She seems to be happy with him. Is it unusual to find unmarried Naija men that old with no wife and kids? They both live here in the US.

it is possible but qustions should be directed to him

You hit the nail on the head,"she seems to be happy with him" If she's happy and his happy and single at 39 with no kid, more grease to his elbows.Girl why you all up in there business

^^^ because I think he is full of baloney and he is lying to her.I wont outline the facts here for reasons of anonymity, but the factors just dont add up. Even she is not 100% convinced

you think he's too old to be single of something?

No it's not unusual.

Well,de man is not 2 late,de man is not hurry in life,afterall life begings at 40.

Ok, I guess so. I'll leave it alone then.

I guess its best that way. Bugging people about getting married can lead them into making mistakes

There is no big deal about being unmarried at 39. In my tribe alot of men get married well into their 30's
I have a cousin who recently got married at about 45. Another got married around 36 or so. They had no previous wives or kids
Just let them be.

Uh, I think it's kind of odd and different. But odd & different does NOT mean bad. I have an aunt & uncle (not blood relations but they're from my place) and he's like 20yrs or so older than her. He doesn't look it but she was like 17/18 when they married and he was like 35-38 or so. He'd lived in the US for many yrs and had no previous wife or kids. They've been happily married the whole time from what I can tell and from what I've heard. THey have 2 lovely sons and are quite social and confident in the community. So odd situations bred good things.

The "things don't add up" part is of some concern. I think your problem is that you don't think he's being completely honest & that has nothing to do w/ age.

@ funloving
45? really? were they any extenuating circumstances around this? just wondering. . .

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@ funloving
45? really? were they any extenuating circumstances around this? just wondering. . .

Well,he had a Nigerian girl friend who later duped and disappointed him when he was in South Korea and the Korean girls do not marry foreigners in their land. He had to go back to Nigeria before he could find another girl to marry. He was in South Korea for a pretty long while.

So your nationality doesnt allow you a choice to be unmarried?