Females, would you refuse to date a guy if you know he has cheated on an ex before?

Lets put it into 2 scenarios:

- Lets say it was over 5 years ago when he cheated only once.

- Then what if he was a serial cheat in the past but has been "clean" in his last 2 relationships of the past 5 years.

Ladies please address the 2 scenarios. I know the former is better than the latter but I want to know possibilities for both.

Let the replies start nah

^^the op's question is warped kinda!

This is a deal breaker.

Once a cheat, always a cheat. IMO

La Parisienne: This is a deal breaker.

Once a cheat, always a cheat. IMO

So his offences in past relationships hold sway for the present one? Omo see wahala

i wont judge him wit his past but i wont trust him either, He has to earn it... No its not a relationship stopper. I ll give him a try...maybe cz i ve dis tin 4 bad boys gone good

Mynd_44:
So his offences in past relationships hold sway for the present one? Omo see wahala

Yes nah, a leopard will never change it spots.

It takes strong will power to change from being a cheat. IMO

La Parisienne:

Yes nah, a leopard will never change it spots.

It takes strong will power to change from being a cheat. IMO

Remind me never to toast you

La Parisienne: This is a deal breaker.

Once a cheat, always a cheat. IMO

So between a guy like the above and a guy that has never had a serious or long-term relationship (at, lets say, 28 years old plus), which would you choose?

I wonder why ID and mama chima havent seen this thread...

See Resume. Assessment based on past performance on job hahahaha.

Mynd_44:
Remind me never to toast you

Are you a serial cheat

Lol

Sagamite:
So between a guy like the above and a guy that has never had a serious or long-term relationship (at, lets say, 28 years old plus), which would you choose?

I'll choose none. But if the human male is becoming extinct and they are the last men on earth, I'll choose OP's first case scenario. That is, the guy who only cheated once over 5 years ago.

Btw, the second guy you described, what's his story? Does he have a phobia for commitment or he has never met the right person to have a serious relationship with?

I could answer better if I know his story.

La Parisienne:

I'll choose none. But if the human male is becoming extinct and they are the last men on earth, I'll choose OP's first case scenario. That is, the guy who only cheated once over 5 years ago.

Btw, the second guy you described, what's his story? Does he have a phobia for commitment or he has never met the right person to have a serious relationship with?

I could answer better if I know his story.

Just never been interested or made interested. Some were because he wanted fun, some were because he was being picky. A mix and mash.

The girls he has met have never been worth committing to and as he does not cheat he ends it when he feels it is time and then moves on.

Compare him with OP 1st on their own for choice you will make.

Then compare him with OP 2nd on their own for choice you will make.

Which one would you go for in both cases?

Sagamite:

Just never been interested or made interested. Some were because he wanted fun, some were because he was being picky. A mix and mash.

The girls he has met have never been worth committing to and as he does not cheat he ends it when he feels it is time and then moves on.

Compare him with OP 1st on their own for choice you will make.

Then compare him with OP 2nd on their own for choice you will make.

Which one would you go for in both cases?

Stop telling us the pitiful story of your life, uncle saka. Go offline and get a girl for chrissakes. It isn't so hard

Kevin_II:

Stop telling us the pitiful story of your life, uncle saka. Go offline and get a girl for chrissakes. It isn't so hard

person, go and take customers' calls. Maybe one day you will make enough money to go to university instead of lie about it.

Sagamite:

Just never been interested or made interested. Some were because he wanted fun, some were because he was being picky. A mix and mash.

The girls he has met have never been worth committing to and as he does not cheat he ends it when he feels it is time and then moves on.

Compare him with OP 1st on their own for choice you will make.

Then compare him with OP 2nd on their own for choice you will make.

Which one would you go for in both cases?

Well, sounds like the guy you described is a sincere person. That for me is a good point.

I'll choose him over the other guys who have a history of cheating.

But before I agree to date hiim, I'll definitely have series of frank discussions with him. I'll need to be certain that he truly wants to be with me and that he is ready for commitment.

