know why people cannot understand do not read my mails. The same thing with letters. it is free for me not to show my husband my letters, or to read only a part to him. If i feel that he will go behind my back to read them, i will start hiding them |
Re: Is It Okay To Read Your Wife's E-Mails? by mamaput(f): 10:30am On Nov 13, 2007 |
Oh? It is okay for a man to hide his earnings while rummaging through his wife's e-mail eh? What is the difference please. No trust? i know women that do not even know the husbands bank. |
Re: Is It Okay To Read Your Wife's E-Mails? by somze(f): 10:35am On Nov 13, 2007 |
mamaput:Are you married? I notice that the married females have a slightly different view on the subject. I guess I have to forget about asking my wife about her password But I have seen where this works without any issues . . . my Uncle has the password but he does not go there unless she wants to show him stuff . . . maybe thats the difference Anyway nothing wrong in letting your husband know your password . . . what is marriage for anyway? |
Re: Is It Okay To Read Your Wife's E-Mails? by almondjoy(f): 10:36am On Nov 13, 2007 |
mamaput: Or how many bank accounts for that matter. When it comes to "cheating" women out of basic rights, these men will come out and start singing a different song. Is that not a breach of trust on their part? Now these ones here are quibbling over common e-mail. mamaput: I will not hide it, but I will not give you ma password either. I am not good at hiding things because I do not like living in some kind of secrecy. But if you make it your business as a "man" to go snooping and not respect my privacy--you might just be setting yourself up for a whole load of psychological "torture"! Privacy should be respected. Only chronic busy bodies will worry about other peoples' e-mails. Including husbands and wives!!!! Please keep busy y'all!!! I have a hard time checking my own e-mails not to talk of another person's. What is the interest in other people's e-mails for heaven's sake? |
Re: Is It Okay To Read Your Wife's E-Mails? by almondjoy(f): 10:42am On Nov 13, 2007 |
somze: Because women understand the need to have a "private haven" from it all when things are not so rosy! You guys can hang out in bars and what have you. But a married woman's "recreational" environment is very limited. Then the only one area you might have control, the man wants to come there too? Yes! Forget about asking her about it because she will need moments of sanity from you sometimes where you cannot tell her what to do. If you cannot share your bank account details--don't bother asking for her "password". Like your uncle and his wife have only one e-mail account" How many people in this day and age have less than 3 e-mail accounts. Who is fooling who? What the heck do you want with her password anyway? That is too much control I may say. The next thing you will ask for your son's or daughter's or sister's or brother's. It is irrelevant! |
Re: Is It Okay To Read Your Wife's E-Mails? by somze(f): 10:53am On Nov 13, 2007 |
almondjoy: I was just in Neyo for the money, but now i'm back almondjoy: Big difference, this is CASH $$$ not just some silly email account where she's allowed to flirt. almondjoy: This generalization is hasty and false. I need not bother to debunk this claim Or according to your theory ALL guys hang out in bars and all while women have nothing except their emails. Absolute RUBBISH!!! almondjoy: Bank accounts are different from ordinary email passwords but if she wants my statements she can as well have it, it's still me that signs the cheques not her. My Aunt has about 2 email account and an Internet Bank account . . . I have ALL those passwords. My Uncle may have more than 2 email accounts . . . I have his business email account password. Asking for password is not an issue until when she refuses to give it up, then eye brows will definitely be raised. Moments of sanity is what I need from her not the other way around . . . besides have you heard of holidays? |
Re: Is It Okay To Read Your Wife's E-Mails? by mamaput(f): 11:54am On Nov 13, 2007 |
somze its not about having it or not having it. its about asking for it. if my husband dose not have it then there is something wrong. there is no trust. I have my password saved so you only have to klick my user from my home pc. two if yiu know someone very well it should be easy to guess the password. my kids even have my onlinebanking pass word and my bank card pasword, because i trust them. But there is nothing like a snopping husband. Once when my kid was 2 years old i hrard the father asking her were i go with her , if i meet other men etc. Well that day i told him to his face if i bbring a lover home there is nothing he can do about it apart from going. so when you find the so called lover what next. |
Re: Is It Okay To Read Your Wife's E-Mails? by somze(f): 12:03pm On Nov 13, 2007 |
mamaput:You kinda confused me here . . . I understand you have a problem with your husband asking for it but what do you mean by the highlighted? mamaput:Well there is certainly a problem of trust in that kind of relationship, i wonder what or who caused that. mamaput:This is a lil bit too much of info dont you think? |
Re: Is It Okay To Read Your Wife's E-Mails? by mamaput(f): 12:09pm On Nov 13, 2007 |
more like a little bit too much of the truth. |
Re: Is It Okay To Read Your Wife's E-Mails? by somze(f): 12:37pm On Nov 13, 2007 |
mamaput: Anyway you did not answer my question mamaput:What do you mean here? Do you accept that your husband can read your mails or not? |
Re: Is It Okay To Read Your Wife's E-Mails? by mamaput(f): 1:02pm On Nov 13, 2007 |
