slimyem: i hate stingy guys and would rather be alone than be in a relationship with one...
Your gf's emphasis is on 'on several occassions'.
Do you think you are stingy?
Are you trying to play the 'don't fall mugun' game?
If she really needs something she can't afford and you can,why not?
Its not like its everyday she asks you to help out with something..is it?
Every woman want a man who can be truly sympathetic to her needs not one who makes mockery of them..
The rest is in your hands...

Idowuogbo: Y is she ranting? Did u make it clear to her u were teasing? Regardless u playing or not, her comments were harsh. One question, is ur babe proud? It is very dangerous to b d spouse of a proud individual because all the family is labouring for may be destroyed through the pride of the fellow.Dat said, I am only drawing emphasis on pride cus she seems d type.U make a joke and she comes coughing dat hard? Dude evaluate b4 u put a ring on it o!

4wardever:

Do you think you are stingy?

My answer is no. I am a giver and will always be. Infact, there many obligations that I help family and other friends meet. Now that doesnt mean that I do not realise the need to save for the rainy day. The issue is usually when she has high expectations and I do not meet that. At such instance, would you call it stingy? I don't think so.

Are you trying to play the 'don't fall mugun' game?
No. We have gone pass that stage such that anything I spend on her, I believe is also going to affect me too.


Every woman want a man who can be truly sympathetic to her [b]needs not one who makes mockery of them..[/b]

Fine. No man in his right sense would make fun of his woman's needs. I think the women should be more tactical in their approaches when requesting from their men. It is a boost to his ego when he gives to his woman. Infact, before she gave up, she had requested for it many times on phone but I deliberately said no to test her persistence and derive some fun in the process. It did not mean that I was not going to give her. I think some good women should learn from the bad girls, they know how to psyche men up just to get what they want.

joeydozzy: The best thing right now is to surprise her with a gift, not too expensive but what she desires and if she's worth it, she'll forget her moment of being blunt. I wish you good luck bro

Idowuogbo:

She don show herself joor! Abeggg! Buying a gift means u accepting her stunts.

In order words,spoiling a proud character wiv materialistic tins is a form of encouraging d unacceptable.

joeydozzy:

But what if she's sorry. That could come out in a moment of do or tell. that's just my 2 cents. he's trying not to break this relationship not the other way round

Idowuogbo:

Age ain't nothing but a number, d babe still has a lot of growing up to do. Like I said earlier, her response to her bf speaks volume. Pride is a killer wen building something long term.if d said galfriend knew her partner was joking, d whole bin in charge and independent thinking she already possess needs evaluating. D gal was calling shots dat shouldn't b overlooked by d poster, such traits are deadly IMO.

joeydozzy:

Lol u sound like the op's mother. Seriously considering that

Idowuogbo: Y is she ranting? Did u make it clear to her u were teasing? Regardless u playing or not, her comments were harsh. One question, is ur babe proud? It is very dangerous to b d spouse of a proud individual because all the family is labouring for may be destroyed through the pride of the fellow.Dat said, I am only drawing emphasis on pride cus she seems d type.U make a joke and she comes coughing dat hard? Dude evaluate b4 u put a ring on it o!

kilimanjaro:
Is this idowuigbo? Wonders shall continue.

Idowuogbo:
Looolzzzz

Mosofuwontele, Unpredictable and Unbeatable records!

Na me na! Iyalaje connections alias Omonomopa aka gbaskimacious Badosky.

joeydozzy:

Tualé

Idowuogbo:
Looolzzzz

Mosofuwontele, Unpredictable and Unbeatable records!

Na me na! Iyalaje connections alias Omonomopa aka gbaskimacious Badosky.

4wardever: We have been in the relationship for a while now and are both focused on it. Recently, she expected me to pay for an ASO EBI and I told her that I could not though jokingly but she didnt take it as such and poured out her mind that I do not like "taking charge" when it comes to money matters which she had noticed on several occassions and blah blah blah. Because of this, she said she is gradually making up her mind to live as an independent woman when we eventually get married.
In the middle of her rantings, she said that she had even seen her father treat her mum like that on several occassions.

I tried many things to make her see otherwise and even went as far as reminding her of a particular gadget that I had promised to her cos she needed it badly and could not afford it. Pls house, what should I do?

Thoughtful responses pls.

Idowuogbo:

Tuale recognito

Sempe baba!

kilimanjaro:
Jawon laya badosky. U try! Never knew u could be that fluent.

Idowuogbo:
So u think na only una sabi blow ngbatic Harvard abi? Am full of surprises jiZzy!

bennyraz: Dis one na true wahala o! Idowuogbo thumbs up.. But when a woman lays so much ''emphasis'' on stingyness, obviously she's meeting/seeing high spenders through friends, relations e.t.c meaning she's wants to set a monetary relationship with the poster. A woman that isn't contented/thankful with what she has is no good for a blissful union. And again, she wants to be financially independent in marriage, why not start now? Charity they say begins at home. Must she milk you now?