Dear readers,
I met this fulani girl one day at work. She works where I work ( a large multinational company)...there are too many ppl so you dont know everyone. I met her at the exit one of the days...she was leaving and i was leaving...I held the swivel door for her to pass through. She thanked me and walked past. I followed her. She was dressed and wrapped up properly and you could tell she is muslim. I asked where she was going and she told me. I offered her a ride in my car...she politely declined. I insisted and told her I was going her way, so it makes sense to drop her off. She relented and agreed to ride with me. I dropped her off. We talked and I told her about myself. I took her number and the next day I also dropped her off. It's become a routine now. She calls me whenever she finishes and we go together. I began to develop feelings for her. I've told her am a Christian. We've not spoken so much at length but I now send her text messages. She told me she likes me very much. Just yesterday she told me she thinks about me very much. She's so beautiful and cute. I don't know what to do. Day before yesterday I placed my hand on her lap and she did not take it off or complain. She got me a poster the other day as present. We now exchange presents. I offered her money yesterday and she declined. She told me she doesnt want my money. I can tell she misses me very much anyday. She called me one weekend and I can tell she was missing me. She tells me too. I'm in a fix people. What do I do? I'm a devoted born again Christian but men, for the first time and caught in this kind of stuff...can someone advise me?

Thanks

story.... Wnt bother a read!!! Its ur choice....

Chances are in the end, it won't work!
Walk away before it gets deeper than this!

u dont need to smell wat u wont likely eat so sit up & decide wat u want.

why bringing christianity into your adulterous and fornicating mindset for goodness sake?

just tell your fake story without mentioning that or is this too hard to do.

and why cant you claim juju religion you dense thing?

tpia@:
why bringing christianity into your adulterous and fornicating mindset for goodness sake?

just tell your fake story without mentioning that or is this too hard to do.

and why cant you claim juju religion you dense thing?

what is this BLAH?

I know couples from different religions that live very happily together so its not impossible. Why don't you discuss your problem with her, I am sure she has the same fears. I don't think you are wrong in wanting to give it a try but for this to work but of you need to openly discuss this issue otherwise you'll end up with a broken heart or the annoying feeling of 'what if'. Nothing wrong in seeking counsel from your church. Its your choice in the end.

where is fulaman (sp??)?

U guys shld talk abt it n see how it goes....

ijebabe: I know couples from different religions that live very happily together so its not impossible. Why don't you discuss your problem with her, I am sure she has the same fears. I don't think you are wrong in wanting to give it a try but for this to work but of you need to openly discuss this issue otherwise you'll end up with a broken heart or the annoying feeling of 'what if'. Nothing wrong in seeking counsel from your church. Its your choice in the end.

I would want to go with this and then, it depends on how liberal your mind is when it comes to religion though.

Goodnews is thst it can wrk depending on how liberal she and her family are (which I doubt). Why did u have to put your hands on her lap? Is that a test or something.

i liked the part where you put your hand on her lap. the image brought back great memories of youth and gave me a semi.
(Nkechi!, please come here now)

back to topic
the only way it can work is if both of you face reality and abandon jewish/arab fairytales.

slimyem: Chances are in the end, it won't work!
Walk away before it gets deeper than this!

how much deeper do u expect it 2 get. The man is already hooked like a fish.
@ poster, u get 2 come 2 a decision now. U got 2 decide if she is what u want. U got 2 consider the religion too. It may work in some places (I know a man who is christian and the wife muslim) but may not work in others. Once u´ve decided then u got 2 ask her directly. She obviusly likes u. A lady must really like u b4 she allows u place ur hand on her lap without complaining. The ball is in ur court.

drnoel:

how much deeper do u expect it 2 get. The man is already hooked like a fish.

they have only exchanged a few message and calls.
They haven't had any dates,they haven't kissed,they have no fond memories!
He is not hooked YET!
Its all just initial attraction!
Better end it now than later when it becomes harder to leave!

GboyegaD:

I would want to go with this and then, it depends on how liberal your mind is when it comes to religion though.

That is why I have insisted they both talk about this if he wants to pursue this relationship. What if they are really compatible and talks of marriage ensues? (I know i'm getting way over myself there ). It is possible if they can both respect each others faith and be open-minded. I have friends who have had 2 or 3 weddings just because they were trying to please both families! It's crazy but they knew it had to be done.

slimyem: they have only exchanged a few message and calls.
They haven't had any dates,they haven't kissed,they have no fond memories!
He is not hooked YET!
Its all just initial attraction!
Better end it now than later when it becomes harder to leave!

what was his hand doing on her lap, why did she not resist the advance? If u ask me they have already done everything in their head but are both too scared do it physically.

Shake it off.

Wow..today I dropped her off again and guess what? I popped the question. Would you be my gf? The answer was a resounding yes. I told her that ave been trying to tell her about this all this while but not had the liver. She laughed. I guess this was romantic to say. She asked me whether I was afraid of what her reaction would be, I said yes. She now said "Let's give it a try". She's going out with me on saturday. I feel over the moon. Wow. I cant believe it men.

Gud 4u, hope it works out

I think the major problem is that she is Fulani & not that she is a muslim.
Someone should please remind me how many stroke of d cane the groom must receive before marrying a Fulani girl.

please let us know how the date goes.
Every detail is important o.

Guy it wont work, you people should stop deceiving yourselves. You both need to have a long mature chat. And stop this daily drop-off

PIANO2000: Wow..today I dropped her off again and guess what? I popped the question. Would you be my gf? The answer was a resounding yes. I told her that ave been trying to tell her about this all this while but not had the liver. She laughed. I guess this was romantic to say. She asked me whether I was afraid of what her reaction would be, I said yes. She now said "Let's give it a try". She's going out with me on saturday. I feel over the moon. Wow. I cant believe it men.

Hope you have thought through it well enough so that you don't get in too deep and now bring up religious issues. I would suggest you try to shut your emotions and have some critical thinking before Saturday.

Logic Mind: i liked the part where you put your hand on her lap. the image brought back great memories of youth and gave me a semi.
(Nkechi!, please come here now)

back to topic
the only way it can work is if both of you face reality and abandon jewish/arab fairytales.

Badt guy! U dey remember ur old moves bah?

@poster,D both of u ar jst thinking wit ur hrt n nt ur head..wel,u can date her if u want 2,bt chances ar dat u wont marry her..as a christian i blv u hv read d part of d bible dat sayz u shud nt be unequally yokd wit unblivers,its eida she joins u or u join her..

Piano, piano.....how many time I call u
Do not let ur lust put u at risk of being boko haramed.

Walai talai,.... this is not " sleeping wt 2 sisters,1 married, the other single oo"
or married man having an affair on the side.

Don't kid ourselves, once eaten the forbidden fruit, your body will " correct itself".

A word is nuf 4 d wise, I'm told.

bamosagie: I think the major problem is that she is Fulani & not that she is a muslim.
Someone should please remind me how many stroke of d cane the groom must receive before marrying a Fulani girl.

1000 strokes of the cane my brother n I hope his ajebutter nyash can bear it. Lol... OP my guy,there,s nuttin wrong in u marrying a fulani muslim... Think fulani think boko harm.

Slimyem is on the money here.

maclatunji: Slimyem is on the money here.

shut up crawl back to your boko haram section.

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