not all. there are some he may read but not all. anyway its not my problem because am devoiced. I do not read anyones mail so no one should read my own, our break up had nothing to do with password. we just fell out of love. |
Re: Is It Okay To Read Your Wife's E-Mails? by Nobody: 1:05pm On Nov 13, 2007 |
The truth is that who insists on finding a quarrel will eventually make one up when he does not find one. I am a man and i know there is totally nothing to be gained in reading your spouses emails. The key word is trust. If you trust her, you should probably be able to ask her whatever you think you'll see in those emails. Another point is "what is the aim of having her password?"[/b]There is no need doing all the James bond. Okay, if you really find out she was cheating through her emails, what next? Will you feel pleased with yourself and go to the bank? Of course not, you will still feel just as bad as if you had walked in and found them doing it on your matrimonial bed. Another poster had already said that "there are some things that are honestly not relevant to your marriage" not because they don't concern your husband, but because they concern other people. For instance, a patient confiding in a doctor or a psychiatrist does not expect him/her to go home and use his problems as pillow talk. There are actually laws prohibiting that!!!! [b]Till you die, there will always be things that your husband will not know about your family, take it or leave it. And lastly, for the simple reason that not all people are the same. Some need a greater degree of privacy than others and as respect is so important in any relationship, you must learn to respect whatever your spouse feels. Some husbands/ wives could be insensitive enough to bring up certain issues after a few drinks at a family function and then you'll know to keep your mouth shut. |
Re: Is It Okay To Read Your Wife's E-Mails? by somze(f): 1:43pm On Nov 13, 2007 |
mamaput I'm sorry about your marriage . . . He may read some . . . . I see og2711:The point of Email sharing is not to create problems it is to enable an open environment where trust is emphasized. There are a couple of ways a relationship can find quarrels so this is totally baseless . . . sorry og2711:Yes there is something gained - Open environment, sharing, increased trust, less secrets etc. If there is trust then email password should not be a problem should it? She should give it up to even prove that there lies no hidden skeletons og2711:There are lots of aims . . . emphasis on LOTS I do not understand your cheating analogy please explain. So because you dont want to see something bad in the mail you should let things be hidden? og2711:This case is totally different and involves privacy laws. It has nothing to do with the issue what so ever. There are a lot of things that are "not relevant in relationships" but we do them nonetheless and its helps it. Unless you can so prove that you do only relevant things in yours or in any others you once again are shooting at nothing. og2711:Oga let me make this simple. Two people are sharing the lives together till death, one asks the other please can I have your email password? What should be the reply? NO er er . . . I need my privacy? Absolute Rubbish. Like I have said earlier, emails and passwords are no big a deal unless access to it is denied then eyebrows will be most definitely raised. |
Re: Is It Okay To Read Your Wife's E-Mails? by almondjoy(f): 1:45pm On Nov 13, 2007 |
somze: Please, I hope you did not kill "Neyo" for the money? Once a gigolo, always a gigolo!!!! Don't worry, we know what to do with your kind! Come oh? Somze----What kind of people are your uncle and aunt? Are they invalids or are you adopted and made power of attorney over their estates to have all these privileges? Or did you cast a spell on them to have all these passwords? Why so much trust in you? People like you are to be feared. You sound very controlling. You must sign all the checks in your matrimonial home and demand e-mail account passwords? You are the only one that needs breaks or holidays from "marital stress". You sound so young and naive. og2711: Hmm! Now this a a guy that has a reality halo above his head. Right on! Infact please educate Somze and co. Some spouses have leaking traps and have no secret for real. Everyone will know your business after a few drinks like you said, at a dinner table. I have heard things at family dinners that spouses did not even know they were being spied on. Just only after a few drinks--because of bottled up resentments about things they read or saw in e-mails--they could not discuss openly like adults. Instead of cultivating trust and discussing personal differences like adults, you go snooping around e-mails? Like you said--then what? I would not even do that to a child not to talk of an adult. |
Re: Is It Okay To Read Your Wife's E-Mails? by ugees(m): 2:02pm On Nov 13, 2007 |
how can u ask your wife for her password?, what happened to trust? |
Re: Is It Okay To Read Your Wife's E-Mails? by somze(f): 2:04pm On Nov 13, 2007 |
