This female friend of mine is very much in love with another guy who I just know casually but not so close to him.

According to my friend (the female), this guy is a 'near' perfect gentle man and extremely responsible. He doesn't flirt, drink, womanize or any of those social vices. He is also very domesticated as she says, he is a very good cook and homely person.

Though they are of different religion, she doesn't mind as she doesn't want to lose this particular man. According to her, few men of is kind still exist in this part of the world.

Her major problem is even though this guy has a very good heart and can go the lent of dropping his last kobo for someone in need, he is quick tempered.

She said she doesn't ever see him as someone that would go physical or violent. But little things can get him upset, which will then change his contenance. She said he will either leave her in the living room and go to either of his rooms to stay, or remain with her but start playing with his phones, latptop or ipad.

He doesn't like argument or quarrel. He can sacrifice his football match for her to watch style tv but mostly gets upset at comments she makes and acts like intentionally wearing footware around his apartment (which he detest) or not locking the door immediately behind her (he complains of mosquitos).


Aside his being quick tempered, she considers him a very near perfect man.

What can she do to help him change or stop making him upset?

Tell him to start drinking

change a grown man?
Impossible!
If she can live with him the way he is...and pray for change over time,fine!
If she can't make she waka!
She CANNOT change him!

Pls pass him down


Roll eyes and grabs keyboard. Near perfect man u said. So she wants him perfect abi? How many men are close to that description? No man is and can ever be perfect. If you love someone or want to love someone, you have to try and understand them and then appreciate them. If you can deal with the good and not so good(in ur own definition cos ppls taste differ) then u stay with them. If you can't then scoot.

For some other woman that's the perfect man and for another he might be described as having OCD.

So ur friend shd choose and not try to change the poor guy

kitty kat: Pls pass him down


Roll eyes and grabs keyboard. Near perfect man u said. So she wants him perfect abi? How many men are close to that description? No man is and can ever be perfect. If you love someone or want to love someone, you have to try and understand them and then appreciate them. If you can deal with the good and not so good(in ur own definition cos ppls taste differ) then u stay with them. If you can't then scoot.

For some other woman that's the perfect man and for another he might be described as having OCD.

So ur friend shd choose and not try to change the poor guy

Exactly the same thing I told her.

@op, if u'r truly in love wt this dudu then learn to manage him, no one is perfect.

What nonsense are you all talking about? I feel like i'm the one being talk about here. Why would the OP wear a footwear around the house? Why wont you shut the door behind you when you enter the house? The few reasons mentioned here shows its her fault that he gets angry. And people who haven't heard the guy's side of the story are saying manage him. Nonsense.

stereo: What nonsense are you all talking about? I feel like i'm the one being talk about here. Why would the OP wear a footwear around the house? Why wont you shut the door behind you when you enter the house? The few reasons mentioned here shows its her fault that he gets angry. And people who haven't heard the guy's side of the story are saying manage him. Nonsense.

True talk!
But people will say the guy should be a little patient.

acidtalk: This female friend of mine is very much in love with another guy who I just know casually but not so close to him.
She said she doesn't ever see him as someone that would go physical or violent.

She's harboring a potential abuser. They never see it.

What's love got to do, got to do with it?

Tinax: @op, if u'r truly in love wt this dudu then learn to manage him, no one is perfect.

Ileke-IdI:


She's harboring a potential abuser. They never see it.

maybe she is actually the one abusing him.

acidtalk: maybe she is actually the one abusing him.

How can that be?

Mynd_44:
How can that be?

I know u

kitty kat:
I know u

Tell me where nah. So we can know each other better

Mynd_44:
How can that be?

Some Psychological and. Emotional abuses are way worse that physical abuses.

Some women will prefer their husbands to beat them that his consistent and endless flirting around.

Ileke-IdI:


She's harboring a potential abuser. They never see it.

Until it is too late!

acidtalk:

Some Psychological and. Emotional abuses are way worse that physical abuses.

Some women will prefer their husbands to beat them that his consistent and endless flirting around.

That's another angle to it

Compromise or leave him for someone who will.

ogugua88: Compromise or leave him for someone who will.

I don't believe in compromise

Mynd_44: I don't believe in compromise

Okay. Lol.

ogugua88:

Okay. Lol.

You signature is something else. But I think the word is from Latin. "illuminus"

That description almost fits my man but the difference is he wouldn't leave football for nothing in the world and once you realize,admit your mistake and apologize,its all over.

Sometimes i don't even do as if i notice that he's angry,he just snaps out of it and he doesn't stay mad for long.

I tell ya his types are easy to be with,all you need do is avoid doing those little things that gets him angry.

Mynd_44: You signature is something else. But I think the word is from Latin. "illuminus"

I no know o. That's all they discuss in Celeb section. They wan make pesin go mad.

Wat else do u want?he avoids u when he's angry,he let's u knw what he detest,he's close 2 perfection.im readin dis wif my cousin & she wants u 2 hook her up wif d guy.u shld b contented wif wat God has given u.alayinitelorun

temmy6996: Wat else do u want?he avoids u when he's angry,he let's u knw what he detest,he's close 2 perfection.im readin dis wif my cousin & she wants u 2 hook her up wif d guy.u shld b contented wif wat God has given u.alayinitelorun

Believe me people don't know what they have until its all gone.


Send your cousin's biodata (age, profession, religion). Even if she doesn't have that particular guy, she will certainly meet someone better.

All that glitters is not always gold. I have a relative that was once married to a man with similar attributes. Near perfect, no drink, no womanising etc, domesticated, spick and span kind of guy, too detailed to a fault. It turned out the guy was gay @the end of the day

Bisexual you mean? But its not in all cases.some people are just naturally cal with a deep sense of belonging and the fear of God.

Simplechic: All that glitters is not always gold. I have a relative that was once married to a man with similar attributes. Near perfect, no drink, no womanising etc, domesticated, spick and span kind of guy, too detailed to a fault. It turned out the guy was gay @the end of the day

Shocking

@op

just run

diluminati: @op

just run

And run fast

*Running at the speed of light*

Lol!