Relationships seminar by:- 

Dr. David Molapo and wife Dr. Mamiki Molapo

 


7 WRONG REASONS to be in a relationship


 


1.        Pressure


2.        Age


3.        Loneliness


4.        Desperation (this is dangerous coz you end up compromising your values)


5.        You are on a rescue mission


6.        You are starving for sex


7.        You do not have hunger for God


 


7 Little facts on the dating game


 


1.        Pursue God and not a man


Jesus Christ is the only one who promises to supply all your needs. You end up with the wrong man because he is saying all the right things to you.


 


2.        Don't be anxious to get married


We want to get married so badly. Have you ever asked yourself WHY DO YOU


WANT TO GET MARRIED in the first place? If you don't ask yourself this


question, you might marry the wrong person and it is going to COST you.


 


3.        Look for God's timing


If it's not God's timing, chilex!!


 


4.       Go fishing in the right pond


The rationale behind this is that, once you begin encountering problems in your    relationship (coz they will come), you can just ask the Holy Spirit to speak to him on your behalf. It's not easy. She referred us to II Corinthians 6:14 Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers. For what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness...


 


5.        Develop the qualities you seek in a mate


Write them down but cultivate them first in you.


 


6.        Cut your losses early


The sooner you find out that the person you're with lacks some of your


values,  e.g. finding out that you are not the only one he loves, CUT IT


OFF RIGHT THERE, because otherwise you will start begging him, trying to


compete and you will start opening yourself up for abuse. It doesn't get


better, it only gets worse. Not worth it!!


 


7.      Don’t try to make a relationship


Don't try to force a relationship


Don't say things like, Will you be coming to see me?


When are you coming to see me? Please come see me. It's not your place.


Don't try to buy a relationship


Don't buy a man expensive gifts.


 


10 things women want in a relationship


1.        Faithfulness


2.        Leadership


3.        Respect


4.        Family man


5.        A provider


6.        Honesty (security- that cell phone thing, I want to be free


to answer my man's phone)


When you have been found out, admit it. It's all she wants. There is one


thing we people should know, the devil cannot destroy us. The only thing


he can do is destruct us and we destroy ourselves. Guys, there is


nothing

as dangerous as AN UNDERSTANDING WOMAN (extramarital affair).


 


7.        Communication


Communicate with your woman like you used to during courtship and the


first days. Be sincere, kind, loving and straightforward like you used to be. Make love with her mind before making love with her body.


 


8.       Sense of humour


Don't be rigid man. Don't be too serious. Don't have this attitude


of: "I'm always right, I'm a man."


 


9.       Romance


Keep the spark, dine, go to movies, and go to church together.


 


10.     A Godly man


It is easy to submit under a man who fears God.


 


NB: WOMAN, NOTE ALL THESE THINGS WHILE YOU'RE DATING. RUNAWAY QUICKLY IF


THEY AREN'T THERE, BEFORE YOU COMMITT!!


 


10 things men want in a relationship (What you women should offer)


 


1.        Sexual fulfilment


 


2.       Recreational playmate


Go to things together! Even golf, if he asks. Woman, force yourself if


You don’t want. He wants to be with you. Who do you want him to go with if not you? Do not say you're tired you want to remain home, cook, etc. Go!!
 


3.       Beautiful wife


He wants a beautiful wife & not a beautiful

knife who will say things


that will kill his ego. Stop comparing him to your past boyfriends.


Don't come to him with i-calamine lotion because you know he knows


you're beautiful without it. Be that beautiful woman he met.


 


 


 


4.          Committed home-maker
You cannot always have an auntie cooking for your man.


 


5.       Men want to be admired


6.       A woman of moral virtue


7.       Sense of humour


Don't be too spiritual woman! There's time to pray and there's time to


play.


8.       Intelligent woman


Grow yourself still. Don’t stop studying because you are married, study!!. It's


not the end of things. Another thing is don't be ignorant. Know what’s happening around the world. Know about sports,


know about politics, government initiatives, business, etc. Be


engage-able in such discussions.


9.       Trustworthiness


It’s very unfair but it happens and we can't help it. men expect


second and third chances when found out and you do afford us those


chances but for you woman, it’s not easy for men to forgive and forget


just like that. You get cought, out of my house & my heart.  Klaar!!
 


10.        To be treated as a King.


 


DAY 2 (FOR MARRIED PEOPLE)


 


How do you treasure your spouse when you're faced with the night?


I Corinthians 13: Love is...


 


Think positively about your spouse (overlook the weak points & accentuate the strong ones).  Respect your spouse (in every possible way, don't impose, wait for invitation).


Enjoy your spouse (Do things together, Proverbs 5:18). Attend to your spouse's needs (Put your spouse before your family). Shield your spouse (Protect one another. Don't talk


negatively about your spouse amongst your family. If someone in your family is saying something bad about your spouse, know that they are not telling that to build but to destroy your relationship. If they care so much about it, they'd approach your spouse and correct him/her and not you. Unless s/he doesn't want to listen. Understand what your spouses' needs are. Romance (flowers, songs, dinner, movies, etc) Edify one another.


 


*        In a relationship you do not give 50/50 but 100/100.


 


*        Don't withhold because you were disappointed in your past relationships.


 


12 ways on how to communicate with a woman


(How to bring out the best in her)


 


1.        Talk to her, not at her


2.        Listen to her and care about fulfilling her needs


3.        Be sensitive and caring


4.        Be co-operative


5.        Re-assure and comfort her


6.        Keep your sexual energies invested in her (make love!!) (

FOR MARRIED PEOPLE)


7.        Stay connected and don't shut her out


8.        Compliment and appreciate her


9.        Communicate with her clearly


10.      Keep your commitments.


11.      Pay your attention to her


12.      Keep her informed.


 


Things every woman should know about a man


 


1.        Men are focused and want communication


 


2.        Men are logical; give them an agenda when you want to talk to them.


 


3.      Sometimes ladies think out loud & men misinterpret this and think we talk too much. Discuss your way of communication.


 


4.      Sometimes we blame men for being insensitive. Go slowly when


you express your feelings.


 


Anger - Watch out


 


ANGER is one letter away from DANGER


 


Proverbs 15:1 A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.


 


*        Admit it. Tell yourself that "I can never conquer anything unless I confront it"


 


*        Deal with your anger immediately


 


*        Think before you speak James 1:19-20


 


*        Seek God's guidance and control.

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all this are theories. practicals don't turn out to be so khuki

bennyraz: all this are theories. practicals don't turn out to be so khuki

Yeah that's why its titled as a seminar : which is generally, a form of academic instruction, either at an academic institution or offered by a commercial or professional organization.

Take the "advice" or Do not, its entirely up to u.

khukhi:

Yeah that's why its titled as a seminar : which is generally, a form of academic instruction, either at an academic institution or offered by a commercial or professional organization.

Take the "advice" or Do not, its entirely up to u.

are you part of the organizers??

And I am suppose to read all that?? Seriously? Maka why nah?

Wer's d table of contnt

Too long. There is no way in heaven, earth or hell I am going to read that

Poster, that your article too long .can you post the short edition.

I lost interest at 7 wrong reasons to be in a relationship