It may be possible that there exist a trust problem in the relationship hence the question about email passwords. If either party is truly guiltless then the simple thing would be to submit the password and lay the issue to rest. Once again I emphasize that you hide things only if you HAVE to hide them. If you are clean then there's NO reason to fret about your email. almondjoy:Simple . . . I have proved my self trustworthy. almondjoy:I never made all these claims my dear. Please do not put any words in my mouth. I NEVER said I sign all the cheques . . . I said I sign MY cheque. Who signs your cheque abeg? I never said I am the only one that is in need of breaks or holidays. As a matter of fact the holiday reference was meant for her since you so claimed her email was her ONLY getaway joint. Na wa o, how do you read sef? I highlighted a word in your post up there. You may want to stick to points and leave out personal attacks dear . . . not good for your health almondjoy:Why can't we have the two of them? Why can't we have the discussion and the email? And why must reading your wife's email (of which she gave you the password) be termed snooping around? |
Re: Is It Okay To Read Your Wife's E-Mails? by angel101(f): 2:50pm On Nov 13, 2007 |
I just cant stop laughing. I didnt realise some men still think like somze. |
Re: Is It Okay To Read Your Wife's E-Mails? by almondjoy(f): 3:00pm On Nov 13, 2007 |
angel101: Can you imagine? And he says I am the one with "issues"!!! somze: EEWO!!!!!!! I give it to you. For once in my life I am wordless! You are a huge joke. Keep dreaming oh! Please come back to Nairaland I say and tell us what's up in about 10 years. ugees: You need to ask awon Somze that! |
Re: Is It Okay To Read Your Wife's E-Mails? by Nobody: 3:43pm On Nov 13, 2007 |
og2711: You are a man's man. Please take these young 'uns under your tutelage. ugees: Another manly man. Chukwu gozie gi (God bless you) Somze my brother,please lighten up a little we are not saying a woman ought to be secretive we are saying,she ought not to be disrespected. Like I said earlier,I have asked my "oga" on several ocassions to reply an email or print out something from my email. But I know he will not open my email at his leisure and begin reading them. That would be wrong. Any woman that walks into a room and sees her email on the screen and her husband rummaging through them ought to be very concerned. That is a man trying to control you. And it ain't right! |
Re: Is It Okay To Read Your Wife's E-Mails? by almondjoy(f): 3:51pm On Nov 13, 2007 |
Thank you nwando--it is all about control not out of concern or love. |
Re: Is It Okay To Read Your Wife's E-Mails? by Nobody: 4:28pm On Nov 13, 2007 |
almondjoy: My sister that's all we are saying. Reading email or not reading email is not the issue. The underlying factor is a man trying to keep his wife "under control" like she were some caged anumanu Can you imagine your hubby walking in and after a bowl of eba and egusi soup with stockfish and mangala ,he sends it down with a can of chilled coca cola and with an air of authority,he announces E he Nne,what is that your email password ? or he says,"by the way who is darlington @yahoo.com and where do you know him from? Knowing you almondjoy,that man should be prepared to regurgitate that egusi soup complete with the kpomo and shaki in the "jambalaya". ROFL. |
Re: Is It Okay To Read Your Wife's E-Mails? by Nobody: 4:41pm On Nov 13, 2007 |
angel101: My sister,don't be shocked. I have heard all sorts here on nairaland. I believe in a woman respecting and loving her man I also believe the man owes her the same. That's what love is. It's demeaning to treat a woman like a child and no woman should settle for a pediatric treatment. A man demanding your email is way out there.What for? It doesn't sound right by any stretch. Igbos say when you make yourself a banana,you shall surely be licked. The ladies ought to respect themselves,then they'll be respected. |
Re: Is It Okay To Read Your Wife's E-Mails? by omoge(f): 4:48pm On Nov 13, 2007 |
Almondjoy made me laugh real hard i laugh tire o. @ Frankie you tight hand with money but ask for password eh? |
Re: Is It Okay To Read Your Wife's E-Mails? by omoge(f): 4:51pm On Nov 13, 2007 |
Nwando, why darlington dey send mail after marriage sef ? |
Re: Is It Okay To Read Your Wife's E-Mails? by almondjoy(f): 5:51pm On Nov 13, 2007 |
ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha! Please! I hope you tell your beautiful wife that you peep through the key whole while she is taking a dump! Or is this before you got married?
Uesless man! How won't you hide your money? Spending all your wife's money on "short time" joints! I hope your wife knows this too! Errrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr? Or is this before you got married? Or is this where you found your beautiful wife? In a 5-Star hotel or motel 6? Five star hotel? Who dash awo coat? Mr. Transparency!!!!!! ---Body explorations!!!!! --Psycho! |
Re: Is It Okay To Read Your Wife's E-Mails? by Nobody: 6:03pm On Nov 13, 2007 |
omoge: darlington could be my brother,it could be my cousin,could be a classmate,a colleague,could be a childhood neighbor or my investor A woman's entire life does not terminate after marriage. She should of course be faithful and trustworthy but she shouldn't be followed around like a suspect. I still keep in touch with my high school and college classmates thanks to the internet and the contents of their mail is no secret at all. But does that make it okay for oga kpatakpata to log in while I'm sleeping and read through? A resounding NO. |
(1) (2) (3) (4) (5) (6) (7) (8) (9) (Reply)
Free IWP VPS Server / Download Unlimitedly With Mtn Bis Subscription On Your Pc (101% Working) / Simpleserver Plus Mtn Bis On Android And Pc
(Go Up)
Sections: politics (1) business autos (1) jobs (1) career education (1) romance computers phones travel sports fashion health religion celebs tv-movies music-radio literature webmasters programming techmarket Links: (1) (2) (3) (4) (5) (6) (7) (8) (9) (10) Nairaland - Copyright © 2005 - 2024 Oluwaseun Osewa. All rights reserved. See How To Advertise. 149 |