Who knows, with hard work and commitment, there could be a fairy tale ending. Lol

La Parisienne:

Well, sounds like the guy you described is a sincere person. That for me is a good point.

I'll choose him over the other guys who have a history of cheating.

But before I agree to date hiim, I'll definitely have series of frank discussions with him. I'll need to be certain that he truly wants to be with me and that he is ready for commitment.

Who knows, with hard work and commitment, there could be a fairy tale ending. Lol

That looked too easy. Let me spice it up.

So you would choose him even though he has dated over 30 girls before he was 28 and always has se[i]x[/i] with them before breaking up? You would still choose him over the other 2?

kay9: I wonder why ID and mama chima havent seen this thread...

i don land!

poster, i'll date both cus i believe in change.

The truth is they are humans and the fact they owned up to being a cheat before doesn't mean they won't be a cheat again if given the chance and if they still lack self discipline & vice versa
The fact is I can do both, whats the assurance that the next clean dude who has never cheated won't come out of the blue & cheat on me?
People change and in most cases it is for real.

La Parisienne:
Are you a serial cheat

Lol

Not that. Just that if you can be so frigid about past behaviours, Lawd knows what else you are rigid about

y me: The truth is they are humans and the fact they owned up to being a cheat before doesn't mean they won't be a cheat again if given the chance and if they still lack self discipline & vice versa
The fact is I can do both, whats the assurance that the next clean dude who has never cheated won't come out of the blue & cheat on me?
People change and in most cases it is for real.

dats my asanwa! la parista is high o!

her guy don nack housegal tire sef

y me: The truth is they are humans and the fact they owned up to being a cheat before doesn't mean they won't be a cheat again if given the chance and if they still lack self discipline & vice versa
The fact is I can do both, whats the assurance that the next clean dude who has never cheated won't come out of the blue & cheat on me?
People change and in most cases it is for real.

What about the serial dater/shagger I described above in multiple posts?

Idowuogbo:

dats my asanwa! la parista is high o!

her guy don nack housegal tire sef

And you too. Answer.

Sagamite:

That looked too easy. Let me spice it up.

So you would choose him even though he has dated over 30 girls before he was 28 and always has se[i]x[/i] with them before breaking up? You would still choose him over the other 2?

Lol@spicing the question up

30 women .

Hope he used protection sha, and his health is pure

I'll choose him, at least he is sincere about his life. He didn't cheat on anybody.

But before commiting to him, mehn I really need to be sure of his motive

Sagamite:

So between a guy like the above and a guy that has never had a serious or long-term relationship (at, lets say, 28 years old plus), which would you choose?

are u referring to the above question?

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Idowuogbo:

dats my asanwa! la parista is high o!

her guy don nack housegal tire sef

Somebody wants to dieeeeeeee. That kind house gal, I go give am walk and die. That is, while walking, she'll suddenly stand and die without falling

Thank goodness, I dont believe in live-in house gals. Visiting house keepers more like

La Parisienne:

Somebody wants to dieeeeeeee. T[b]hat kind house gal, I go give am walk and die. That is, she walk'll and suddenly stand and die without falling[/b]

Thank goodness, I dont believe in live-in house gals. Visiting house keepers more like

roftlmaoooo!!!

u need drip i swear!

Sagamite:

What about the serial dater/shagger I described above in multiple posts?



And you too. Answer.

Call me crazy but I will definitely go for him
That means he is over skilled in the sexual department , damn! free lessons
actually that won't stop me from dating him, so far I know this time HE IS MINE AND MINE ALONE

Mynd_44:
Not that. Just that if you can be so frigid about past behaviours, Lawd knows what else you are rigid about

Lol. I'm not frigid, just anti bullshiit

I'm the sweetest woman God has ever created, go figure

y me:
are u referring to the above question?

Yep! These ones:

www.nairaland.com/951958/man-cheated-before-past-relationship#10981797
www.nairaland.com/951958/man-cheated-before-past-relationship#10984381
www.nairaland.com/951958/man-cheated-before-past-relationship#10984731